Does this make me a Bad Daughter?

My mom was put in the hosptail because of her lungs are bad. As she smoked has astmha and COPD(a bad disease) I'll go on. She bad right now she in the ICU but I went there the next day seeing her strapped down with a mask on for oxgan killed me. I mean I feel like I need to be the strong on in my family as my dads an ass not caring about my mom and my two younger sisters crying all the time because of it.

But I not seen her for two days now. As it killed me the day I saw here in there but I take my sisters all the time telling them to tell my mom I love her. And now I was out for school for a week about a few things and with it starting how can I? We have one car my dad works and my two sisters go to different schools and they go later then he works. And what if my mom comes out of the hostpail and she needs someone there?

you're definately not a bad daughter...my dad had cancer and i was in the same position...but thing is when we talk about it now...dad says that he knew how hard it was for the family. some advice, look after yourself, go see your mum or even write her a card or something...just once...x x x

My uncle was sick in the hospital with emphysema which is also a lung disease (I guess you could say) It was so hard to go see him. I don't think you are being a bad daughter .It is so hard to see someone you love so much sick . And seeing them in a hospital bed is sometimes to much for some people to handle. If you find it hard to go write your mom a letter and tell her how you feel and that even though you find it hard to see her this way you still love her very much. Take care of yourself cause I think that is what she would want first and formost

Personally I think it's selfish. As your mother is suffering and going through a really rough time you are avoiding her as to not feel bad. While you are keeping yourself from feeling bad you are making her feel worse. Stay strong love and go see your mother...

i personally think that you being there with her will help her get stonger...she needs someone to be there for here and who better than her own daughter...im sure that if you were in the hospital no matter why or how bad it would be, that your mom would step up and be right by your side the whole time. go help your mom

Hun, listen it doesnt make you a bad daughter, I had a hard time seeing my dad in the hospital when he had a heart attack. and seeing the person that has taken care of you, now in a position you cant help, Its scary its not bad, as for you you should probably talk to a trusted adult, to get your feelings out, and have someone there for you. I konw how you feel my friends mom (which is like a second mom to me) is in the hospital, and shes not doing well eirther. good luck gurl, everything will turn out better, eventually

You're not a bad daughter. You are doing everything you can and are willing to do. No one likes to see their parents with oxygen or tubes and wires on them... It's disturbing. You have a lot of stress on you right now and it's normal to feel overwhelmed and helpless. Take a deep breath and try to think positively. I'm sure your father does care about your mom, but he sounds like a busy man and transportation is obviously tight... If you want to see your mom, take a public transit bus or see if your school bus can drop you off there. Your mom probably could use a kind face and some company - hospitals aren't the happiest places on earth. In the meantime, keep telling yourself it will be okay and you have no control over your mom's condition (it will and you don't, because you didn't make her get sick). It's good that you're talking to people, because you're letting these thoughts out. Try to relax a little and not stress out as much. With school starting, you have enough as it is. Try to crack a smile - it might make you feel better. ^_^