Lost Love??? :(

I dated this girl for a few months. Things didnt work out but i knew right away i loved her. Two years past and we tried again. This time we moved in together and we were SO in love! But she joined the military and shes changed a lot. She says she doesnt feel the same anymore, but she always turns to me when she needs someone. Do you think there is still a chance when she gets back from Iraq. Or have i lost the best thing i ever had.

Mike

i agree...i great love is never lost. it seems that she leans on you when she needs to talk which means shes comfortable with you. and when 2 people move in together...their "true colors" tend to come out (trust me) and that might have overwelmed her. but if you really really love her, you should get up and try again.

Whether there is still a chance probably depends a whole lot more on you and what you want in a relationship than on her.

Here's what you need to consider. She is not the kind of person who is ever going to be content just to settle down. She is a free spirit. She lives for adventure and excitement in her life, not stability. She is willing to take BIG risks for the sake of experiences that make her life feel meaningful. Romance is important to her but not more important than adventure. She can be totally loyal and may not ever have physically intimate encounters with other guys. But she is definitely going to have other men in her life. That's her nature.

You have to honestly ask yourself if, over the long term, a relationship with someone like this will bring you contentment, happiness and a sense of fulfillment in your life.

don't give up on you two. talk to her. write her. make her rememba

wow! great advice. ty all. and ur dead right lydia. she is a person of adventure. and to be honest that always worried me. because i would like to settle down with one person, her, for the rest of my life. but i know in my heart that she doesnt want to settle down. that hurts more than anything because to me it means i will never have her fully to myself. which is what i desire more than anything else in this world.

Mike