do you ever get over it?

do people ever get over there first love? And if so.. how long did it take you to get over it??

No. You don't you never will.

Yes you get over your first love.
But you will always have fond memories of them.
Unless it ended on a bad note I suppose.

If the love was true ... you never will get over it.

If the love was true ... you never will get over it.

^ I agree very much so

if you loved someone so much you would never get over it, but dont get me wrong i think you can still love someone else... just as much or more.

Even if the love ended on a bad note, fond memories will remain, and in that sense, some adoration and love will remain. Love can fade, but never die. Learn to love again.

I agree.... love cant die, its a feeling and so much more, you get it once it wont die..

Erica^^^, the truest, and easiest way for me to put it as well. I still am not.

It took me about six months to get over my first love after a whirlwind time together.

But when i met Marcus, the feelings i had felt for Chris seemed like childs play (which they were since i was fifteen) and it feels so much more.. love like.
Grr, i can't explain it.
What i think i'm trying to say is, you may think he's your first love, but when you meet the one your supposed to truely be with, that love seems like nothing compared to what you have now.
Takes a while to get over, but it's worth it.
*Gem*

Hmm this is interesting, i wouldnt really know though, guess because im with my first true love now.

Well no you dont get over them you just forget them and love them less and less as your life goes on!!!
and you then start to just have him/her as memories but you will always feel something for them..

it took me 6 months to get over mine..but now even tho im with my new bf of 4 months... i still think bout my ex and if i see someone who looks lke him i still do a double take to double check it aint him so you see you never get over them you just love them as a memeory nothin else...

plus youll decide one day like i did tha today is enough of crying tears over him/her.. and youll get up and you wil stop the tears..
and you then love the next person so much more and totally different and youll notice youll be different too..

if your going through it youll get hrough it love

No you don't get over your your first love. Trust me mine was some time ago and I still love him to this day. It gets easier as time passes. But you will always love that one person because they were such a big part of your life. I know for the longest time I thought I was over mine and then I saw him and my heart started to ache. So I hate to tell you but it never goes away. If you ever need someone to talk to my e-mail is fc_irish_girl_2008@yahoo.com.

I think you can get over them with time...

You just have fond memories of them that resurface every now and then. Which makes you think you aren't over them. But- once you find someone new and better, the memories start coming farther apart, until they eventually just mean nothing.

Does that make sense?

I don't get how people can say they never get over the first love.

Are you saying that ten years from now when you may be married with three kids, you'll still think back to the boy you went out with in school?

Yes, it takes a long time but saying never is a bit OTT

"We always think our first love is our last and we always think our last love is our first"

Think about that.

I gotta agree with gem on this one. said everything i was going to say already. you get over your first love. depends on you how long it takes to get over them.

Love isn't something you can ever really get over. Sure, you get over your extreme feelings of love for that person, but love stays in your heart forever.. no matter who it's with or what they've done to you.

~Loveless Nights~

Ashley my first love was with an amazing gentleman his name was mark we were madly in love and it was our families that split us apart =(
we werre from to different worlds if you guys can understand that!
its took me 2years and i can say im not over him BUT ive accepted it because i have to for my heart to go on. its hard though if i see him my heart still beats uncontrolable fast i get butterflies when we speak. sometimes it really hurts!
im with someone now called nathan and i really like him care for him and love him!
but no matter what mark will always be in my heart because ill never love another like i loved him!

The answer your looking for is "yeah you can"
............
which is possible, when you find that new someone special. it takes time of course...common sense, but you have to let go and support. now its time to go out and adventure, it may seem hard to do, but when you find a replacement.....you'll be glad you did =o]. good luck!!!

*sigh* No, I'm finding that you never really do get over your first love =P I have a wonderful, fantastic, sweet guy that loves me *which is something that I'm not sure the first one actually did* and I love him more then anything, but I still find myself thinking about him and remembering the time we were together =P Luckily my boyfriend understands what I'm going though and helps me through it =)
I don't think that the human heart ever really lets go of someone once we've given it to someone =P All we can do is move on and love again =)
Sorry that I couldn't help you =( This is just what I've found to be true with my own life =P
***Rhea***

Thats a complicated question....me and my first love (besides the one that passed away...him i'll never forget) we go to the same high school. i'm adating someone he knows and i've met his girlfriend...sweet girl. we broke up i think over two years ago but we have hooked up recently this past summer. we're over each other, we've both moved on, we talk...like friends, i wo'nt say that i don't think he's attractive but i guess what i'm saying is yes people move on. you do get over it unless you were really meant to be with that person. you'll always have a sweet spot for them, get a little jealous when you see them with someone else but you know it's over and it's been over. so yea, i say you can get over it and move on and still be friends with them
xxmegan annexx

Just like this... im in love now... and i prob wont ever forget it..

No, first love is usually your first TRUE love. You only find one true love in your life. And you'll never get over htem. You'll always remember how you felt about them.

"No, first love is usually your first TRUE love. You only find one true love in your life. And you'll never get over htem. You'll always remember how you felt about them."

You've just contradicted yourself.

To everyone else.
If it was your true love, only death could part you. First love is when you've never felt love before, thats why everyone thinks its the best thing since sliced bread.
Of course you get over them! It depends on how long you were together!!
Do you honestly think when you're married with three kids, a dog and a budgie you'll be thinking about the spotty teenager you loved in college/high school!!
*sighs*

As i said before; "You always think your first love is your last and your last love is your first"

You do get over your first love depending on the circumstances, but i also do agree with Gem.

but id like to see :)
if anyone was faced with their first love giving them another chance, and then they also had a current love, how many people would actually take their first love back again??

People would have to think long and hard over that Jen.
Chances are you and the first love would have changed over the years (if so) when you were apart, then after getting back together find you're with a completely different person to who you fell in love with.
I agree there are cases where this may differ.
But if my first 'love' ever came out of the woodwork, i'd tell him where to go. Marcus may not be my first official love, but he's my true one. And to me, he's my first.
Which brings me back to my original quote i mentioned earlier.

I'm not getting at anyone, but the people who are at 15 or 16 saying you don't get over your first love have no right to say that, come back to me when you 50 or 60 and we'll see then.

First llove is hard to get rid of, four years later and i can't get over her.... good luck with it. distance makes it easier sometimes...

x

Seeing them happy makes it easier....

I'm with Gem all the way on this.

The love you have for them changes. It stays there, but it's a different kind of love, and it hasn't gone away for me ... but I can't say it never will ... I'm too young to know.

They say you don't. But i feel that its possible. I mean think about it, of course it takes time, but the next person you find to love might have similar qualities and better qualities. Its not the easiest thing to do, but eventually it will all work out!

I think you may get over your first love but still think of the memories you share with eachother.
like if you find the person you truly truly love then your old memories with your first love will fade cause you have found the ONE and only ONE!

--yay--

You can tell yourself that your over it, but from my experiances.....you never do

That is an interesting question Jen =) I left my my ex *and first love* 4 months ago and I've been around him a bit since and have seen a lot about him that I hadn't before =P I'm head-over-heels in love with my bf and am very happy with him but I have to say that I used to think for a while though that I'd never get over my ex and would always want to go back if he wanted me =P That changed =) I can't stand the person that I found out he is and I wouldn't choose to go back ^_^ It was only a matter of time till I pushed him to far and found myself in the ER anyway =P Not what I want lols
True, as I've already said though, once you give your heart to someone they will always have a little piece of it no matter what ^_^
Rhea

"If the love was true ... you never will get over it."

If the love was true, they never would have broken up.

You can forget your second third, fourth, fifth, etc loved one, but never the first.

He/she will always linger in your head whether the experience was nice or harsh.

It's because it was the first time you ever felt that way, which makes it memorable.