I love him but i want to wait...(really long)

ok i love my boyfriend. I know he's is the one (or at least i am pretty sure) and he makes me extremly happy. But he is ready to have sex. I mean, to me, thats a big deal. I am going to be turning 15 next month and i think that is way too young. But i know i want to have sex with him in the future, just not now. But the thing is...he said he's willing to wait...but not forever. i don't know when i'm going to be ready but i need to know that he is going to wait. and he keeps joking around about moving further but i don't think i want to. we've been going out for 4 months and he thinks thats a long time and thats "taking things slow" but i just got out of a year long relationship that took 3 months before we even kisses(complicated...never got to see him) and it turned out to be nothing but a waist of time. I don't want that to happen to this relationship.my boyfriend understands that and is willing to wait and go at my speed but he said that eventually, its going to get boring. But i disagree. Plus if things get boring we can always go to the next step. I just don't want to go to fast and this get out of hand or end up ending the relationship and regretting it like i did the last one. Any advice i need it!

come on people i need ur help here!

well, i think you should wait until u are ready, and if he cant wait that long, then he isnt really the rite guy 4 u, cuz the rite guy would understand that ur not ready yet, n would wait however long it takes until you are.

yeah thats how i feel but at the same time i want him to be mr. right SO BAD!

^agreed. he shouldn't give you an ultimatum. the bastard. wait until you're ready. if he has enough respect for you he won't mention it again if you tell him that you're just not ready.

and if he keeps doing it, knee him in the balls.

Peaces.

How can 4 months be too soon :-S I waited until nearly 15 months to have sex with my boyfriend
:-S also ur only 14...thats very young. He shouldn't say that to you...I agree with the above comments about if he loved you he should be willing to wait for you.
He doesn't sound like mr right if hes pressuring you in to sex. xx

You forgot the knee him in his balls part....

And if you have a dog, find a way to attatch meat to the front of his pants and watch the doggy tear off a wee pig in a blanket...

LOL

Peaces.

he is a jerk if he wont wait,okay? dump him if hes only using you for your body,it isnt worth it.

tell him how u feel and if he doesnt respect it then get rid...if he does then hes a winner!
simple as
xxxLoUxxx

LOL sorry. i'm a sweet girl. *crosses fingers behind back* =)

....but someone should chop his vienna sausage...and pickle it.....and shove it in his own mouth....from his actions to want to get in girl's pants i imagine he's trying to prove himself, so his sausage should be small enough that it can fit into his own mouth....lol...

Peaces.

If you are too young and not ready for sex what the hell are you doing in a relationship?!? Of course he is gonna want sex, and he won't wait forever because you are immature. I wouldn't wait around too long, not 4 months anyways. If you aren't ready for sex get out of the relationship so that your bf can find someone just as nice and caring and loving as you who is also mature.

a relationship DOES NOT need to include sex!!!! someones maturity does not have anything to do with whether or not they have sex!!!

HAS EVERYBODY FORGOTTEN ABOUT A LITTLE THING WE USED TO CALL...RESPECT?!?!?!!!!!

Men make me sick...well not that aaron kid (ur pretty levelheaded for a 15 yr. old...stay sweet) newayz...a relationship doesnt need to contain sex in order to last...men arent the only ones who think about sex but they are the majority of people who actually ACT ON THEIR URGES!!!

If your boyfriend actually respects you then he will wait for you until you are ready. But if i may give you some advice...i would highly advice you to continue holding off on having sex for a VERY VERY long time...you are only 14...you havent even had a chance to live your life yet....wait until you find that special someone...you may think that he is that special someone but if all he does is pressure you to have sex then he is just a pig....wait...find joy and happiness in holding hands, kissing, cuddling...having sex is a BIG step and could result in consequences you may not be able to handle at your age...by the sound of it though you sound like you know what you want right now so all i can do is wish you the best in everything and i hope that it all works out for you!!

Till Niagra Falls,
Chelle XOX

i agree with chelle....what ever happened to a kiss and a cuddle! i wouldnt have even thought of sex at 14 and im glad ur not willin to rush into it just cos ur guy wants it. just tell him how u feel, and dont give into pressure. if thats all hes after ditch him and find sumone who will respect ur views and opinions!
take care
xxxLoUxxx