we're kicking my brother out....

im terrified of my brother bc he hit me my sister and my mom this one time and he always gets angry of the wall and punchs holes and the wals and idk....i mean i no it could b worse i no some kids get beaten im still terrified of him..... i dont even think ive made eye contact with him in the past year..... adn he sed i love u to me once and i think he ment it but he cant show it ... he has depression problems so i feel bad for him iwanna help him but i dont no how bc im scared he'll get mad and hurt me bc he'll think im trying ot get in his business... or i no hes tried to cut hes not a cutter but hes tried it so i dont want him to do that and i dont want him to drink bc he has a drinking problem idk i love him i guess but im scared and i think we're kicking him out but i dont no if thats the best thing for him..... idk i thnk its the best thing for our family bc hes really hurting us but its not the best for him and we really care about him at least i do but he doesnt care about us hes lthreatened to leave b4 he says we're not a part of him it made my mom cry he makes her cry everyday i dont no what to do about him..... if u no him his name is shea in sparta plz talk to him plz help him dont let him drink help him to love us more and make sure he knows i love him and i care about him more than anything in the world i was jstu mad at him for awhile so i gave him dirty looks kinda btu i didnt mean to im sorry i jstu want him to love me adn i dont want him to hurt us anymore.......

Im sorry this is happening to you hun, it sounds not only frightenin but really heart-breaking too, as its obvious you care a lot for your brother, and his behaviour must be so confusing as well as scary.

I really *dont* think chucking him out is the answer, this guy needs professional help if its depression that's making him react in these ways, throwing him out is only going to increase his anger and make him feel rejected surely?

I can understand hes makin ur family life absolute hell, but he needs proper help, maybe in a hospital or anger therapy.

I hope it all turns out ok anyway, and i hope you take good care of yourself.

thanx yah we try to get him professional help hes been to the hostpial 3 times but now he refuses to go to any help he says hell go to therapy once week but thats it and we think he needs but more liek drug rehab and mayb and I.O.P program.... anwyay thanx for the advice

I think...maybe he is in love (or on drugs). Perhaps he cant have the one he loves. But he feels like she is the only thing that matters. Cause right now she is. You should not take it personaly if his is the case. He is blinded and in great pain and there is nothing you can really do. Just try and smile kindly at him sometimes and make him plenty of cups of tea and leave him to himself.

I dont think kicking him out of the house is really the answer here. Even if he has threatened it before, i doubt in his heat he really wants to leave, he just wants attention. To be loved. So tell him you love him, tell him you'll be there for you if he needs it. He might not show it, but he'll most likely be grateful to you for that.
How old is he by the way?
-A

hes 17
thanx for all the advice
and with him being in love he has a girfrend but i think that was the case earlier wen he hit us bc he was jsut dumped a couple weeks b4 with girlfrend he had for about a year
thanx everyone