would u forgive

first, It would depend on what the "bad things" she did to you were.

i guess I can't really elaborate on that without specifics.

Of course I don't know your situation but I will share mine. My sister has been running away, doing drugs, and just being terrible since she was 11. She is now 25 with 3 kids, 2 of which she doesn't even have. She has a boyfriend who hasn't worked in over 4 years and who also beats her up and was horrible to her children that weren’t his. She has no money and no friends. She has bounced back and forth from state to state with another guy and always comes back to this loser. She has caused so much drama within our family. As in she will talk to me and twist what I say and blatantly lie to someone else which in turn starts a fight. She got drunk one night and pushed my mother down and all I saw was blood. I went CRAZY and beat the hell out of her. My mothers got 10 staples in her head that night and had to lay out of work. Her kids and my other nieces saw all of this. Now at 5 and 6 years old the kids we asking why mommy and their aunt was acting this way. What do you tell a little kid? Anyway long story short I have completely cut my sister off. I no longer speak with her at all. I see 2 of her kids as their fathers are decent people. But her son I haven't seen since he was a baby. The last time I saw him he didn't even know me. I am not by any means saying you should cut her off as you did not give details but some people just are NOT worth all the trouble they bring. In my eyes my family’s physical safety is more important that being part of her life. She came over about 3 weeks ago screaming and crying at 4 in the morning and tried to cut herself. My mom grabbed the knife and she wrestled with her. She could have been cut herself. I look at things like this and just say she is NOT worth her trouble. Anyway my point is that is a personal decision you have to make based upon what she did and how it affected not only YOU but your entire family. NO one can make it for you.

The question here isn't whether I would forgive her, but whether you can.

Lots of teenagers and young people say that they hate their parents, but that doesn't always mean that it is true. Likewise many people runaway from home, but as a way to cope themselves. It just depends how much 'crap' you and your family are willing to take. Each situation is different, so it would be foolish of me to tell you one way or another whether you should forgive your sister.

Try talking to her and other family, friends, see why she behaved like this. For example my older sister has done similiar things, but she cannot always control her behaviour as she suffers from aspergers disorder.

Nici

I agree fallen angel.

because she is your sister, you should forgive her...but don't giver her your complete trust or just give your heart back to her. Try to help her atleast because thats what families are for. She may just be calling for attention.

but in the sense of Natalies sis...forgive her in the heart but don't expect anything in return, and don't let her expect anything except your forgiveness. Some people like that are just to gone to be saved.

Nici...not to make fun of your situation but when I read Aspergers I thought of asparagus.

No offence taken Natalie, I guess it does sound similiar lol