how do you let go of someone who's died?

A few people who I didn't really bother to take the time to know died a while back, and Im not sure whether to feel guilt or not.
One was a nun and the other a pianist/piano teacher.
I didnt cry at their funerals, and now I feel weird, like choked about it.
Im not sure what to do, any help, guys?

Sometimes we just couldn't cry. there's no need to feel guiltly...you will get over it in no time...

I lost my mom, brother, and sister on Easter Sunday and i didn't cry at the funeral but that doesn't mean nothing. Some of us dont cry during funerals and thats just the way you are. I dont know if you'll ever get over the fact that their gone but if you do then you'll know but no one knows when they will like take me for instant i dont know when i'll get over the death of my family and they passed Easter Sunday '03

After Charlotte (a rat that was very close to me) died, I didn't give myself time to mourn her, because people were pressuring me to get on with my life, because she was "only a rat", So I only cried for an hour, and then I felt guily for letting her death just slip away like it was no big deal. Try something to make the death sort of final, like for me I made her grave marker, which made me feel like I had honored her. Death is never an easy thing to get over, but it's a suggestion.

thanks a lot Lorraine

Elizabeth You Have My Best Wishes And Prayers In Your Time Of Morn, Crying Is Always The Ultimate Release For Pain....Lorraine's Example Was On The Money(Its Our Little Texas Saying For Great) I'm Sorry To You Lorraine Because I Too Loss a Pet That Was Dear To Me, And Everyone Laughed It Off And I Didn't...I Was Just a Kid And I Had To Except My Favorite Cats Death! *You Guys Are Beautiful For Helping* xoxo-Nikki-xoxo

hun i'm so sorry this has happened!! don't feel guilty because you didn't cry that often happens...however i'm not really sure what advice to give you...even though i've been through death it's always hard to accept and different for everyone.
take care hope you're ok xoxox

The real question is:
How do you let go of someone who is still living but who they used to be, who you used to love, is dead?

maybe you shouldn't let them go at all, just because they've changed.
But losing people or pets is very hard to cope with, and just admitting to yourself that they're not coming back, that they might have died a painful death but right now they're happy, thats difficult. Its hard not to have visual proof that theyre alright, only faith.

But how can you bear to hold on when it hurts to even try?

I'm with ness. I don't believe in letting go. The best way to move on is to live as though they would want you to. and you can't do that without holding them in your heart.