What do I do when all seems lost?

I've always been the NICE guy to everyone. Always seems i make a great friend for people. But why is it that girls dont seem to want that in a guy? They always seem to find someone to give them a better thrill. What is wrong with being the nice guy?

I know what you mean. It's always easy to give advice, and always impossible to listen to your own. I'm only tired of always being there when they need a shoulder to cry on or someone to talk to, but never thought of when it comes to romance. I am nothing if not a romantic! Just can't find someone who's looking for the same thing i guess.

Women love a bastard, despite what they say it is true. I call it the Han Solo syndrome myself. (Watch as all the girls post and deny it.) The reason for this is because bastards are confident, they have that air of arrogance about them.

Be nice, women like nice, but don't be afraid to up the confidence level and take on a bit of the Solo scoundrel too. The key factor is to be confident when you do because although women like nice, they absolutely love confidence.

Thank y'all both for your advice. Maybe i will be able to listen to it better than i have others. I would really love some feminine input here though. To see y'alls side of things.

I won't deny the bastard thing, but I can say that if I were to find a nice guy, i'd hope he'd show interest in me! *sulks because of all the bastards in her life* Wow did that sound pathetic, lol.

Yeah:

Gentlemen prefer blonds; women prefer complete twats! (corruption of popular English phrase).

hey mike.
i think what bret was saying is quite true....even tho we want to be wined and dined and have all the romantic stuff....we arent likely to be interested unless your a guy who oozes confidence. get yourself out there. get noticed...we're not sayin turn into an arrogant twat who has no respect for women n start being the bad boy ...we're just saying...give us a small taste of that, just to draw us in, once you've caught us then stick with the whole romance thing :D
hope this amde a small amount of sense and helped
xxxLoUxxx

The nice guys get the meaningful relationships.

Just wait.

Not everything is gone. You have yourself. As long as you have your life and your values intact, nothing else matters.

Thank You everyone for the advice and confidence boost. I'll keep y'all posted if it works. lol. Thank you everyone and if y'all think of anything else, just let me know. Im always open to advice. Thank You. -Mike

Oh and if there are any girls out there seeking a 19 yr old romantic with new found confidence, email me. hehe. lol. Had to put that in there.

Hi Mike. *waves and points to above post*

hi Maharani. *waves and points to one right above yours. hehe*

Okay guys. I posted a topic about this very subject when I first joined up. Some of the fellas that have been here a while might recognize the title. "Nice Guys Finish Last" Try looking it up.

for mike and ken...i'm going out with a nice guy and i have been for a year...when i first met him what really caught my attention was that he wasnt trying to be anything. he wasnt overly confident but he didnt care what anyone thought, and he didnt care if any girls liked him, or at least he acted like it. he was just himself. i found this to be really attractive and after we started going out his romantic side kicked in and i have to say, i much prefer the nice guys. and yes, i have been with a fair share of bastards...

There. I even brought my old post back up to the top for you guys to read. I hope it helps all you nice guys out there.

its very useful timothy. thanks. im just fed up with always being there for them, and them never being there for me. always giving and giving and giving, and it seems i get nothing but the cold shoulder in MY times of need. i hope none of this sounds like im thinking of only myself, but i think maybe its time i did, since no one will do it for me.

there isnt anything wrong with the good guy. thats all i ever wanted was a good guy. i think girls have to be hurt before they realize how the bastards arent going to work. girls i kno including me felt/feel that guys only want boobs and ass. but i fought through and i found someone i love and he is the nicest person i know. always have faith youll find something too.

this might have something to do with it...i kind of understood my boyfriend when i met him. i was always the guys' friend but never the girlfriend, just like he was the nice guy.

hehe and thanks for the lucky boy comment...i'd like to think i'm pretty damn lucky also :)

take care and good luck
Sara

u know ,i ve seen girls looking in my eyes and telling me that they dont look at the appearence, and much more ,all they need is a good heart to lay on ,someone who wil understand ,but later on they just hang out with some loosers on the streets ,that got kicked out of school and work in mc donalds ,but they look cool and dress like gang members ,lmao so funny ... if u wanna be a nice guy its good ,but sometimes show some of your own manners to girls ,becouse as someone said before , girls will not understand what is a nice guy means untill they get hurt ( sometimes i think girls know its gonna happen but they still do it ) i personaly think that most of the girls dating the "bad" guys are just wanna be famous around ,"oo look at me my bf is gang dude ,dont f with me or ul be dead next day "some shit like that ,pathetic.... just be yourself and u will find a girl that will see your gift as a nice guy ,those that in the past didnt ,its their loos and trust me ,half of them will be crying soon about their asshole bf ,haha good luck

because we find you more as i friend then anything and nothing more. try to be more mysterious or flirty

umm i like nice guys cause i dont live in the present i live in the future...if i try to date a stoner he will spend all of your money on weed..if i try to date a guy thats completly rude to everyone but me...its gunna lead to trouble...no im in love with a perfectly good nice guy...and i know he wont hurt me...you just got to find someone that thinks the same way....all gurls right now are eaither living in the past or present and once u find one that lives in the future you will be fine....but usually girls try to find guys that are confident that they would have fun with sexually me im not into that...i like a good personality

I love you, Mike. ***hug***

I love you too, Maharani. ***hugz n kisses*** ;)

*grin* Wanna be my cyber b/f?

lol. *smiles widely* sure thang babe! ;)

***HUG*** (yay)

yay!!!! do u have msn or yahoo msgr?

no. sorry... i saw your comments on my poems. thank you. ^_~

you're very welcome! :D:D