Help Me Please!!!!

Ok well my boyfriend is really controlling. Like he tells me what to do and chooses my friends for me. Like at school I'm not aloud to talk to guys wear my hair down, have makeup on, or talk to anyone he doesnt like. See the only problem is I love him with all my heart!!! We've been together for over a year and I don't want to lose him I'm just not sure about what I should do. Please Please help me

if he wont let you talk to guys he doesnt trust you. and if he can't trust you he can't love you with all HIS heart. so i hope you don't think that he loves you. im sorry that was harsh but thats how it is.

you need to end it b/c it can only get worse...i can't believe he controls how u wear your HAIR!

You say you don't want to lose him, but think seriously, can you live your life with no freedom?? I mean, not being able to wear make up is way too far, either he changes for good or i suggest you and him change, eg. you break up with him. But, talk to him first, he may feel really insecure about you, in which case there may be some hope.

Thank you guys I really appreciate it. I really do want to break up with him but I can't seem to make myself do it. Any advice on that now????

Well I broke up with him but then he said he would change so I took him back But guess what O My God guys can never fucking change hes right back to doing what he was doing!!!!! And my fuckin fault for taking him back And it's only been 3 fucking hours!!!!

It is better to be in no relationship than to be in a an unhealthy one with a controlling partner. At least you realized that the best thing to do was to dump him. You can do it once more. You are also recognizing an important fact about human nature. People just are what they are. Not what we would like them be or what they say they are going to be after they change. It is extremely difficult for anyone to make a change in their fundamental nature, even when they say they intend to change.

For future reference, the following website offers a good comparison of the elements distinguishing a healthy relationship from an unhealthy one.

http://www.ou.edu/womensoc/healthy-relationships.htm

Best of luck to you!!

Hey well me and my boyfriend did work it out. Last night we were on the phone until 3:00am and it was all about me last night everything was good. he actually listened to me and I told him how I felt and everything. And even when he got mad he asked me about it and we talked through it. Do you guys think that is a sign of change???

dump him. he's afraid of rejection and also he thinks your his property. show him who's boss and dump him. hope that helps....

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maybe he's changed... but from what i seen guys do to the girls, i don't really know. he might be 'sucking up' right now, and being nice... and later on, he'll be back to the same things... so right now, it can be either change or selfishness.

OK guys thankyou for all the opinions but everything is great now. He got me my promise ring and he is being really sweet now. I really appreciate all the advice though. I will keep everyone posted on whats going on with me and my boyfriend. Thanks again.