Major PROBLEM!! and i dont know what to do

I need help. see there is this boy who i fell in love with. my first love and we had a 9 1/2 month relationship. after 4 months of pure heaven things then turned to hell. we both started changing and he started to stop loving me and respecting me. so i left him after 3 months of crying straight. he then came crawling back to me but i rejected him even though i loved him so dearly.
months have past and he has a new girlfriend. he says i love you to her, but inside i know it wasn't what we had, it doesn't even compare.
and now after all these months, after crying every time i talked to him and fighting. things have settled and he has come back to me telling me he cares about me. of course not in that way i want it to be. but yesterday he questioned me which made my head spinning. he asked what if we kissed? my reply in my head was do u no how long i have wanted to kiss you. i have done so much with other guys that they don't mean a thing and your still in my mind and heart. but i replied saying i don't know. and he is know curious and i can tell he wants to. we both know that if we kiss it may be the best kiss we will ever have with anyone. but i wonder how can he say i love you to her when he is so curious about me and him. he tells me that one day we will get back together. we both know that we pushed our love aside for each other behind everything, and know its starting to push through and make its way back to us again. and i don't no what to do. the next time i see him, should i hug him. because if i hug him me and him both know that it wont stop at just a hug? but i want to know if i should take the chance even though it could ruin everything and start something new?

*sorry that this is a lil long, but i figured u would need the whole story to understand it all

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Right, first off I'll say it's more than possible to love more than one girl or boy at any one time.

Secondly if he wants to be with you make him prove it by breaking it off with his current girl friend. Then (and only then) can he have his kiss. The reason for this is that you stay in the right and it makes sure that you are not cheating with him on her. He is in a relationship and as much as you might not like it, you have the moral obligation to respect it. This responsability and maturity is what makes us better people.

If he does want to be with you he'll do what it takes.

Bret, you are correct as always........

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Thanks for the kind words, but I'm far from perfect. In fact I make myself cringe sometimes!!

Hmmm....agreed. ^_^

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okay the thing is though, i know it would be wrong. but if i dont kiss him and have him realize what there is, then i might not have another chance, so should i take the chance or live by the rules when i may never get a chance like this ever again and i could lose him like i lost him before?

well if you know it's wrong, don't do it! there's more ways to make him realize how much you love him than just kissing him. tell him that as much as you do want to kiss him, you have to respect the fact that he's in a relationship with someone else. then that leaves the decision up to him...and if he does decide that he wants to be with you, he'll let you know....
luvs always,
Ashli

Integrity is far more important.

If he is not willing to be faithful to his current girlfriend what is to say he'll be faithful to you if you were to get back together?

TIME thats what i use.....but sometimes it doesnt work...just dont kiss him while he is going out with that other chick cause umm thats bad...it will only stir up more trouble...umm yeah thats bout all the advice i can give u...others probalby know more bout the other situations :-) best of luck tell me how it goes

i think you should ask him straight out... do you love me or do you love her? if he really did love her then i dont know how he could even THINK about kissing someone else. i think he hasnt stopped loving you...just learnt to live without you. talk to him and sort it out. if you wanna kiss him then i think you should!!!! push all the stuff in your head aside and think with your heart xoxo

the thing is i dont think he loves me, and i dont think i love him. there is just a really big history between me and him that we care so much about each other. i dont no if its love but there is sumthing there, but if i kiss him it could ruin what we are building up. and his relationship

Sweety I had a relationship alot like that, we didn't have as long together as you two did but picture this anyways.Ok I was with him for 5 months before he dropped out of my life competlly with no explation at all into the 2 month we asked me to marry him I said yes.Into the fourth he stopped callin stopped saying I love you.It was horrible but hey now then 5 months later I met this wonderful man, and i've been happy ever since.So hun I wouldn't just mope over him when there is probaley someone better out there waiting for you.Good luck with everything if you want to talk email me at armyfantic4u@yahoo.com,ciao.