i love my brother but he needz help!

well, i love my brother with all my heart and it just hurts to see him hurting! but this is whats going on..well, my brother got his girl pregnant at 16 (he was 16, she was 17) and they already had their beautiful little boy hes..3 months i think. & now she just found out shes pregnant AGAiN..you would think they would have learned the first time!!! but anyways, his girl is the type that shes just...kinda spoiled i guess and shes not the "motherly" type and she tends to think about herself first..so anyway, my brother is real frustrated and hes 17 now, but even before all of this he was doin drugs & drinking & all that & now that he has a baby to take care of & him & his girl are having problems because i guess shes not the mother he wants her to be and now hes drinking & hes trying to quit the drugs so thats why he saids he wants to go to the army once he turns 18 which is in april because he feels like he needs to get away from everything (hes always been surrounded by drugs & drinking) him & his bestfriend are trying to quit & they feel like going to the army will get them away from it & help them get straightened out & i tried to talk to him & tell him like, how can you do this to your kids? you have another one on the way..& he said he thinks he will be a better father when he gets back thats why he wants to do this...and i dont know what to tell him...i cry all the time for him because hes trying to be the best father he can be but drugs...everyone knows it aint that easy to quit..i love him SO MUCH...i dont know what to do

I think the girlfriend needs as much help as the guy does. Here's an idea for her, tell her to get a job. and if your brother doesn't have one either, tell him to get one too.

Going to the army will end up being his choice since he'll be old enough, but he'l be there for awhile I think. And with him being away leaving the spoiled girl byherself to take care of the baby, it will just make things worse.

He has to do something about his problem, he's just trying to run away from everything by thinking he can hide at the army. And going to the army in the shape he's in isn't a good idea at all. He needs counsling with being a parent and his drug problem. That's the best solutuon, I think.

yeah they both have a job and my mom mostly watches the baby when theyre at work

thnx for tha advice..but i just dont know how to tell him NOT to go i mean, it will only make it worse its not going to help any his problems are still going to be there

yeah, exactly. But he now has a child and another one on the way..and he needs to think about them, not just himself.