Broken

The guy I like - Adam - broke my heart. We have known eachother for a while and we hangout a lot. Recently, we have been seeing more of eachother. We held hands, sat togeher in church and he kissed me once... and I really started to like him. I thought the feeling was mutual, so I wanted to tell him how I felt, so when he asked me to lunch one day, I decided I'd bring it up then. But before I could say anything, he mentioned he wouldn't be at church because he was going to see his girlfriend on Richmond. I didn't know what he meant by girlfriend (friend who's a girl or dating type girlfriend), so I left the whole subject alone. The following Sunday he brouht her to church with him and I saw them kissing before the sermon... I haven't stopped crying since. I can't answer his call, much less look him in he eyes anymore because I feel used and betrayed. I don't know what to do.

It's funny, I'm usually the one giving it, but I could really use some advice...

-- Maharani of Angels

hey... I know how you feel. some people might think i'm too young to be writing this but I'm going to anyway.
Your problem sounds really close to mine. I cried loads afterward... But one thing I regret not doing was talking to him about it. I thought that If I ignored it it might go away. I thought that if I pretended to be okay with it then I would be fine. But I wasn't. You really need to confront him and tell him how it made you feel. Maybe he didn't realize it. Sorry if those aren't the words you're looking for.
Good luck. Be strong.
xox
Ariel
PS
Tell me how it goes if you do listen to me.

ok, what kind of kiss was it? just a kiss on the cheek or a peck on the lips or like full on making out? cuz if it was any of the first 3 then thats more of a little sister or best friend type of kiss if u ask me.. and maybe because you liked him, you read into it a little too much... or maybe he wasusing you... either way if i were you i would talk to him about it.. and i would hecka introduce myself to his gf and if he doesnt wanna talk about it, tell his gf exactly what happened, cuz she deserves to know, just as much as you deserve an explanation for him kissing you... anyways, i dont really know what else to tell ya.. hope stuff clears up and gets bet ter for ya! *KISSES*~Corrie

Ariel, you're not too young to give advice. I may be four years older, but today, you are the wiser. Your words are helpful and I should conscider them and likely will. Thank you.

Corie: Thank you as well. You added insight on the other end of the spectrum. As for their kiss, I saw tongue, so it wasn't a little sister/best friend hing, which was the same for ours... Yes, I do feel used. Maybe that's the case here.

I don't know for sure, but I just can't bring myself to even think of talking to him without breaking down. He was the first guy I ever felt that way for, and I fear that it may be ruined because of this. I may be angry, but I don't want to lose him, either...

Still up thinking about this... I haven't slept well since last week when it happened.

hmm... I think that no matter how much it hurts, you have to confront him. Trust me. getting the truth might kill you. It might hurt but it will be all for the better. You need to tell your self, "I was fine before him, so I will be fine after." I know it seems like the end of the world but it's only the end of the street. you need to find a different map.
good luck again
xox
ariel

i really think you need to talk to him about it all. and tell him that he cant jus play you like that.. i hate guys like that.
but goodluck!!
xx

Thank you guys for your continued help. Now I just have to find the gaul to confront him...

-- Maharani of Angels

Hey, I agree with all thats been said, it does sound like he has used you in a way, or maybe he was confused at the time. I do suggest talking to him, or write him a letter/email if you can't face talking to him.
I know you may not wanna hear this, but even if he isn't the "right" guy, you've still got God on your side and he'll never leave you.

Thanks, Becky. *hugs*

-- Maharani of Angels

Well, I talked to him. I think that made things worse. He called me stupid and asked how I could've mistaken that, but I fought back, asking how he could mess with me when he had a girlfriend [probably not the smartest thing to say...]. He walked away, telling me to "lose his number", got in his car and sped off. I'm angry, but worried about him.

-- Maharani of Angels

He sounds like a complete and utter moron!! Well done for standing up for yourself!!!! Many hugs!! :-) xxx

(By the way I am "Becky" just altered my name slightly) xxx

ive just read whats happened n agreed with everythign that everyone had said. im glad u followed what everyone said, i know rite now u dont feel that good about urself or what has happened at the moment but u got rid of a complete twat (excuse my language) at least now u an move on from this guy, u know where u stand with him, u know that hes not good enough for u and uve got a lucky escape. take care sweety, souround urself with friends, films and choc and come monday ull be smiling again!

take care and email me if u wana shoulder!
xxxLoUxxx

Thanks, you guys... You are the best friends that I never had. *hugs*

-- Maharani of Angels

I'm sorry to read that it went bad =\

I don't mean to go against the way you may think of him, but from what I've read he sounds like a complete idiot. I'm sure you'll find way better guys in the future who give a damn about the actions they choose to put on you. Hope you are healing up.

-Rachel