im confused

about 1 month this really skinny girl joined our class and she looked amazing so i went on a diet like i first stopped eating junk and then started skipping meals because i'm not really hungry anyway but i have lost some weight,not enough,but i keep getting mood swings and feeling faint, i fainted in pe yesterday. my best friend started telling me im getting anorexic which im not and then i made me eat loads of food like a burger and chips, and watched me so afterwards i ran to public loos and threw up. other people have been saying it too so now i wear baggy clothes, how can i reason with them ? i know im not but its not working

woah ive been doing xactly the same. almost fainted today in PE its horrible

hope i had some advice...but srry i don't. Thats been happening to me as well. Except i've been called anorexic my whole life. But now even more so, just cuz ppl at school see that i never eat. But i do...when i'm hungry! lmao....Yes i would like to know the same thing, how would u get ppl to believe you? I mean jsut telling them doesn't work anymore. And i tried to wear more baggier clothes but sumtimes i can't ya know....i always have diffi styles of clothing to wear. (that's wut i've been told MEH!) So i always wear my leather jacket which is all good cuz my school is really cold. lmao! oh well.

I just keep telling them to just shut the fu*k up! and not meddle in my buisness! and then walk away. OR try and change the subject! O_o
~Luvz~
~Chica~

Skipping meals is NOT a good way to lose weight. You'd be alot better off eating healthy and in moderation, and maybe exercising a little. But don't get into the habit of skipping meals. I don't know how to stop/prevent/help you get out of that habit but it is essential that you do! Sorry if that didn't help.

Oh and although you say you aren't anorexic, if you are skipping meals, throwing up, feeling faint and getting moodswings, then you are well on the way to becoming anorexic. Especially if you are trying to hide it by wearing baggy clothes, which could just mean you are in denial. In no way am I an expert on this sort of stuff, but that much I at least know is true. Please seek some professional help or at least talk to someone before it gets out of control, whether or not you think you have an eating disorder. It might help put things in perspective?

If you want to be slim but healthy at the same time, you have to eat protein. Muscle impedes fat, and protein helps grow muscle. I would advice it if you wanted to have a nice figure AND be healthy.

good luck

hi thanks i tried to reason with my friend but i fainted again and she told my teacher that she thought i was anorexic so i walked out of school then, since then which was wednesday the teacher has been watching me so i ate a burger at lunch then threw up i felt so sick anyway after eating it. i've almost lost enough weight now, just over half a stone, then i'll be happy, im eating lots of celery and watermelon, i have salad for dinner but its too early for breakfast, especially since i get up at 6 now to go swimming and the gym every day before school and at lunch i feel sick anyway so i just push off on my own since i'm not talking to my best friend, shes too paranoid.

Did you know that if you stop eating your stomach shrinks, and after a while begins to reject food, meaning that you can't eat even if you wanted to, so you can start of skipping lots of meals, and then die of starvation.
Im not kidding.

okay if you have been skipping meals to the point of eating making you sick, then you DO have a problem. I know it sucks to have to admit it (been there, done that), but you have to. Just start making a point of eating atleast one serving of food everyday and keeping it down. Make sure its a sort of meat because thats the best for you nutritionally. Just get to the point where you CAN eat again, then start upping the portions. It helped me atleast.

sometimes people see others n it makes them feel insecure about themselves. But you have to make sure u just stay happy with yourself. You are wt u are, and you have to acept that. stay to the person you love, not what you think some1 wants u 2 be.

we are all really confused

your friends, well they are clearlly concerned about you, and friends like that are very few around these days. So no mather what you do, don't push them away.
About the eating, it might be that they are right, but there are other things that could be happening. One of them is, that you have been eating very little bits of food lately, and that affects your your body's ability to take in greasy or large amounts of food. So instead of eating a burger, try just a sanwich for a change. Doesn't have to be a big one. After this, slowly increase the amount of food you take in, and you might just gradually return to your normal eating style. Don't let the way others look affect how you look. If the other girl looks good skinny, well good for her. Not everyone looks at their best when they're skinny, and some guys like girls that have a normal body figure, so don't try to change yourself too much.
Later
Tim

TO CYNDI:

I totally know how u feel! I've always been really skinny my whole life. Without even trying! And i always hear the whispers and comments ppl say and i hate it! Yeah being skinny is not all the its cracked up to be! infact sumtimes its WORSE! Just be yourself. If ur hungry then eat. If not then don't. You shouldn't force urself to eat and u shouldn't force urself NOT to eat either. ne wayz yea i agree with you cyndi, i eat soo much frggin junk food its not even funny...its like wut i live on sumtimes. But i have my days...some i eat then other i don't. And ur right to all of u out there EAT HEALTHIER! believe me eating all that junk food and drinking pop really really sunted my growth! seriusly i'm 4"11 and 82lbs and i'm 15 years old! i'm the shortest person in all of my classes...its funny really lmao! *sigh* ne wayz yea well g2g laterz!
~Luvz~
~Chica~

hi thanks i know im fine i really do, its just them being silly, and my friend just phoned to say that i have to go and talk to the school counsellor on monday which i will try to get out of cos they'll tell me im anorexic or bulimic or whatever when i know im not, its just confusing cos im feeling so faint and i get upset over the smallest things but its just my so called friends getting me wound up, they obviously arent friends for making up lies. they must have been spreading things cos i can hear poeple who i dont know whispering bout me behind my back, saying i dont know what, like shes fat or whatever. im 5"5 and i weighed 110lbs before i started this diet now i havent looked at the scales for about 2wks but bout a fortnight ago id lost aprx. 9lbs so im still going strong hopefully. ill have to carry on cos i always pile on lbs at xmas, i dont want to get fat again.

ummm, beleive it or not, if you are skipping meals and making yourself throw up, then you ARE anorexic or bulemic

learn to accept it or better: change it

no im not its just the diet is working, im nowhere near as skinny as ana people like marykate olsen or nicole richie, but im getting there, ive dropped 2 dress sizes =D ill get there soon i know

hey by the way i just wanna say sorry for piling all this stuff bout my socalled friends onto you guys,especially when others have real problems its just so frustrating i get so worked up and upest so i have to vent somehwere, thanks guys it means a lot for you to listen to my 'problem' =D

Aww hun, you're fine just the way you are, your body is unique in its own way, eat food just eat healthy throwing up or making yourself throw up can ruin your teeth, and dont become annorexic just eat healthy it will work better, dont die, you will if u continue doing what you are.

hunnie you dont need to be skinny your great the way you are like beautifuldesaster says. and you need to listen to your friends cuz you do sound like your getting annorexic. annorexia isnt attractive at all. guys hate it. u wanna be beautiful be yourself
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erica

You said:
"no im not its just the diet is working, im nowhere near as skinny as ana people like marykate olsen or nicole richie, but im getting there, ive dropped 2 dress sizes =D ill get there soon i know"

Aahh alarm bells are going off like crazy in my head!

The first step to getting help is admitting you have a problem! You think there is nothing wrong, and it's hard to admit, but there is! You aren't eating properly and when you do you throw it up! You are fainting from LACK OF FOOD! What you are doing is NOT a diet! A deit is eating HEALTHY and exercising, NOT not eating at all and throwing up what little you do eat! Fainting is your bodies way of telling you that you are exhausting your body from too much exercise and not enough food!

It sounds like you WANT to be as skinny as anorexic celebs like Mary-Kate and Nicole?! You're "getting there soon?" Why would you even WANT to be that size? It's unhealthy and unattractive! I'm reaally sorry if this sounds harsh, but you seriously need a wake-up call!

I'm sure your friends haven't been spreading lies about you. They are concerned, they CARE! You say you've dropped 2 dress sizes - well no wonder everyone has noticed and is whispering about it. They don't need your friends to spread rumours about it - it would be pretty obvious just from looking at you if you've lost that much weight!

Seriously, the fact that you're denying you have a problem is what concerns me the most. You need help! Please don't become another teen statistic on anorexia!

Oh and if the school sends you for counselling, please go to it! You NEED it! Of course they will tell you you're anorexic, because from what it sounds like, you ARE! Avoidance won't make you be happy with your body. You just have to learn to accept that you are beautiful exactly the way you are. There is no need to change! Please take into mind what I have said!

thanks i have but i know what im like and im fine, and im fainting from stress. i went to, well was forced to go to, the school counsellor today and she didnt say i was anorexic. she made me fill out a sheet on everything i ate today and yesterday and asked me some stupidly pointless questions, ill see her again tomorrow. my friends are doing my head in though, so i leave them at break and lunch and go to the fitness room in our school. i really havent lost that much weight at all

I'm glad you're seeing the school counsellor, but please don't abandon your friends. Even though you feel they are wrong, and are driving you crazy, they are only doing it because they care. If you push them away, when you realise you need help you will regret it because they might not be there anymore.

well i went along today, i filled in the foodsheet but i had to make a few things up. i was all ready for another fight with my best friend but when i came in this morning she burst into tears and ran off.

but in the assembly these guys told me i was looking good but one of them was my ex and he asked me what was up (i went out with him for 2 years through loads of sh*t, we only broke up cos we both agreed we were too young to spend so long with one person) he said i was too skinny.

the counsellor made me stand on the scales and before i was about 8stone12 and now i am 7stone6 i think. but i told her that before i was much lighter before, dunno if she believes me uhoh

god, never realised my friend was so OTT.

Uh oh, if you have to make things up on the foodsheet then subconsciously you must have realised that you aren't eating enough.

Your friend probably isn't OTT, she's just concerned.

Your ex said you're too skinny? Maybe you should trust his judgement and learn to love your body how it is?

thanks im fine, if you saw me then you'd know i was okay. i eat at home, like salads and healthy things like that. it was so embarassing i fainted in assembly when i went up to get my sports attainment award and tomorrow i got an appt with my headmistress.
anyway, im not making myself sick as much anymore, though its easier to now.

i was talking to my best friend today but she was quiet, she didnt really say much- very unlike her!

Well that's good to know. Sounds like you are getting some help, whether you acknowledge it or not. If there wasn't something wrong, why would so many people be so concerned about you? There's alot of people that care about you, so just remember that. And I'm glad you're talking to your friend again! :)

hey i am so angry i just need to vent, but this is so out of control my EXbest friend has started following me, got the head involved and has been round to my house to talk to my mum, and then i got stupid school nurse round, i cant control her i felt like screaming and going completely awol on her AH AH AH AH AH you know when you get compltly crazy? ? ? ? i ran out of school after lesson3 and was so crazy and ate a whole mcds i felt so sick it just came back up.
im 5'5 and 7 and a half stone, thats not underweight and definitly not ana, so grrr

sorry i needed to vent cant she see my pov? ? ? ? i feel like punching her in her stupid face sorry guys .x.x.x.x.x.

hey thanks i didnt go tschool today cant face em all, but i know im okay, when i look in the mirror its like the same person looking back, no weight lost or anything, ill never be anorexic or bulimic

It's called anorexia, hun, and that's what you are. Being anorexic doesn't mean that you're at the point where you're too skinny anyhow, but it's the effort and the journey to GET There, which is what you're doing, whether or not you deny it, that makes you anorexic.

Get help, but don't get mad at your friends for helping. They're just concerned for you, as I would be with anyone of my friends.

i think i would know if i had anorexia but i havent lost any or much weight so . . .

hey i aint got anorexia thats stupid you'd think i know, its just everyone overeacting, i havent lost that much weight