Kids and relationships

So I've been reading posts where kids ranging from 12 - 16 are complaining about not being in a relationship. To be honest with you guys. Don't cry over it, don't stress over it, it's not the end of the world. You should care less whether or not you're in a relationship. You don't need one. You're too young to even be thinking about committments. The only thing you will find is the pain. You will be happy with them, but how long will it honestly last? It's not worth it. Think about your future first, and once your priorities are set, then you can venture off into the dating world. Enjoy your youth kids, it's the best years of your life. Stop trying to act older, because when you finally hit those digits, you'll be looking back and wishing to relive your past. Wait it out, it won't hurt. It will actually be better that way. Enjoy.

you know what, i agree with you.....i've been so worried about guys and everything, and now that i'm 15, i've come to realize guys are jerks (most of them my age are, anyways...) and that i don't need to be so caught up in being in a relationship right now, i mean, i wouldn't mind a relationship, but lately they seem like too much work...and i have been missing being a little kid lol....but yeah, i do agree....(i'm not saying that i wouldn't start dating someone if i really liked them, and i do worry about it sometimes, but i'm not going to let it take over my life....or i'm going to try to not let it take over my life)

-brittnay-

p.s. sorry for rambling, i probably didn't make any sense.....i'm really tired lol

Hmm you're only 19.

I agree with you in some ways. I don't believe in the age thing, however. I don't think you have to be 21 to know how to realize love when you see it. I DO think it's stupid how a lot of girls go to school and see other girls in relationships and then decide it's real cute and they want one too. If that's the case, wait for a relationship. Until you think you are mature enough to handle one, you should stay away from them. I'm proud to say I've only had one boyfriend and we had to break up because he moved away. We're still friends though and stay in contact and even write some poems together. So I don't think I'm doing SO bad so far =P

i agree here, u can fall in love at any age but still cant people wait to find it. when i was 12/13/14 i was still running around the spay ground, listenin to tunes and playin tig, not tryin to get my crush to like me! hehehe in fact i was still playin games at 15!!! hehehe
just hold of the 'romance' till u know what its all about. just enjoy bein a kid cos u only get a few yrs compared with the life time of adulthood. enjoy urself and dont get beat up about feelings! take life one step at a time, dont 'run' before u can walk

xxxLoUxxx

dorien, i used to follow your piece of advice.. i know we should have better things to do on our -- to do list-- but what i feel is that we're not wandering into the dating world-- it's just a guess and check thing... if i have a boyfriend and things don't work out i can breakup and find another one... it's just a way of findin the right person.... if i start dating at the age of 25 i won't know the male gender too well and there won't be enough time to guess check with other guys...
and about school work-- I'm an A+ student-- never gotten anything less then a 95%... so my studies are important to me too......

I'm in love, and commited at the age of 16....It's true, i did spend a long time searching for that love too, believing something was wrong with me for not finding it before.

I was wrong to search, but i was right to stop and find it on it's own feet.

Don't generalise teenagers, you'd be suprised at what us children find at young ages.

i agree with some of what u r saying BUT, no matter wat age we r we r old enough to be in a commitment. ppl who go looking for relationships need to just stop and let things run their own course. i mean i am pretty much an A student and i have many goals, and im still in a commitment. i think its better to go thru a major heartbreak once that way u learn nothing lasts forever. i get wat u r saying but its just natural to want to feel loved and experience the dating world while ur younger.

'The only thing you will find is the pain.'
thats not always true, u have to go into a relationship knowing that there is a chance of being hurt. thats just a risk u have to take and not all relationships end up in pain.

Kids that age are too young to experience such heartbreak we can go through. It's not good for them. Relationships can get in the way of school, friendships, family life... Young teenagers can get too wrapped up and too attatched that when it goes bad everything suffers. I don't advise it.

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yea but its just a part of life, u dont ask for it to happen. it just does. its a risk u just kinda have to be willing to take.

I sorta get what your saying but I don't fully agree. Yes there are many younger people that are getting into relationships at a younger age eg 12/13 and although I never really was in to guys until 14, its their own choice. I've been with my boyfriend for 17 months and I'm 16 years old. My boyfriend & I have lasted longer than any other people I know so we can't be that bad. And yes our relationship isn't 100% happy all the time and there is pain involved but to be honest its worth it in the end. I've been through hell, I'm not going in to it but hes helped me through it. I won't say hes "the one" or we're "meant to be" because I think its too early to say, I hope we are though because he is really special to me, & I do love him. People can slag us off all they like saying we won't last, but we've lasted for 17 months AND still going strong!! We act imature sometimes getting in touch with our inner child and everything and we do act like kids, so we're in a relationship but we're still enjoying our youth.
Sorry for going on and on, not having a go, simply saying my opinion. xx

I agree, there is no age limit on love, but if you come across that 'one' special person, I'm not going to wait until I'm 21 to date him. I've been with Austin (my boyfriend) for 6 months now. It may not seem like a long time to you, but it is to me. I love him, and if I had waited to date until I was older, I would have of been so happy right now. He's my best friend, my everything. Yeah, I'm 14 years old. It's not like I went to school LOOKING for Austin. I really had no intentions of being in a serious relationship, then I found him, and I'm so happy. I wouldn't have it any other way.

lmao..... brandon i sooo agree with you.. i read his profile too..... right..... apparently he didnt have a great past.. so i say just cuz he didnt find love doesnt mean anyone else cant...

i didnt mean anything bad... i mean i just think he is judging ppl to much... ive bin with my bf for 6 months and i am an A student. he just expects ppl not to have a relationship.... i dont know i cant put it in words wat i mean

basically.... plain and simple its a part of life.. i meant to put that in the other post...

he is just very sad and needs to find love in his life

that's exactly my point brittany..
I never said its impossible to find love at that age.
I may seem like a really depressed kid because of the poetry I write, but you really don't know me.
So you cannot judge me based on my profile. I know what it's like to fall in love and break it off. You need to read my post over to understand what I'm trying to say

OK first of all, for those of you that read my profile and found it strange. Whatever..

This thread wasn't intended for EVERYONE. I never named names or singled anyone out. Of course there are a few people who are fortunate to find the right person. Not everyone is lucky. So I don't understand why you people think I'm attacking you. It's called an opinion, and everyone is entitled to their own. I never said anything about people SHOULDN'T be in a relationship at that age. I just said it shouldn't be the most important thing. When you read something, make sure you understand it first, before you post anything.

Sean, if you read your post and my post, you are arguing two totally different points.

*sparkles* it is true you have to take a chance. When teens get into a relationship, and break up, sometimes they don't know what to do. The pain is too strong for them. What do they do then? Read some of the post those kids who write about cutting, look at their reasons.

brandon..ur remark was severly uncalled for. europe is far better then america

acually
CANADA is the best nation to live, and has been for the past 5 years. that has been statistically proven. See, us Canadians, we dont go around killing our own, unlike you ungratefull americans who shoot up anyone that pisses u off. we are much more civilized

yeah was baout to say...im not a guy and read my profile

woo..im gettin dizzy..i need food..later all

if shes a dumb little girl then why are u arguing with her? obviously if shes a dumb little girl she'll never be able to comprehend what u say. however, she can comprehend what u say, and does have grounds to back her up.
also, there are many countires out there that would like nothing better to do then blast the shit out of America. the only thing stopping them is they dont want to start a nuclear world war.

......u truly are a tunnel vissioned disillusioned boy. america isnt the only country to have technology like that.

why would i want to learn about an army who sends the poor to fight? especially when i myself am not an american citizen and never want to be?
ur recruiters go to the poor states and cities to get those that fight, tempting them with *free* schooling and money. only downside to that is u have high chances of DYING when a war breaks out. i know nothing? apparently i do. quanity and qaulity? no. not even close. china acually has better quality and qauntity.

for the record. stop calling me kid. ur ignorance to what is around is astounding. im 3 yrs ur senior.

if they dont know what quality is, then how coe they have the most advanced technology? for obvisous reasons, the 2 go hand in hand.

no, ur army does not force ppl to join. instead it tempts them, using their lack of knowledge to get them to join. pride in being free? so does canada.
and for the better of the world? no. the wars the US fight are not for the better of the world, but for the profit of america itself. have they found any WMD's in the east? no. has that war cost a great number of ppl their lives? yes. has anything good come out of that war? no. u caught sadam, but that hasnt stopped the fighting now has it? u know what the real goal of that war is? to get the oil. why? because ur so in debt from starting the war, u need loads of money(which would come from the oil) to get out of it. i ask you this, would u give ur life for ur country? even tho you know what ur fighitng for is WRONG? and if u dont believe its wrong, then ur just an idiot, believing the lies ur government is telling u.

havnt u ever noticed that all the military is, is guns and nukes and armored transportation with men to operate it?

would u look at that..the kid ran away. sorry boy, did u run out of bs to use as ur arguments?

iraqi freedome eh? i know of it. but...if ur fighting to free a ppl...why are they fighting back? have i heard of the world trade center incident? yup. who hasnt? o and guess what. ur news is ALSO controlled by the government u stupid twit. well acually..no one attacks canada. why? because we have helped pratcically every nation in the world. an attack against canada is an attack against the rest of the world. hmm..lets see..america and canada had at least...3 or 4 wars in history...we beat them back each time and even burned down the whitehouse. operations to what? attack and kill the ppl that are fighting for u to get out because they dont want u to rule over them? that somehow makes sense to me.

yeah....maybe you should read more then just ur history books. and yeah. u guys started the war and are in debt by billions of dollars.

i dunno..maybe another 9/11 will teach u that america isnt that great. obvisouly, it happened for a reason, and u wanna know why? cause u pissed the hell out of the ones that caused 9/11. hmm..i wonder what the ppl in iraq are calling u? im pretty damned sure they're calling u americans terrorists as well

this is getting repetitive....

im out.

holy hell! we got a sexist redneck! stop talking to us little kid, wait till ur balls drop

and now hes the pussy running away. good job brandon, gotta hand it to yeah, following ur own advice

Brandon I would rather kill you, because you're pretty pathetic. You talk a lot of shit for someone who doesn't know alot. You're like a walking hypocrit. Just because people are better than you doesn't mean you have to take it out on them. You're an asshole, I'm surprised you have a gf. But then again you must be an abusive bf and she has no choice. Way to go, you're just another statistic in the US. It's funny how this comes from a kid who thinks he's right about every decision he's made.

You're really stupid for jumping on the patrotic American bandwagon. First of all, America's civil was was worst than World War I and II put together, get that fact straight. America has the highest homocide rate out of all the countries in the Untied Nations. People wouldn't attack Canada, becase we're not ignorant assholes who think we're better than everyone. The reason why people hate America, is because America think it's better than everyone. Canada is ranked number 1 for the best country to live in while America is ranked 10th. The English pound is worth more than American dollar. And the Israeli army is larger than the American per capita. Korean weapons are more deadly than America's. So don't think you're better than anyone. You needed help from the French to win your war for Independence, and you hate the French. Talk about ungrateful assholes. Canada has never withdrawn itself from a war. You backed away from Vietam. So when you learn about politics, come back and talk to me.

darien...thank you soo much for wording what i said anbd then some in a much better way. *applause*

no one makes fun of Canada and gets away with it