Anyone willing to help? Keep in mind...

Is anyone willing to help me? Please keep in mind that i'm in a very confused state right now and don't need people posting on this just to make fun of me. any help though would be fantastic.

I met this guy in May and since he has a girlfriend, we became friends only. but as time when on i started liking him more and more! like seriously liking him... like i can't stop thinking about him. anyway... so his gf treats him like a piece of crap and i feel so bad for him and i everytime he tells me he's sad i start to cry! I NEVER cry. only when my pets die... (dogs) and even then it's only like a tear. but i'm like sobbing when he tells me he's hurting and i don't stop until he says he's better. I think i'm in love w/ him but i don't want to be for the sake of my heart. what should i do? i can't stop talking to him cause that would kill us both but i can't stop feeling the way i'm feeling! i'm so confused! please help!

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Ariel

You cannot help and choose who you fall in love with, Even though you cry etc, It only shows how much you care for him. At least be happy that you two are friends for now and in the future maybe keep your mind open that you two could be something more, just remember how lucky you are hes your friend at least, not all of us are able to speak to the people we like.

Just be like,"DUDE Your girlfriend treats you like your $hit. You're better than that." Try to open up his eyes to the fact that his girlfriend sucks. If that doesn't work...kill his girlfriend. ;) Tell him how you feel. And if he runs away from you like a weakling than that will open up your eyes to that fact that you might be a jerk. Try some new things. Good luck. :)

^^ agreed but you probably dont want be so enthusastic as DUDE your girlfriends sucks but say something like "why don't you leave her then if she treats you badly" then sorta slowly get closer afterwards. and if thats doesn't work than ya go kill her

lol... yeah sometimes i want to kill her but i couldn't ever do that. thank you all so much for your help. it's so wonderful to hear that people are actually listening to my problems and trying to help. Thank you. And i dont know what to do about him yet but i'll keep talking to him no matter what. nothing could keep me from talking to him cause even though it kills me to talk to him, when i see him, i can't help but smile. but yeah i don't know how to talk to him about his gf. i mean he's broken up w/ her like 4 times but they keep getting back together. i just don't know why he's doing that to himself. lol... maybe i should kill her... :-P thanks everyone.

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Ariel

you don't want to mess around with him. number one, he already has a girl friend and number 2 if he's broken up with her 4 times already, what do you think he's going to do you?

he'll drop her for you and then go running right back to her again...just llike the 4 other times.

its ok to being falling for some one you may never get but some how ithink if you care for him this much and you obviously do you should tell him and by the way why would any one make fun of you i think alot of us have been in this postion before i know i have and its not fun well hope everything to turns out ok.

thank you so much. your words are really comforting. and he didn't break up with her. she broke up with him. but thanks...

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Ariel

Hey there. I know what you mean about thinking you love someone and believe me i have been there before and i am there right now so i can honestly relate to what you are going through. And like many other people have said you have no control over who you love it just happens. I think you should tell him how you feel about him and how his girlfriend hurting him makes you feel becuz you never know deep down he may feel the same way about you.

thanks... :)

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Ariel