privacy invaded and all my dark secrets read by my mum!

i went to see my mum in the holidays i took along my poem book...... in that book i had thousands of poems and pages of not so sane pictures i drew in my darkest days....i had a lock on my bag and the key was in my wallet....my sister likes to steal my clothes so she snuck and got my key and opened it and got to the bottom of my bag n found my book she read it then passed it to mum to read(all why i was out) they invaded my privacy and now they now EVERYTHING it has made my life even mor pointless and stressfull.....i live with my aunt i have since the start of the year 5 hours away if u were wundering y i went to see her..... please help i want to no how to handel all this stress i don't want to turn to my "habbit" i havent done it for almost 2 weeks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE HELP ME!!!
*~SaRaH~*

talk to a friend, sombody who understands, write down your feelings... I really don't know what to say...good luck!

cant talk to my friends they hate even seeing my arms ...scars....cuts ....I AM NEVER RITEN ANYTHIING DOWN EVER AGEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
*~SaRaH~*

tell your mom that it wasnt right that she read it. Tell her that you cant trust her anymore and that if you can't write then you're going to have to keep it all inside.

That has happened to me, my mum read my diary. It was never quite the same after that, i cant really have a proper relationship with my mum, because i cant trust her, well i dont trust any of my family, THANK GOD FOR FRIENDS! but yeh, it does stuff things up, im not gonna lie, but nothing you cant get through. And if you dont want to explain it to her, dont, i didnt. Or if you do, just tell her that its ur way of expressing yourself, and that its ur privacy and trust shes broken. It made me feel very uncomfortable, because these thoughts and feelings are only known by you, and now not only does someone else no, its ur mum that knows, which makes things very difficult. But you will be fine, dont ignore her and say ur never going to talk to her again because of what she has done, just accept it and move on.
Well Good Luck.

take care xx

she doesn't care!!! she nos i cut wel she nos i did wen i lived with her ...she just laughs but my auny i live with is different she takes things VERY seriuous especialy depression and wat not......she doesnt no i cut or that i am depressed!! she tryed to ask me about it last nite cos my mum rang and told her but i ignored her n she hasnt brough it up agen ....yet...... my friends don't understand.....all i ave is this site...
*~sArAh~*

she never needed to no all those things they where pritate things ...and my own personal pian....

LMFAO

right, it was out of order for your mum to read it, VERY out of order, she doesn't see you snooping around her bedroom, phone etc. but you can't exactly turn back time, so i'm sorry to say but ya gonna have to kind of get over it and just make sure no1 reads it again!!!!
good luck
luv RaNdOmGaL xxx

I wish all the time that my parents, especially my mum, would read my stories, and poems, and look at little drawings Ive made, and stuff...but they just don't seem to get the chance.
Its strange, because most people prefer to keep all that private stuff to themselves.
Well, I suppose you should just be glad that she didn't laugh at you, or tell you that she thought it was very stupid. One day Ill get my mum to read my poems, and I hope that she doesn't think that they are stupid.

Good Luck!
beth

How can people say that "TRUST IS A TWO WAY STREET" and that she should share.But excuse me, everyone has the right to privacy, does your mum tell you everything? No. There are things she keeps to herself, just herself, because they are her thoughts. By reading this stuff, both your sister and your mum violated your privacy.

Writing things down keeps people from bottling it up, the fact she had a lock on it makes her intentions kind of obvious. I think you should tell them that their your thoughts and emotions and they did not have the right. And you certainly don't owe them anything, even an explanation. They only hurt themselves by reading your personal things.

if it helps, my mom's a ***** too.

she wont shut up and she always is so nosy and if i tell her something it makes her yap even more.

doesn't it feel better when there's someone to share the pain?

~here for ya
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I'm also deciding if i should burn my poetry books. even though i love them,everyone won't just let them be. when i go check it the next day something is always ripped (out),torn,blotched,or creased in some sick way that i know someone's been through my things. i mean,most personal poetry is private. and the pictures,even more. i mean,if i could change the world i'd let people see what everyone just WANTS them to see,and the rest kept undisturbed.

*huff* i hate the no-privacy rule at my house. sucks when im trying to change my clothes (all the locks in my house are busted so theres no privacy. courtesy of my dad.)

i think my family is full of p*rv*rts.

grrr

elizabeth....she did laugh...when i lived with her she laughed atcut with stitches in them on my arm!!!!!!!!!!!!

gabriella and just rain....u to are awesom!! its right....my mum had NO RIGHT to read that and my sister is a dog for stealing a key and showing my mum ....lukiy i am bak here living with my aunt after the beautiful(sarcasim) holiday to see my mum. i have been home a week now so yeah ....buti just dont want my aunt to take me to a shrink since mum told her.....

she said a couple of nights ago....so do u wana talk bout this book ur mum found n i sed shut up n i walked out ..she hasnt mentioned it since ....she did say she was bookin in to talk bout it this weekend(todays friday arrrr) o well

hey its going to be fine, tell her that u dont need therapy, well you didnt before, maybe you need it now you've realised how you cant trust your family! i completely feel for you, act sane and keep your chin up - - - youve done no wrong! .x.x.X.x.x.

same thing happend to me.. and now my whole family has read it and there all mad at me

You are 14 why do you think you should have all this privacy? The fact that your mother cares enough to read it and find out what is going on in your life (since you won't tell her) should make you happy. That should give you a million reasons to KNOW she cares and loves you. Why should you receive privacy and trust when you don't give it yourself? I never had to keep secret diaries and notes from my mother as I could talk to her about anything. She never pumped me with questions but I always knew her door was open should I need to talk. I felt comfortable talking to her about anything and everything and she never even came to me and had that 'talk' with me. I just KNEW she would always be there. If you can't be open with your parents who can you be open with? Why hold everything in when you have people readily available to help? I don't understand. Sorry I can't feel compassion for your situation. Your mother has the right to go through anything and everything she wants because as long as it's under HER roof it belongs to her. Be open to letting your mother in...don't be so pissy about it.

hey,i know its hard. what someone told me is endure.

it doesn't help much-

unless you have people on your side.

*raises hand* im here im here so who won!

well i feel better because i went to the CARNIVAL and saw all my friends from my old school LAST YEAR so i feel great! popcorn/soda/(cotton) candy anyone?!?!? :')

I wrote a poem on today. made me feel horribly happy :)

try to write one on this topic. it'll make u feel better. on the net tho (not in forums)

i have endured,i need more help,but hey,i'm alive and it's thanks to the nice side of this topic board. Thanks ppl,u r my inspiration.

I have decided to invent a dark dance and a light dance ^o^ plus ying yang dance wooooooooot

thanks everyone that has gave me advice......natilie...ur parents sound nice ....but problem! i dont live with mine and they are not like that hey are separated and i hate my dad i feel totaly deceaived ...and the tiny bit os self rescpect and dignity is completely gone now!! i didnt have much b4 but its all gone I HAVE A RIGHT TO PRIVACY !! EVERY HUMAN DOES NO MATTER WHAT AGE!!.....................

No actually you don't. If your mother feels a need to snoop because of your behavior (or any other reason) she has the RIGHT to do that. When I was 14 I had privacy....but because I could be trusted. I didn't do bad things or act in certain ways that would concern people. Your privacy as a teen is a PRIVILAGE - NOT A RIGHT. More importantly it's a PRIVILAGE to be earned NOT expected.

"Your privacy as a teen is a PRIVILAGE - NOT A RIGHT"

I fully agree...

i completely disagree, privacy is a right we all have, and obviously her family have no respect for her and no trust or faith in her to handle her own life. there is no rule that says you have to open to your family, after all, you didnt pick them, you were born to them. Your friends are the family you choose for yourself. just because one person's family is great, an other may be the opposite. she doesnt even live with her mum, thats says a lot about their relationship.and she certainly does not have the right to abuse her daughters trust like that.

if you can't trust your family,and they dont respect you, then how can you expect to have a good relationship??