Dilemma

Hm. This IS a dilemma... The only advice i can offer is to look at it from all sides and choose the route of least resistance. Try not to get anyone's feelings hurt. But if you have to play rough to get your point across, so be it. But just think of all the consequences before you act.

Ken my dear the girlfriend should remain in the past. You're thinking about this way to much. You can't waste your life hung up on someone who did you wrong. It will take time to get over the hurt she caused you. A lot of times when you jump right into another relationship it is rebound. You are putting to much emphasis on the word "soul mates" words like that are used way to freely. Same goes for the words I love you! You're still young and have plenty of time to explore your options. You deserve a girl who will make you happy and show you the respect that you are seeking. Don't sell yourself short. You have plenty of time to decide what is best for you enjoy your life while you're still young. The right person usually comes along when you're not looking. Good luck!

Just breathe, Ken. That and think hard before you do anything.

You don't have to have sex if you're not ready! If the girl can't respect your wishes then once again she is not the right girl for you. Sex is important in a relationship but there are so many other issues that should come before sex. I understand the problem with trusting others. It does take time getting over a broken relationship the amount of time depends on the individual. Trust me you will get over her in time! I understand everything you're saying because I have the same problem with trusting others. There will come a time when you will have to let the wall down and give trust another try. My advice don't rush into anything you don't have to have a girlfriend try just dating around and keep your options open. Revenge can sometimes backfire be carful. I apologize and don't worry you were not harsh it's your feelings.

whooooooooooooooa chill ken! rite firstly breathe like many people have sed.....stop tryin to cateogries ur friend into anythin, yea u kissed but nothing has to happen from it. u dint make a wrong decision (about kissin her) ...theres no such thing.....u did what u thought was right at the time....i think u shud just have bit o time to get over ur ex cos it will just b a rebound rship if u move on too soon. perhaps talk to this gal, tell her how confused ur feeling but dont want to hurt her by moving on with her too soon and that...

over all just have some time to greeve over Em and then try meetin wi ur mate on a friends only time and see where it goes,,,
take care
xxxLoUxxx