What do you do when you're hurting?

You let it all out for as long as it takes.

Then you pick yourself up, brush yourself off and learn from the experience.

There's no easy answer. I wish there was. Broke up with a lot of girls that I really liked and it hurt, but I've only been crushed, and I do mean CRUSHED, just the once. Don't want to go there again.

Not easily, mate.

the ins and outs were that I saved myself for three months for a girl I LOVED (I've only loved three of the countless girls I've been out with). Doesn't sound much, three months, but I was in my prime and had many girlfriends at the time. She said she wanted to take it slowly and take our time physically.

So, three months in and we've had a great week, she had been becoming more receptive to intimacy and we set ourselves a big date that would make things 'perfect'.

that afternoon I meet her and she's all vacant. Turns out she had been shagging I don't know how many men behind my back and one of them got her pregnant.

I'm telling you, fella, it was like someone dropped a car on me from thirty stories. I just walked away without a word the phrase "I'm Pregnant" repeating endlessly in my mind.

How did I get over it? Well, to start with I drank the bottle of rum I bought for the evening... not too clever, but better than gibbering inanely to some stranger in a bar.

At first I had a string of one night stands... all very good fun, but it doesn't help. In the end I had to confront the issue and talk to someone openly about it. Once I had vented all of my frustrations and angers to a friend who wanted to help (that's vital, they have to want to be there for you) it was like a releasing of pressure and I started to just get on with life. It took about 6 months to get over it to a level where I was able to talk to her about anything with a degree of civility. But I think being able to do that help close a few chapters and help me move on more

I still think about it, and man, it still hurts but I learned from it. Trust is not an easy thing earnt and should not be given freely. But when you're in love, well, you're in love and as Hetfield says: Nothing else matters.

That's more than enough for now and I hope it's not too much of a rambling tale to understand.

Just make sure you use plenty of patience, fella.

And you're most welcome.

well.. i feel hurt when i know that my ex-bf still love me, although we're no long a couple. to be honest, i don't what the reason behind "our" break-up. i wish i knew why he left me, or why he had a change-of-heart when he still love me. although we're seperated, but i still love him inside my heart.

Then suffer...No really, I can't help you. never dated, never kissed, never did anything beyond gabber with someone of the oppisite sex, so therefore I cannot nor will probably ever feel your pain...(Not that i'm a lesbian, rather an ugly faced bitch with absoloutely no self confidence) I still feel a tad bit for you though...*coughcough*

lots of pity and gallons of ice cream. just try not to think about it as much. do other things to get ur mind off it and try to find someone else that can satisfy ur needs.

Been there, done that. All I did was surround myself with friends in a safe environment and got slaughtered. LMAO It worked for me. It was a safe way to relieve some stress and have loads of fun.

i don't cope well with hurt. if people hurt me i don't forgive them and become more bitter. i know that is the worst possible way to handle things cause if I get hurt by something other than a person treating me like shit, I have no way of coping. I can't blame anyone so I feel screwed up. Feeling sorry for myself here. I apologise :p

I don't cope well with hurt either. And I hold grudges. I havn't been bale tog et over the hurt this one person has caused me. It still kills me when I think about it. Sorry, I'm not much help. It just takes time.

i tend to take it out on myself no matter whos fault it is. you should set yourself a limit on how long your going to grieve for (say 3 weeks) after that 3 weeks you gotta move on, it might hurt like hell but if you dont do it now then its gunna get harder and harder!

DAMN, BRET!!! That story was like soap opera material!!! Wooow.....and the way you said it, Bravo, Bret! lol! I'm so sorry though!

i used to do the same, but now i listento music and write poetry or paint.

I'm scarred, and still haven't really stopped when i should have.

I write, take my frustrations out on objects such as walls, lay in bed motionless for hours to the music of Nine inch nails...

Most importantly, i say three words to my girlfriend 'I need you' and i talk, and talk, and talk, cry in her arms and her crying with me.

To much shit has lead me to do some fucking stupid things in my life, and well, apart from finding comfort in my girlfriends arms, there's nothing which helps me cope properly.