Shud I get back with him?

Iv been seing my bf for a year. Wen we 1st started seein eachother there was this other girl in his class who liked him. She was always all over him and one nite in a club they kissed but i forgave him for that. She's moved to london now. I live 30mins away from him and i cant tell my family about him or else ill be dead!! really. During the summer he went to London to work. Hes back and now he goes 2skol were i live. I went to c him one day and he told me he slept with the other girl while he was in london. He said it was no big deal dat its only sex and nothin more then dat. I broke up with him dat day. He sent me a msg last nite sayin dat he loves me no matter what. Now im thinking did i make the wrong decission, shud i get back with him? I still love him. Im confused i dont know what to do.

Are you saying that your family is opposed to your relationship with this guy? If so, why?

Getting back together would be risky because he has indicated that he doesn't believe cheating is fundamentally wrong. But if you are capable of forgiving him for cheating and you are not going to carry any grudge toward him over it, then maybe things can work out. If you want to give him another chance, I think you need to set some firm boundaries with him that clearly define what is not acceptable. Then let him know that if he violates those boudaries then it is all over.

The best thing you could do is just try to work it out, just try, then ya'll know what to do.
(Been through it to gurl!)

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I cant tell my family cus im not allowed to date. Im muslim and he's christian, if they find out im actually physically dead!! My sister already ran away with a christian guy 3years ago which makes it worse. My parents are extremly strick im not allowed out, even to go hang with friends, im locked in da house all day. To see him i have to ditch skol or make up some really really good excuse.

Nah I don't think you should get back with him.

You're 17 and can't date! OMG! No offence, but your parents are ghetto! All the way, strait up yo! Man, I'm 16, but I can date! But if you're not aloud to then... just follow your heart, it's never wrong!

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how can sex be no big deal, he said its no big deal it was just sex. Then what IS a big deal? and no he kissed her before and he asked for a your forgiveness and now he sleeps with her if he truly loved you he wouldnt do it.... Sorry!

I think that in the long run your parents attitudes and cultural outlook are going to be the biggest obstacle to your relationship, even if you decide to take him back. That is sadly unfortunate and something for which there is no easy solution.

Ya i know, my parents are totally f****d up!!! Mostly my mom. I cant tell them cus in my religion we get arranged married and i dont want dat. I aint marrieng no guy i dont know, dats just f****d up. But dats the way dey want it.

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if your parents don't liek him and it must be for good reason..it hink that you should not be with him anymore if he said it's just sex he doesn't care about you like u do for him so tdon't waste your time on him!

I didnt get back with him but we've started talking again. He wants me to come over to his place but im trying to stay away. We've broken up twice b4 and everytime he asks me to come over i always seem to get back with him, i suppose its cus im weak for him. Im also scared now cus i think im pregnant. Which makes things a million times worse. Im stuck.