anyone who knows signs... or is just curious... PLEASE HELP

ok... a little story for ya... theres this guy who i used to talk to...(i'm gonna try to shorten this story for ya) anyway... we were talking and then he just decided out of no where to date his ex-girlfriend again! i was crushed and he knew what he had done!... (a little info.. he is 3 yrs older than me and his "ex-girlfriend" is 2 years...in school... but really only 3 months older than me) anyways... we still had a friendship/flirting relationship, which i knew was so wrong, since he dated someone... oh.. we ALL go to the same church... ok... so we went on this mission trip last week and of course he sat with me and not his girlfriend... they always do this... and we just assumed we were best friends through out the trip, well... on the 13 hr. drive back from the trip, we would casually scratch each other's backs (like friends do) and give massages and stuff, but the one thing that i have a question about was when it was later and i layed my pillow on his lap so i could sleep... and then he just leaned over my back so he could sleep... but, he just rubbed up and down my arm and stuff... and it was NOT just a casual thing...and i rubbed him on his leg all the way until we got back to the church... i know this may not seem like much, but i really needed to know a guy's opinion as well as any girls who have any idea of what it all ment!! please and thankyou!

ciao,
abcede

Uuuh....yeah. Maybe you two just got comfortable or something and...connected??

I dunno. :P

Peaces.

he's with his gf and as much as he might like you (maybe) and you like him, she's still there. he shouldnt have been doing that in the first place especially with his gf on the same bus (how stupid can a boy get?) my advice to you is, just be friends with him for the time being. and if he comes on to you again, explain how you feel about the situation.
-A

u 2 have got serious chemistry but before you can do anything he needs to chuck his gf, who must be well dense not to of seen something on this bus. what was it, a mile long? if my bf was with another girl on a bus i wouldnt be able to not look over at least everynow and then.

lv A, x

hehe.. yall are right.. but i do have to explain one thing.. i don't really think it was as serious as it seems... it wasn't me at all... it was him! and his g/f was on a different bus.. they NEVER do anything together! i've never done anything like that before.. (i've never been kissed) so i was sooo SCARED out of my mind!!!!!!

aww thats cute. but he is 3 yrs older than you. age might not be a factor for some ppl. but u havent been kissed so i think you need to take it slow with someone ur own age who doesnt have a gf. apparently he is confused with who he likes and thats wrong bc he is playing with both of ur emotions. u should just find another guy bc ive had guys act like they like me and it sux to be let down that way. he has feelings for both of you. ive done the same thing. i liked my ex and i would ALWAYZ flirt with him and i had a bf at the moment. so now i am back with my ex for the 4th time and i love him more than ever. oh sorry i started about my life. hehe email me if u want i know wat u feel like i dated a guy from my church b4. sparkles262003@yahoo.com
xoxo michelle

woah, harsh! i'm sorry... but did i get the point across that i didn't do anything... i didn't go.. hey, do this to me PLEASE because i want it o' so badly!! NO! but, ugh.. sorry- i do feel like a piece of crap, but u didn't have to rub it in worse!

u shouldn't feel like a piece of crap. we all make mistakes and im pretty sure everyone has flirted with a guy or girl who had a bf/gf.

u were a little harsh with her Brandon, she made it clear NOTHING happend. so ur saying that uve never flirted with a girl who had a bf? flirting isn't cheating and the guy is 3 yrs older so he shoulda stopped because apparently she is shy and isn't put in those postions everyday.

right im gonna be a little harsh here b/c i've been in that girlfriend's situation. you think getting mixed signals is bad...try betrayal of trust.

you shouldnt have laid on him, enough said. dont do anything else til he's single. you're just screwing with feelings here and making it harder b/c you're leading yourself on and making yourself think you have a chance right now b/c u did that, but he STILL has a girlfriend and it doesnt look like he's losing her at the moment. and of course this is hugely his fault too, especially as 3 years older he knows exactly what he's doing and he's probably screwing around with you to be honest.

sparkles: flirting isnt cheating? oh my gosh explain yourself.

flirting is acting in a manner that suggests that you feel more than just platonic feelings for someone.

cheating is showing more than platonic feelings for someone when you're involved with someone else.

now tell me that flirting with others while you're in a relationship isnt cheating.

ok brandon don't get all fiesty with me, i was just giving my opinion. I don't want to offend u or the post person. yes they were both wrong, but hopefully she learns that he is a cheater and she was wrong by letting him intimidate her. Its not all her fault, they both shouldve controlled their emotions for the fact that he had a girlfriend. him being 3 yrs older as well, he shouldnt of let it happen. im just saying its hard to control how u feel when u like someone and u cant have them.

inmyworld: i mean that flirting isnt cheating because cmon like get real its just natural for ppl to flirt with e/o. im not saying either of them are right but, im pretty sure everyone who likes a guy that has a gf is going to flirt with him and chances r they're going to flirt back. yeah thats just playing with feelings well then its their own fault. but i just gave it some thought and i thought about what if my bf did that. i would b majorly p/o and i would kick the chicks a$$. so ive had a change of heart. i still dont think flirting is cheating but, to me i dont think they were flirting, they just took it too far.

thankyou gabrielle.. the thing is this.. he ALWAYS flirts with me.. sayin "i love you" or what not.. and he does this while goin out with his g/f.!! and when a guy says that to you.. what are u supposed to think.. i mean.. i have never been treated like that before! so.. i ate it up

that happend to me before i felt like i was the only person in the room. and then he would say something about the girlfriend or you would rember her. I finally went and talked to him and he broke up with his girlfriend and now me and him have been dating for almost 7 months. the only thing is in might not be that good but i hope it is.
Good luck
Emma