Please someone give me advice any advice

okay my friend didnt get locked up cuz his court date moved, we decieded to celebrate. Drinking. well yeah I got smashed and called my b/f on his friends cell considering my b/f doesnt have a phone with him. and he lives in a different town. and so he doesnt like it when i call. well he was like what have i told you about calling, and i was like dont come down because i wont be home. and he was like whats wrong and i told him and he got mad at me. but yet he can come to my house smashed. Im beginning to think he doesnt care about me, and the only reason he comes down is to get laid. i would dump him but i love him way to much, b/c he was my first love. i dont want to jump to conclusions because last time I did that, I lost him for 2 1/2 years. that was so painful. what should I do

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well sounds to me like he doesnt give a shit....he doesnt care about you like you do about him....regardless of what you think....you cant even call him...im sorry but what shit is that and i mean it sounds to me like he has a temper about him....i dono my advice would be to leave him...you can do better and you know it bc if u didnt think you could do better you wouldnt be asking for advice on here...you know what you sould do....so do it! good luck....luv yas mwah

-kayla-

Him being your first love is not a good reason to stay with him. If that's the only reason you feel you need to stay, then I duggest you find somebody better.

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You can't change someone else from who and what they are. Your only choices are to stick with him or leave him. If you think this kind of guy who treats you so shabby is what you deserve, then maybe you need to deal with your own self esteem.

thanks, i guess i probably should

Apparently he doesn't care. If the only reason he goes down is to get laid well then what does that tell you? Just dump him. Whose bf doesn't want his gf to call? how gay..... You need a guy who actually cares and isn't using you. Bc it seems like he is.

First love is usually like this for a girl, they usually just dont work. If he did that then you shouldn't take that from him. You're stronger then that my dear, if anyone does that to another person in a relationship...then they shouldn't have to take it from them. Just let go, I know its hard...but part of learning is from pain and heart break. If you cant let go...then this will only get worse. Keep your chin up. Cheers!

Tari

I think that you should talk to him, if he gets mad at you and stuff then he probably doesn't care as much as he makes out. If he loves you and he sees you're upset then he will be understanding and will do his best to reassure you and try to change.
If you pretend there's nothing wrong then things will get worse cos he'll think he can treat you this way and you'll still be there for him.
I don't know if i've been any help, sorry if i haven't. I hope things get better though.

I dont know he lives in a different town, and hasnt been down for over a week! Im a bit confused, wait this friday will be two. Im just a little hurt, that he doesnt call, or stop by, except to get laid. I dont know if thats his reason, but he says that, he can always get it from other chics too. so I dont know. He never use to treat me this way, and so I had a friend call him to tell him to come down to lincoln and tell him that i was having some issues he didnt show up at all. You'd figure that if your gurl had a Past of SI that you would come down, or at least call, he didnt eirther night, so that hurt even more, I dont know what his deal is anymore, I cant dump him, cuz i cant call him, and he only comes down once in a while, I feel so safe when Im around him, and always have a smile, and then when hes gone, all I can do is cry. Im so lost and confused

I think there's something wrong... talk with him and tell him you feel that he doesn't care for you.... and it sounds like you need to leave him..... don't stay with him just because he's you're first love-- find other reasons.. and if you can't then i think it's time for a break up... but i don't want you to jump to conclusions--- talk to him

if u need more help email me
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Love,
Ipsita

thanks yeah, he has been acting funny

wow this is a long time ago, funny you guys were all right