am i TOTALLY pathetic?!?!?!?!?

ok so...ive liked this guy since i was in 5th grade n now im going to 9th grade.m i pathetic for likin him for that long or is it just normal??cuz hes really sweet to me n not a lotta ppl are. but im friends with him now wanting to be more really bad. should i stay friends or should i ask him out??im clueless.....HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!

hey!! hun i think its about time you told him!!! its been 4 years if i guess right? i dunno how the grade thing works lol im not american. anyway hes your mate and if he doesnt like you back, at least you know and you can put the whole thing behind you's and you can move on from him!!! or you could make suggestive comments that suggest more than mates and see his reaction?? hope i helped

thx u helped but once uve liked sum1 for 4 years then you cant really put em behind u n forget about them.......idk i kinda think im in luv wit him!!!!!

The best thing you can do is ask him or if that idea freaks you out, get a friend to do it in a subtle way. If he likes you great, if he doesn't then you can attempt to move on and you won't wonder "what if" for the rest of your life x

thx every1 4 all the help!!!!but like a year ago he kinda found out tht i liked him cuz my dumbass friend(she was a horrible friend cuz she talked too much shit) told someone who had a really big mouth tht i liked him in a letter n she showed everyone n all his friends laughed (i wasnt his friend last year cuz i hung out with TOTALLY immature ppl) n i dont even know what his reaction was. but then a couple of weeks ago my friend n him were playin truth n he asked her if she knew ne 1 that liked him so she told him i did. so now that he heard it from otha ppl im kinda scared to ask him if he likes me. n ive so many ppl say that he has the hotts for sum1 else but he never admits it n says he doesnt like ne1 n that hes just talkin to all da girlz cuz its summer but i dont no if i believe him or not!!!!!plezzz i really need advice cuz im goin crazi for him n dont no wut to do about it!!!!!!!!!!

Ha. Watch out.
As someone else pointed out, yes, your friendship will never be the same. But it isn't necessarily a good thing: it can swing both ways.

I had a similar problem to you, except the amount of time was far less than 4 years. I told someone I really liked them. They didn't feel the same way. Fair enough.
But they want to carry on being friends with me. It's something I'm not sure I can do, as I want it to be something more. They also happen to like someone else. That's a further complication you've got to watch out for.
I'm lucky I happen to be leaving the country for a while. Of course, it doesn't solve the problem, it's more running away from it. But time and distance will do it's job, and we'll forget each other.

All I'll say is, watch out. Do what you think best. I took the advice of other people which got me into this emotional mess in the first place. I knew their advice was wrong for me, but they all said it. So I did it. Only you can know what to do. Have faith in yourself. Don't expect anything either. If you don't expect something, you won't be dissapointed when you don't get it. If you do get it, more power to you.

Whatever you decide to do...Good luck.

k kool thx 4 all the advice

ive liked a guy since kindergarten and were going into 11th grade...thats a long time now...lol

oh and no youre not pathetic...

just thought id add that

I LOVE a guy I have bearly even spoken to. It started of as just a sort of awe for him about three years ago but now its grown into love.

i havent read the whole post, but from personal experience i just wanna say that if he is a really good friend of yours, stay way from having a deeper relationship with him. If and when you break up your friendship will so not be the same and my not even exist which is the case with me. If your friendship with him means almost everything to you then leave it that was, you will have him there no matter what.