unsure about my feelings..(PLEASE HELP!)

well this problem includes 2 guys and myself. the first guy derek and me have like a history. like we went out two times and i broke up with him both. the first cuz i was scared and i knew it would be a long term relationship and second cuz i was ready but nothing felt right...like NOTHING felt right. ok well this is a few months later the second guy dean is really nice and everything. and i just found out he has a crush on me. i liked him be4 but for like a day so it doesn't even count...

ok so derek still has feelings for me and he's told me. and truthfully i couldn't get over him for a rlly long time....up until now and thts where the PROBLEM occurs. ever since i found out dean has a crush on me i've started to get over derek. but the thing is i'm pretty sure i dnt have a crush on derek bcz i dnt feel tht little tingling feeling i really really want to be with you feeling with him which is wat i get usually wen i like sum1.

ok so i have no idea how to interpret my feelings....what do u think? =/

Sit back, relax and let the answer come to you in it's own time. There is no rush, believe me.

The more you force an issue the further it will slip away.

Same thing happened to me. you just have to let things flow the way there suppose to. it'll work itself out eventually. just don't let it get to that much...good luck!

ok...so i just try and forget abt it? cuz i actually am sitting back but not really relaxing...cuz right now my heart's sending me mixed emotions...and i dnt knoe wat to think

but thnx

No, don't try and forget about it, just carry on with life and be patient. A solution will present itself or you will come to a conclusion yourself that makes you happy.

to me it seems clear that even tho u did like derek ur heart isnt with him...u said it urself it didnt feel right and there was no tingly feeling in the pit of ur stomach....to me if it doesn feel right then it isnt right and cant ever be right.....
however dont rush into anything with dean, u dont wana just go out with him cos ur not guna go out with derek(if ur not)...like bret says just carry on with life and an answer will present itself :D
hope this helps
xxxLoUxxx

thanks so much. thats what i had in mind cuz i was thinking about it and it just makes most sense. i was just a little unsure about my feelings with dean....but the weird like extremely weird and very uncool thing is that every time i think of derek i can find soooooo many reason why i should hate him....but whenever i talk to him...i just don't care about those things...=_= gawsh...this is not cool lol