in love but we can't be together

This is a complicated situation I have. I am totally in love with this guy, but there is a catch. He is in a relationship already and not just any relationship but he's married. I know what you're thinking. That's wrong! I thought the same thing until I realized we shared these feelings. We are both very much in love with each other. We had an affair, which I know was wrong. His wife found out and things have been crazy ever since. We stopped talking and then he started emailing me and calling me again. Things started up again and once again his wife found out. They then started counseling, but the messed up thing about this is that her dad was their counselor. He didn't want to go through counseling but he did it to make her happy. After being confronted by his wife I decided to move away to help them get things back on track. While away he still called and emailed and he even had a plan to move and come live with me. I told him that he needed to divorce his wife before our relationship could go any further. Then one day I received an email from his parents telling me to leave him alone and that he's happily married, when I know for a fact that he isn't happily married. His parents have now told him that if he divorces his wife they will disown him and if we have kids our bastard children are not allowed in their home. I just moved back this past weekend after not having any contact with him for the past 3 and a half weeks. Did I mention his parents have all his passwords to everything to keep tabs on him? Any way, yesterday I was driving along and we saw each other. He works with one of my good friends so I now find out that he wasn't ignoring my because he wanted to, he was ignoring me because his parents are controlling his life. Its a really long story but this is the shortened and condensed version. The point is, we are both very much in love with each other after all of this. He wants out of his marriage but he's afraid of losing his family. I really have no way of contacting him either considering his parents check his voicemail and email. My question is, What should I do about this situation? Should I wait for him or should I move on? I have tried to move on, but its not easy.

i think he should tell his parents he wants to be happy and he can only be happy with you... and you should not move on i think you both should get married and live your life happily ever after and you need to talk to him so he'll talk to his parents if he is married he can't be that young and i don't think his parents can control his life anymore

yeah happiness is the most important thing & if its you he finds happiness in then whts the wait?

get the parents to go to therapy, seriously, it could put things in perspective for them.

You didn't say whether he and his wife have kids. That would be an important consideration. But the fact that his decisions are subject to so much influence from his parents is something that throws up a red flag.

I agree with them... He shouldn't allow his parents to control his life. He should be with you if that's what he wants... if he wants to be divorced, then he should, because that's HIS choice and HIS life... his parents will get over their hatred of you and realize that their son will actually be happy with you after a while, because they are parents and they only want to look like good parents... and parents with a son that got divorced... looks kinda bad.... anyway... I say he should leave his wife and be with you, if he really isn't happy with her... Everyone deserves happiness...

~BJ~

thanks for the advice guys.....and no they don't have kids, she actually doesn't want kids and he does.