Stoupid questin...Just felt like asking

Why is it that most...(not all) guys feel that they can't cry...(or won't let themselfs) I've had many experiences with this and I was just wondering. I'd really like guys oppinions...but girls will do too.

I agree with Bob. A man considers it weak. I think showing you can cry makes you more of a man then anything

alot fo guys think that they cant cry cuz they want to look all big and bad but i like guys that will cry in front of me you can get closer that way adn you can really know how they feel

Yep. They just want to represent the tough guy image that other guys have managed to maintain for all this time...lol...to them, crying is a sign of weakness.

Peaces.

boys only usually cry if they get kicked in the "private parts"!!!
i've only ever seen one boy cry cause he was actually upset!! and he didnt care that he was crying infront of me and my best mate!! but boys don't usually ever cry.......... and actually thinking about that i want to know why they don't cry aswell......................
luv RaNdOmGaL xxx

Like ~*Just Me*~ , I am not a dude, but i hate to cry infront of people. It may sound dumb, but I don't like to show my emotions. In my way of thinking, crying or getting overtly angry, or even giddy is a sign of weakness - that you can't control your own mind and what you do. I also don't want to reveal how I'm feeling because I don't want people to take advantage of that. Emotional people lose their judgement. So I chose to tame my feelings and let them out in other ways that won't make me look stupid or weak, while also protecting myself from others.

Well, I'm sure you meant stupid.

im girl i dont let myself cry bc i feel it will bring others down also i feel its making me weaker i have to b the strong one in my family the one who keeps it all together

Yet in another post you just posted you say "you're ready to disappear" Please tell me, how's that work?

I'm a guy, and a lot of it is just pre-programming. You feel that as a guy you can't cry, not only coz it shows weakness, but because u have to be strong to support other people (women) in their times of need. I know this is a stupid way to look at it especially in a moderen world and i don't feel this way, but this seems to be what thousands of years of men acting tough has resulted in. Even knowing this i find that i have severe difficulty in crying even when really upset and in the privacy of my own home. Also past problems have hardened my heart making it more difficult.

it's spelled stupid not stoupid

I don't believe crying shows weakness. Actually I think quite the opposite...I find a man (or anyone I guess) stronger when they can cry in front of you. The first time my ex-boyfriend cried in front of me I was in total shock...in a way it made me respect him more as he let his tough man guard down and showed who he really was and that is hard for people to do.

My bf cries...alot.....more than I do, well more than i let ppl know about....hmmm...Its funny. We have such a role reversal in our relationship. I am the one who wants to go out, watch football, or nascar, go to rodeo, hang out with the boys....and he is the one who wants to cuddle, and complains about me doing laundry the wrong way.

Some guys cry, and some guys don't. Same with chicks. I'm a chick and I don't cry. I see it as a weakness. And honestly if I had a bf that cried alot I wouldn't hold much respect for him. A little tear now and there is fine, but if you see him blubbering like an idiot over A Walk To Remember. It's annoying...Mainly becuase I want to be the one blubbering like an idiot and having a bf laugh at me and tell me its just a movie. I dunno that's just who I am
~*Freak*~

ive seen quite a few guys cry!! umm i think its to do wit wat u guys all said and also how close you are to them. hmm...

Pride Holds Back The Tears...When The Truth Is...Strength Is In Your Tears....Being a "MAN" Is Being Man Enough To Let Go...And Everyone Knows That Crying Is Letting Go So You Can Wash Away The Hurt And Feel Better...And Its a Fact That Tears Actually Is Healthy For The Body?! xoxo-Nikki-xoxo

i like it better when guys show emotion and cry. maybe with only their girlfriend but at least they cry in front of you.. it does make them a man more than having to keep their pride and crap.

Robert Smith lied, boys do cry

As a guy, I must say that the main reason i never wanted to cry was because of my father. He always expected me to be the tough, grown-up man, ready to take over beig the man of the house. I never wanted to seem like i couldnt handle the job. Thats just my reason. There are many others. ~Drew

how did you guys get so off topic? *rolls eyes*