what is the big deal???

i want to know what is the big deal with me and my boyfriend............ he is black and i am white and i love him to death shouldn't that be enoguh it should not matter to people as long as we are happy

but i really need help with something........

his mom wants me to tell my parents and my dad does not except it and i need a way to tell them i cant get the wrods to flow out my mouth no matter how much i try to any one can help me in a way to tell them please

Well sweetie, if your dad is like mine, he should be very understanding of your feelings and learn how to accept the fact of your differences. My dad doesnt agree with me dating black people because it makes him feel rather uncomfortable, but when you tell your dad, make sure you throw in "daddy, he just makes me happy" and it should be good. Good luck! ~Ash

see but you did not liek my other boy friend and he was white and i cared for him too but he was 4 years older then me and he was white

but this boy i really love and me and my dad has already talked to me about gonig out with a black guy and he told me he would not except it

i dont know how to make him see that i love him

your dad's a monster. i don't think i could live with a racist

but see i dont really get along with my dad my mom i do sometimes but my dad wants me to go to cali and i dont want cause that means i will move away form him and i cant cause i love him but i know it really is not that big of a deal to me but to him it would be i mean i do care if he knows i just dont want my boyfriend taken away from me

i would go with my heart...i dont really think it matters what color skin a person has your dad shouldnt have anything against him......if you really love your boyfriend your dad would probably understand...if he doesnt i would say sqrew it and go with my boyfriend if it were me my dad would love me not matter why color skin my bf has..i mean come on its not that hard

it really is not that hard just there is something that happened with my last boyfriend that is kinda why i dont want to say and i cant get the words to flow out of my mouth to tell him

Sweetie.. my dad is the same way i know what you mean.. Nothing you say or do will change his oppion of somebody.. he will just have to learn that this black guy makes you happy.. and if he doesnt too bad... your a lady you can make your deciosions for yourself.. and i know its very hard just believe in yourself!

thank you very much for that i am going to tell my mom before i tell my dad but they just keep giving me this look of hatered when he calls and now i am laughing about it casue he does make me really happy and they ARE going to have to live with it

I didn't read this whole thread but I am going to tell you what I think. It’s not a big deal. When I was younger I lived in neighborhoods where there weren’t many white people and went to schools with pretty much the same problem. So being there I made friends with all blacks. In my eyes it was nothing but to my step father it was horrible. He hated it and he hated me for it. We never got a long, he called me hateful names and steered clear of me as much as he could. When I had “boyfriends” I couldn’t tell anyone because he and my mom wouldn’t like that. But when I fell in love I had to. He came to my house and blew my mother away. She fell in love instantly and eventually he grew on my step dad. I couldn't believe for almost 2 years I hid him and snuck around to see him. My mother brags on him all the time and her whole perception of the way she thought then has completely changed. When people say something bad about our relationship she stands strong and yells in our defense. Bring him to meet your family. If HE is what makes you happy then that is all that matters. I'm getting married to this guy that I was so afraid to bring home and my entire family will be attending the wedding....lol

hey i want to say thank you for what you just said that hit me really hard............ cause i might only be 15 but i could and want to spend my life with him i cant stand not bing with him i hope that yuor wedding goes good

Well thank you my dear. I was 15 when I met him, so I can believe it. Good luck and when/if he meets your family I want to hear about it... :)

well see my family konws him and likes him they just dont know that we go out

Oh see you have even a better situation. If they already know him and like him then you have a better chance...lol Tell them! It sucks to have to hide, I know that.

i know it does i just cant get the words to come out of my mouth i know how much my daddy looks down on it and he wants to send me to cali to live and i am waiting for school ot start so i then can tell them

nat i have to go right now i will be back on in a couple of days i am going to florida for vaction i will send you an email when i get back thank yo so much

Florida? WOOHOO...it's rainy over here! HAHA Have fun!!!!

hey living in the south is hard when it comes to black and whites.. my dad and mom are the same way.. a few months ago though my eyes really got opened to the black and white thing.. you cant control who your heart falls in love with.. my friends daddy found out and like freaked out.. her parents went through all her stuff.. so her sis and i took care of most of it by hiding it in my locker and at my house.. i dont know how you could tell yours.. just be ready for ne thing b/c it might go really well or it might go really bad.. if it goes bad more than likely they will look for more things even if there isnt more.. just be careful telling your parents.. bye bye EJ

hey i hope your friend is okay and did not get too hurt but it bet she did i just got back home and he was the second person i called and god i loved to hear his vocie and that was only after like 3 or 4 days