Romantic help anyone?

well, first off, I am male......which usually makes people think I am lying..but here is my problem.

I love to be romantic....you know, poems here and there, small gifts, compliments...all that good stuff...but why is it that all of the girls I date never appreciate it? I have always been stepped on, I guess from being too nice??......and I never get the respect I give... no girl I have ever dated, has even made an attempt to make me smile, the way I do toward them...one of my ex's messed me up so much... she did two things that made me really sad...

1.I was going to give her a valentines day gift, a small teddy bear with some candies and a nice card....well, she avoided me all day (at school) and when I called her at home, she told me she did not want them.
2.I used to write poetry for her, untill one day she said she did not want them any more...I had only written two or three poems in her name, so I got real hurt...

any suggestions besides "find someone better" ?

ooohh..Steve..As much as women say they like a romantic guy there is a diffrence between romantic and corny adn obsessive ... You see if your acting like your crazy about her then its kinda of a turn off lol I know that sounds completly crzy but it is because then we know we will always have you there and it send off a stalker vibe! STOP!! be for you loose her forever just kinda play her off and act like you don't care...let her come to you!! Hope I helped!
*good luck*

I love a romantic guy...somebody who is a little obsessive over me, somebody a little protective and i love all the corny stuff. I used to write my boyfriend love letters and poetry and he used to read them but I've written so many i think I've bored him lol.
I don't think you should change how you are, a girl will fall for you eventually and every girl loves a sweet guy which to me sounds like you are x x

So in conclusion...im saying what alex said lol xx

i would never say stop being romantic. i know plenty of girls (including myself) that would love someone that treated them like you do. it shows you care and you're so sweet to do those things...my suggestion is try not to come on too strong...though i don't see how a few poems and a nice valentines day gift is corny or obsessive or anything wrong... hopefully you'll find a girl who'll appreciate it and not be scared off by man with a poetic heart and mind...a girl who won't fear getting close to you and won't mind being your muse...good luck ;)

xxx

Romantics are a dying breed. I would never wish for a romantic to give up on romance. Any person that doesn't appreciate you for who you are isn't worth it. Don't change to fit someone else, that is only an invitation for heartbreak. I love a romantic guy. Sweet personalities and a poetic soul are turn ons for me. Don't give up on romance. Don't give up on love. There is someone out there for everyone, and I know you will find them. Good Luck~

Girls arent really used to that kind of thing nowadays. It makes some of us feel a bit uncomfortable cause we dont know what intentions the guys have with their sonnets and candies. Some girls just even like how some guys will walk all over them, go figure. Keep being romantic though, you'll find a girl who appreciates it one day.
-A

awww Steve....I like romantic boyz like you...they're always cute
my boyfriend is VERY romantic but not as much as you..
dont stop being Romantic..im sure you'll find a girl will appreciate all what you're doing to her..just wait and you'll see
but try to choose the right gurl
thats all i can say!!!
good luck with that
Nema
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well, thanks for your help..I think I needed someone actually telling me that being romantic is a GOOD thing...I agree with EpithetPoet, I think females get uncomfortable....I just hope to find a girl who appreciates what I do for them...it would make me feel a lot better about myself...

wow, only 15, you got a good thing going for you... well, I believe in love at first sight, but have yet to.... "have" it...if that makes sense...but I think you know what I mean, for now I am just hoping to find a girl who wants my romantic-ness...

ok for one thing i love guys like you, but i also love guys that are tough like they have both. i am a sucker for romantics. i wish i had a guy like you. seriously just keep what ur doin cause there are girls out there in the world that want someone like you. who knows u may have already found her but u just have to look harder at the picture to see her.
thats what i got for u
xo hidentruth ox
if u need ne other advice just email me at hidentruth38@hotmail.com

well, maybe girls need to make themselves more apearant to me....I look to hard sometimes, and I am tired of not finding anything......

im not gunna lie, you sound like the greatest guy ever seriously! that girl was crazy for ever letting you go. I wish that i could find someone like you!! Dont stop doing what you do just cuz some girl was mean and didnt appreciate it. You deserve so much better! Too bad your not in wisconsin lol

aw you sound really sweet but I think that by the messages she is sending you that you should try and find someone else.

well, I dumped her a long time ago...about 3 months...and I really hate how (and this was for all of my ex girlfriend's) after I dumped them, is what they realized how good I treated them, and they try to crawl back to me...but I never gave them second chances, they should have gotten it right the first time...I have been single ever since I dumped her, and I hate it....I have no girl to "woo"...no girl to sweep off her feet, and it is quite annoying...

yeah...me too

I have not given up yet...just lost a lot of hope...I have somewhat of a low self esteem, because of the way I have been treated.....and I hate that in me...

Romance is not rejected by a relationship based on actual love for one another, remember that and understand that even if you were a unromantic fool and she loved you for who you were, she'd take anything as romance. (Such as offering a sip of your drink)

Girls are just that, girls. Wait for a real lady too walk your way and wait and be slow with the romance, don't write poems straight away, keep the 'I love yous' for a few weeks in, and build it slowly but surely each step of the way making her understand you love to have romance returned.

I do not say I love you to any of my girlfriends...I have only been in "love" once...and it failed miserably...I am only mildly romantic first off...I do not come off as freakishly obsesses, so I do not see what the problem is....

This is just a little piece of an im conversation I had with a truly "nice guy" ...... Might interest some of you.... *shrugs*

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the ST bernard: and i will fall into those steps to which lead a life of truely no sanity nor understanding of what it is to be accepted and to love someone with a love that equals yours.... it seems true ability to write your soul on paper scares most women and i have yet to know why

sourcherryapple6: i don't see why it would either
sourcherryapple6: what exactly do you mean scares women?

the ST bernard: anytime you write to a muse they fear getting to know you and run away

sourcherryapple6: that's a shame

the ST bernard: ive had two relationships now one that lasted a year with a girl that wasnt emotional enough with her life and didnt understand how it is you show love to people like me and then the other that was her first relationship which just ended where she wanted everything and i think i gave in just based on the fact i cared about her and that no one cared about me at the time

sourcherryapple6: no one?

the ST bernard: i had my friends all three of them but the group i was in alienated me real quick

sourcherryapple6: why?

the ST bernard: cause i broke up with my ex and they decided that i wasnt worth her time or anyone elses

sourcherryapple6: foolish people

the ST bernard: that they were

the ST bernard: why is it i have to care so much

sourcherryapple6: cause you have such a good heart
sourcherryapple6: blessed and cursed...

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I hope all you "nice guys"/hopeless romantics find someone....it takes time.....make sure to keep hope.....one day..... ;)

xxx

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if he has done it once he will do it agian.. Sad but the Truth