what does a parent have to do?

yeah it might have to do with where you live, but for me i would say when they hit you a lot and hit you hard for doing something that you really should not have gotten hit for and i also think it's an age thing, the older you are i think it should be abuse because but the age of 13 which you are i think you should be able to discipline your self, but that’s me. I guess you have to look it up for where you live or ask and adult or cop or something

www.therapistfinder.net/Child-Abuse/Physical-Abuse.html

Hi i live in the uk. erm you could ring up childline and get some advice about what is classed as abuse. But i agree, its the intent behind the hitting rather than the hitting itself. your parents are wrong to say its if it doesnt make a mark, because some serious injuries leave no mark at all (ones that can cause death). but yes you should ring childline and ask them. i jist looked it up and got this ;

A physically harmed child is a child who is, not by accident, physically harmed by the person in whose care he or she is.

so there ya go. xxx

you can discipline kids without being abusive. in fact, when they get older, it'll be easier to be disciplinary if you avoid any kind of abuse.

I don't think corporal punishment is a good idea at all. may be I'm just bleeding hearted that way.

I think kids should be treated no different than your friends. You don't spank your friends, do you? I mean, unless you're into that sort of thing.

In many cases of domestic abuse the husband will injure his spouse in means of not leaving a mark, but it's still abuse-for instance-if u hit someone in the temple on the side of their head, no matter how hard,it wont leave a mark. All i'm saying is i agree with the rest, it's all about the intent of the inflicter.

YES

the guy sounds like he has serious emotional instabilities and probably shouldn't be around...people. let alone kids.

I completely agree with Bob. In my opinion, kids would be a lot better today if they received a spanking once in awhile.

I remember getting beatings when I was younger. Looking back now, I guess I deserved every one of them...I wasn't a bad kid, I just attempted some daring stunts. I loved jumping off of high places.. Once, I jumped off the 2cd story roof and sprained my ankle. As if that wasn't punishment enough, I had to listen to 50 different lectures from my dad, my mom hit me with the ruler and I was grounded for a long, long time.

well hitting a child in england if it is intensial hurting is illigal nd the parent can be jailed nd banned from seeing there kids or wife or husband!!! ive been abused since i were 3 nd im 15 now nd i hate every minute of it im to scared to go to the poice but i get bashed nd kicked nd beaten everynight nd i have to make shitty excusees of how i feel down the stairs but it is defo illigal!!!!

I got my ass whipped...i wasn't abused, i just used to get my spankings.

Best believe i mind my mama...lol.

But anyways...i heard that a parent needs to leave a mark(s) as physical proof of abuse. And that's all i've heard. I don't know anything otherwise.

Peaces. //Ari\\

Drea-

Despite your fears, you need to get and go. For your own sake, just get help.

Peaces. //Ari\\

its still calssified as abuse if they dont leave am mark i jstu dont think that they can press charges on the person that hit tha victim unless there is a mark bc other wise theres no proof......but yes ur dad or mom or whoever it is that is doing this to u or ur frend or whoever wutever the reason asked this for.....they are getting abused

yeah i dnt know if the court wud press charges if dey didn't leave a mark but when they break bones bruise ya nd stuff like that (like me) then you cud prosicute if your not to scared to do it!!!!

DepressedGal I think it's a little late and you have already told us what you didn't want to tell us. As for the leaving a mark, no it does not have to leave a mark, but it is a lot easier for the police to charge the abuser if there is a mark. And it is a lot more likely that it will go anywhere in court. But it does not mean that you can't get help if you are mark free. One bruise, one cut, one shadow, and you can get out of there scott free. But emotional scars are a lot easier to see if you let them show, than any bruise can be.
~*Freak*~

Fark! :D

And depressed gal i think its safe to say you just confirmed my suspicions. Talk to a councellor, talk to someone. Emotional abuse is almost worse than physical
~*Freak*~

ARI! How are those richard simmons clones?
~*Freak*~

It's horrible man....those speedos....they're...gone...

I'm glad they are gone...wait omg..the speedos or the clones :O
~*Freak*~

The...speedos...there's nothing now....just....Richard...doing jumping jacks....

Omg..Ari just ewwww man...Is it all floppy?

RandomGal- seek councelling, they can help you decide what to do
~*Freak*~

Picture Richard Simmons naked doing jumping jacks *shudders*
~*Freak*~

well why dnt you just tell us about what you think it might be nd what they do so we can tell you if it is or not!!! im used to being beaten as it has been happening to me since i were 3 believe me its not nice i have bruises all over me nd i have had so many broken ribs!!! plz sey it!!!!!
luv drea XxX

Well I don't know about her but I beleive many people already told you that it was. And I think it is as well
~*Freak*~

Call someone. You may or may not get taken away from your parents. They may just be ordered to take classes, maybe you will get taken away, but wouldn't you rather that than get taken away? And if it's just your father, they may ask him to leave and you can stay with your mother, if she agrees to leave him.Call children's aid. Call the police. There are many places you can call.
~*Freak*~

just sit them down and be like i have something i wanna tell you cause i really need some help on what to do. and tell them that ur dad hits you and you dont know what to do
~*Freak*~

Yes...you need to get help. Nobody deserves a life like this...

And yes Fark, it WAS floppy. O.o

Eww you'd think with all those exercises he does he'd get it nice and firm
~*Freak*~

LMAO!

That's just gross. *shudders*

i no that in england if the kid gets hit and it leaves a mark it is illegal and is an arrestable offence. that changed in january. I don't agree with hitting kids if it does leave a mark...at all.

yeah i know how you feel i would love to get my dad taken away from me but then ma mum wudn't want me anymore!!
its a really hard decision i was gunna tell ma mate but then coz i know she cares loadz about me she wud probs just tell some1 like a teacher i think u shud tell some1!! i know thats really like me being a hypocrit nd all but like.. yeah!!! i know how hurtful it is after they have hurt you nd u wanna tell some1 but ur just far to sared if ya wanna talk just email me on sxydrea123@hotmail.com

coolio!!!