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ahh, I'm not sure where to go with this one. If you two are fighting over little things, then it could be possible that you're both expressing your wants and preferences, which is fairly healthy. On the other hand, having your wants and preferences stepped on by someone you love isn't very healty at all. My suggestion would be to work out a bit of an informal understanding. As I understand it, a great deal of lasting love is a sort of consensual compromise. Both of you might end up giving up the battle on some of the little things, not because you're avoiding a fight but because you care about the other persons' feelings and preferences too. This doesn't mean you should always let him win, but rather that sometimes he should give in and sometimes you should as well (and it wouldn't hurt to give in willingly. Don't think of it as a loss).

Well i think that the little fights actually help prevent a big one from comming out. If you discuss the little things or fight over the little things than at least you wont be holding it in until you explode. I think this is how it always goes, your in love and everything is fine but you fight over the little things. Me and my boyfriend always do it , we've been doin it for almost 3 years and i think that if we didnt talk to discuss the little things that bothered us than we wouldnt have lasted this long in the first place. You should always try to avoid them but if you cant dont worry , deal with them and then get back to loving eachother :) its healthy!

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