WHere do i even begin

ok my first love the one...i love him and i know he loved me...we were together for 6 months and i had no dout he loved me...but ever since i went into a rehab center for my addiction he just went all out he is breaking his proabtion and be soo stupid....he is 19 and he has a curfew at 8:00 pm and is always out past it....doing drugs like extasy and pot and if he is caught breaking his probabtion he is going to prison from 5 to life....we are still freinds and stil love each other but he wanted a break...but i still love him more then anything....and im not just worried about him im worried about his mom his 2 sisters are both in prison for life.....she is gonna be heart broken i dont want to imagine his mom going through that i watch parents going through sooo much at my rehab treatment center i just ooo my gosh im trying and trying to get through his head.....he wont listen what can i do

ur going to hate my advice but here it is... i had a friend who had a bf like that and he is currently locked up and i told her to just forget him. i mean its bc of his own mistakes that his mom, sisters, and u r in pain. how can he want a brake when he's locked up? i think that is a very unhealthy relationship and no matter how much u love him u need to pull urself out of it, bc having a relationship with a guy like that doesnt help.
if he really cared about anyone other than himself he wouldnt of screwed himself over like that.
my advice to u is find a guy who isnt in trouble and is younger. hope i could help

I totally agree with you Sparkles

i agree too..it may be hard but it needs to be done... luv yas mwah good luck

-kayla-

I agree. and hun you cant change a mans ways, they will do what they please

he's not worth it but if he gos to prison and you really do care bout his mother that much you can talk to her and comfort her after the inevitable happens

nicely said shy, i like your advice

thanks guys im gonna call in and talk to his parole officer and turn him inim not gonna bring myself down he is a petifile.....

oh i didnt put in the fact he tried to have sex with a 13 year old and 15 years old who are the cousins of my best friend.....he denied it but i know for a fact he did......he cant get anyone his own age he is 19 years old and those girls stood him up....i think he is pathetic.....but for some read i stilll love him more then anything still....but hate his guts at the same time its confusing

im still struggling i miss him so much but he is the biggest jack ass and i just wanna yell at him and tell him exactly what i think but if i told him he would hate me....and i am scared of him hating me cause i still love him god i cant get over him and i have the sweetest boyfriend right now and for some reason it doesnt feel right like i feel like i need to keep trying to work things out with my ex im so confused last time i talked to him, afterwards there was nothing else but to kill myself which is not me at all, i relapsed on pot and ever since ive been smoking it everyday but i wanna quit but im scared its the only thing thats keeping me from killing myself i need so much help and usually can talk to my parents but if they find out ive been smoking pot i dont want to imgine what would happen

Pot isn't the only thing keeping you alive. YOU are the only thing keeping you alive. If you really wanted to be dead right now, with or without the pot, you would be.

If you still have feelings for your ex, you shouldn't be with someone else. Maybe you need to stay single for a while and work on moving on before starting new relationships, because its unfair to your boyfriend and to yourself. As for your ex, he sounds like a pathetic loser and you can do so much better.

And about your parents finding out you've been smoking pot again - if you don't want them to know, then its simple. STOP! You have the willpower to do it, you just need a little motivation. Use your anger at your ex to motivate you into stopping. Use it as your fuel. It will help you move on from both your ex and your addiction.

thanks tanya ive never been wit a guy if i dont think its fair...you know like i still have feelings for my ex but my boyfriend means so much to me....he knows i still have feelings buthe says he can change that and i talked to him the other day and i told him what i have been doing and he said please stop just throw away what you have left and please please do your best and i did it i just dont want my ex to think that im moping around about him i wanna call him up and just say your such a jack ass im not sorry for anything you turned it around on me but i relized it was you who was putting us through shit....i wanna just yell at him!!!!! anyways but yea i have a very sweet boyfriend and i care about him alot....we have gone through alot of the same stuff....we were both sexually abused but he was by a guy and his abuser got him hooked on coke so he is getting help right now and we just get along so well and are there for each other.....