how do u help a friend who's been raped?

hey guys basically the title...i don't know what to say to her to comfort her.??
please help me!!
any suggestions...
take care xoxo

just be there for her when she needs to talk. don't try and push her into telling you anything just let her do it at her own pace. i know what your going through, my friend was raped by her parter many times and its only now (2 years later) that she can talk about it. just let her use ur shoulder when she needs to, and let her know she's not alone.

Hope that helps

Hippie
xxx

Yea...as everyone said. DON'T push her into telling you what happend. Bad idea I know from my experience. Just be there for her, tell her you will help her when ever she needs it. Just giver her a shoulder to cry on.

yeah this is hard, dont push her into anything, and dont push her away from you because of this, I dont want to be around anyone because my sister doesnt give me support. its hard for anyone to face, just be her friend. Girls night out is always fun!

I've been in your situation. All you have to do, is stick by you're friend's side. Let her knoe that you care, and that you are there in case she needs someone to talk to. Don't ask about the happening, cause this will most likely make her nervious and close up from the inside. Just stick with her, like you alwys have.

Later
Tim

yeah, like everyone else has said, just be there for her. she needs to know you care -- or atleast believe that you do -- so don't push her away. she's going through a state of insecurity and fear, so try not to magnify that by being aloof. when things conflict, make her understand that you have a life of your own, obviously too, with your own problems, she'll probably come to respect you for it. with time. this will take time. a lot of time. she will probably never completely get over it. she will need professional help soon too. if she asks you to take her to seek it, go with her. take a book. wait in the lounge.

just be there for her and care tell her it will be alrightt ebven if it doesnt seem like it now im praying

Pretty much what everyone has said just let her know you are there for her and you won't leave. Tell her you will keep her safe and stuff. Just try to comfort her but don't pressure her at all.

thankyou so much everyone. Yeh she pretty much opened up right away..it's i'm the only one she's told so i just hope she's ok.
One of my friends...the one this is about isn't really that close to me..
the other is my best friend who got raped by her boyf...and she still loves him..what is with boys??
(no offence not saying you're all like that)
anyway thanks again...i'm taking all your advice..
bob..i'm checking it out now...thanks
xoxox