/*/*Is being a good girl a bad thing????

ok compared to my boyfriend i am waht i guess people call a "good girl" i mean i went to a catholic shool from kindergarden to 8th grade. I have strong opinions about what i want to do and don't want to do with a guy and when i try and tell my boyfriend this he's like..."this isn't bad. Its ok to do this stuff. it doesn't make you a whore or anything" and i can't explain to him that i'm just not the type of girl who's into doing that kind of stuff. i mean i'll have sex with a guy if i think he's the one (haven't yet but thats a different story) but as far as the other stuff goes...i'm just not into it. My boyfriends like "u can't say something bad about it if u've never done it" i mean he's right but how do i tell him that i'm just not into doing that kind of stuff. i don't see the point... how does doing that stuff show u love them...thats what sex is for lol. I mean i'm just stuck. any advice?

I know exactly what you're dealign with. I'm in the same stero-type because I've grown up in a strict household and people always leave my high moral up to 'oh she just hasn't done that yet.'

DONT LET ANYONE CHANGE YOUR VALUES AND WHAT YOUR INTO. if you're bf cares about you then he'll respect that you're not into kinky stuff and you have some self respect. If he keeps trying to pressure you into doign something you're not comfortable with them get rid of him.

There is NOTHING wrong with being how you are..it makes you a better attraction to guys because you're not some slut who'll do anythign to anyone.

Thank you so much. That helped alot. ITs just at times its so hard to say no when ur body is saying yes, ur mind is saying no, and ur heart just wants to keep loving him. But thatnx again. I apprecialte it.

i agree half and half with what has been said. firstly i gota say that being kinky or whatever doesnt make u a slut or anything, its just a bit of an experiment with ur bf. dont change urself from him, but i think that maybe u see sex or sexual acts as a bad thing from the sounds of ur upbringing. get into ur head that its not a bad thing to do, BUT dont do it if ur not comfortable with it. just be urself and dont change for anyone. if he loves u he'll want u to stay the same
take care
xxxLoUxxx

but thats just the thing....i can't figure out who i am anymore. everythingi so confuzing and i don't know what the real me would do because i've lost the real me.

im sry ur so confused sweetie.. u just need to find urself.. and be WHO YOU ARE.. no one elce.... its not a bad thing to be a "good girl" im personally not.. but i envy those who are... u just be who are... dont worry about what others think.... u need to be true to urself and thats it.... take care

*~peace and love~*

Well done! If you want to hold out for the right guy then I have alot of respect for you. Don't let your boyfriend pressure you into anything you don't want to do. Remember it's your life not his and he has no control over you. It's nothing to be ashamed of it just shows what you want in life. So again I will repeat don't get pressured into anything you don't want to do...

I agree with Amante 100%. There is nothing wrong with being a good girl at all. I mean its true, a guy wants a girl with morals, yeah he'll use a slut but never truly love her and want a relationship. I kinda went thru that and i made the mistake of giving in. (not all the way) in the end i regreted it more than anything. u should never have to change the way u think or feel bc anyone wants u to, especially a guy. if he really loves and cares for you he will stop pushing it and wait until ur ready to do wat u want, when u want. if he tries to pressure or force you 2 do anything well then just dump him and find a guy who will respect ur morals and over all u. hope i could help. email me if u like sparkles262003@yahoo
xoxo michelle

Agreed ^^ I was with somebody who tried forcing me to do things i wasn't comfortable with, when I said no he got pissed off and nearly dumped me. At those times I should of dumped him but I didn't. I wish I had finished with him WAY before he finished with me.
I am known as a "good girl" too, I do not rush in to anything with guys, I've never had a detention in my life & I work hard at school. I've never given in to my morals, it does upset me sometimes but I don't wanna have a bad reputation. So if he is saying this stuff, then he may not be all worth it. Don't make the mistake I did and become way too blind to see what hes doing. If hes making you feel uncomfortable, tell him, if he does it again, think about where its going. xxx

I agree. ^