ADVICE GIVERS... way long but.. it would mean a ton.. please

First I would like to say I agree with Bob.

Secondly, don't you think it is interesting that you broke up with him because you felt he didn't love you, but now you are trying to find a way to prove that you love him? Let's think about this shall we.

What conclusion did you come up with?

My answer: Honey, if you felt he didn't love you when you broke up, what makes you think all of sudden he loves you now. That's not love he's feeling, it hormones like Bob said. He basically flipped the script on you by telling you what you wanted to hear and at the same time making you feel guilty about it.

Kylie, I don't think your question can be accurately answered by people who don't personally. know you and your boyfriend. All guys may be alike in some basic ways but they are still individuals, having their own individual ideas and preferences. So there is really no way for strangers to determine what might make your guy feel convinced that your love for him is real. If I were looking for an answer to this kind of question, I would ask my boyfriend’s mother because she is one person who understands more about him than I do. I have a good rapport with her and I have sought her insight in the past.

If each of you have 19 months already invested in your relationship, I'd say you have something worth holding onto. I have several friends who have been in the same relationship since their mid teens and are now in their thirties. You didn't say what things you fought over, but I would bet that it was typically stupid stuff that wasn't even very important. That's very common among couples because they don't know how to discuss and resolve the important and deeper issues that are bothering them so instead they vent and argue over things like leaving the cap off the toothpaste. I think your relationship could benefit best by learning ways to improve communication and to resolve conflicts amiably before they become firestorms. Unfortunately, this is not the kind of thing you learn in school or that your parents teach you. But there are a good number of books and other resources that can help you. If you want, you can PM me for some specific recs. And I wish you all the best in dealing with this.