help me!

i need advice. ok so heres the story: me and my friend (i wont mention her real name so i'll use a made up one) paige promised each other and made a pact that we would stop cutting. this was probably in november. i just slept over her house the other night and i noticed lots of cuts, scars, and burn marks all up her arms. i understand why she did this but i'm a little mad that she didnt tell me she did it before. i know its hard to stop, ive been there, but she should have come to me. so i dont kno if its wrong to be mad because she didnt talk about it with me. we talked about this sort of stuff before. so its not like it would have been hard 4 her. but i'm not sure if its wrong to be a little mad at her or just let it go.

Wow, I can relate to this. I promised my boyfriend that I would stop cutting. At first, I did. But then there came a time where I just couldn't fight back the temptation of doing it, so I did. Not once did I mention anything to my bf. In fact, I still haven't. Because I know if I did it would hurt him....

This situation is tough...Maybe by making the pact your friend feels as though you're one of those people that will judge her and not one of those people that could help her. Maybe she didn't want to hurt you. I haven't cut for a long time now and I'm doing just fine. I guess that you need to talk to her and ask her why she didnt tell you. Tell her that you understand and that you just want to be there to help.....

Don not assume that just because she was able to talk to you about it before that it makes it any easier now. Perhaps she feels a bit of shame for breaking the pact. In my opinion, you have a right to be hurt perhaps, but not so much angry. And I think that you are not really angry, but merely hurt and confusing it with anger. But in my opinion she does not need anger right now. She needs comfort and perhaps a stiff telling. Not anger, but strong concern. Tell her what she is still doing is ridiculous and does not help her. That it is selfish and hurts others around her. Cruel, maybe to you, but in the end it might save her
Good luck
~*Freak*~

ok i cant relate and one huge possible reason why, is because since you made that pact and she broke it shes afraid you are gonna leave her, try not to be mad at her, because its hard addiction