These Thoughts Won't Go Away!

Okay i know this is a little weird or whatever but okay when i was 13 i got pregnant by my boyfriend at the time. He moved to Okalahoma before i could tell him i was pregnant and when i was 3 months i had a miscarrige. But now ever since that day that i had my miscarrige and lost my baby i can't stop thinking about actually having a baby. Every day my feelings about it keep getting stonger and stronger and they won't seem to go away at all. I know that you shouldn't have a baby during school and all that stuff i know i know. I'm only a junior in high school yet i can't make these thoughts go away. I mean to make things worse a lot of my friends are having or have had babies and it just makes me think about it even more. It's the first thought when i wake up it's in my head throughout the day always and it's there when i go to sleep and i even dream about me actually being a mom. I know it's bad to have these thoughts but i can't make them go away. If you can give me any advice on what to do please help me!!!

~Maddi~

Rip your brain out. That should do it.

Thanks a lot but that wasn't very helpful i need something realistic!

~Maddi~

My sugestion is just think about it. Look at the statistics. Concider your goals. Make your self realize that its not the time.

Thank you guys so much for your help and answers. They meant a whole lot. Almost all of you gave me good advice. Thanks again.

Maddi

OMG that happened to you too? it never stops...

my suggestion for you babe, is just think of it, as something special that you can look forward too in the faaaaaaaaaaarr future, dont ruin it now. think about how the baby would feel, being that much younger than its mom, dont ruin your life now

I know what you mean although you were extremely young to have been doing anything at the age i understand what you mean about thinking bout it. I was raped and got pregnant and lost it around the 4th month and i still think well what if i had it....i mean there isnt much you can do about it besides tell yourself that all is done and there sint aything you can do about it.....hope this helped...luv yas mwah

-kayla-

Girl listen ! I don't want to hurt your feelings or sound like your mother or something but listen to this. I am 33 years old and have a 13 year old son (whom don't get me wrong I love to death) but I was 20 when I got pregnant (by choice) my boyfriend was almost 19 .And sometimes I wish I had of waited a few more years .When you have to wake up to a crying baby sometimes 5 times a night it is hard.You are sleep deprieved and will not do well in school (which you really do need )if you want to later find a good job to support your child.

Also your friends disappear very quickly cause guess what (you are now a drag to them) and they get tired of "guess what the baby did today"
There goes your social life and how do you feed the baby? Teens get pregnant everyday and I do not knock them for it . Whether they chose to keep the baby or not ...they do what they think is best for the baby
But a child is not yours for only 18 years or so but a lifetime .I also have a 5 year old and I have more patience with him than I did with my oldest . Cause I was ready to be a mom.
Take your time , enjoy life . Live it up ,there are many years ahead of you to enjoy a baby.
P.S I am sorry for your loss I also lost a baby and it is really hard

I say you should just try babysitting for ur friends and stuff and if u totally love it...if its ur passion do it

lol...a lot of funny posts on here!!
i guess it's the whole motherhood thing... i agree with some people though... it's not the right time...

Thanks you guys for posting it really means a lot. Look yes i did have sex at 13 and i started having sex at 12 and in all honesty i was pressured into it. It's really hard when you live in a small town and everybody knows your business and i know that that's no excuse but it's already done and there's nothing at all that i can do to change that so please don't judge me for the things i did when i was younger. and yes it is very hard to lose a baby especially at such a young age because i was so scared. but anyways i gotta go so ttyl!

Maddi

If anyone else has suggestions feel free to leave them thx.

I agree with the one who posted try babysitting first . It might turn around your thoughts . I think you'll make a great mom someday but give it a few years . K hope your feeling a little better now