2 years...

ok i really need some help....

me and this guy went out starting october 1, 2003 and broke up in december of 2003....

and it is now 2005 and i STILL have feelings for him....

i love him to death...no not IN love....but just love....

and i dont know what to do...every time i start to like someone else and even think of gettin into a relationship....i think of my ex.....and slowly start not liking the person in a more than friends way....

i dont know if i should just totally try to move on (i mean i have tried but hasnt worked).....or keep on liking/loving my ex .....or what.....

i know there is SOMETHING keeping me wanting him...since it has been almost 2 years....and we rarely even talk.....so i mean there has to be something.....doesnt there??

im just confused....i really dont know what to do....

any advice at all?? id appreciate it alot!!

*courtney*

omigod.. i'm in the same situation as you are.. i really need help too.. what do you think i should do, courtney?? personally, i think i will still love my ex-bf, cuz he's the one i want to be with. i've tried to be with someone else before, but my mind is always on my exbf. there's something about my exbf that i love, and i rather love someone even if he doesn't love me back.. i'll wait for him to come back.. if he doesn't come back.. it's ok.. i'll live happy (even if i'm with someone in the future, i'll always remember my exbf) he had done so much for me, and i really love his voice.. i love him today/tonight.. always love him-always remember him.. (inside my lilo broken heart)

Yep. I've been there; done that; bought the t-shirt etc etc.. Boy oh boy does it fucking hurt. Break my arms, my legs and knock my teeth out - I don't care! But don't fuck with this heart no-more.

Um...yeah 5-6 years I've been in the same situation. It never truly goes, well...not that I know of anyway. I'm sorry.

(kinda long...sorry....and this is more just me kinda telling how i feel....theres acouple questions....read if u want and answer...if not its kool)

i went for a while when i never told him how i felt, because it was never the right time or whatever....

but then like i had had enough and i just told him that i still loved him and what not.....and now he doesnt talk to me....

i dont remember exactly when i told him....but i have talked to him only two times since i told him...

see hes in a band and i still go see them play, which i love, because i love seeing him and the band is awesome and so are the other guys in the band.....but then when i leave, its just soo hard on me....

when i was at one of his gigs....and i was sittin, he didnt really talk to me much....BUT when i went up and was talking to the other guys in the band, he showed up out of nowhere and was right behind me talking and messin with my hair and stuff.....so im thinking, jealousy??......so wouldnt that mean that there are still feelings?? idk

but i honestly think that deep down inside he still has feelings.....but hes scared....hes barely 15, hes in a band, and he has hormones.....hes not looking for the serious relationship that i am.....i THINK he has some of the same feelings i do...hes just scared.....i could be wrong....but i really think he does....

cause like after we broke up...we didnt talk for a while cause it was a horrible horrible break up and everything....but then i told someone to have him call me and like he did......and then for quite a while he told me he still loved me....and one time when i went to see him....he whispered in my ear "i miss you".....(that right there, i will remember forever...one of the sweetest things i have ever heard)

so i really think feelings are there i just dunno.....

He obviously still likes you. Talk to him more and see where things go. These things take time, and since it was a messy break up, it may take longer than normal. The keyword is "wait".

thanks for helping!!

yea i think he really needs to grow up a lil....sounds kinda mean....but its true....

once he does grow up, his hormone levels lower, and he actually realizes how much i love him....there might be a chance....atleast i hope

there's always a chance, but chances are never certain! by the way it sounds, he still does love you and i went through the same thing, cept the things that he was saying to you i was hearing from my guy's friends...well, i never took a chance, and so now he's going out w/ one of my friends, but we're still friends and the tension is slowly going away between me and him!

thats good!! im glad its gettin better for ya!! =)

well, just don't make the same mistake i did...it's taken 3 1/2 years for me and him to get to this point....

ok hmm.....im thinking i didnt really get what u were saying.....

u said something about what he is telling me is what u heard from ur guys friends....

same mistake??

could u explain ur whole thing again....please?