I lost my baby, anyone else gone through that pain too?

Okay, I was pregnant when I was 15, I'm 19 now, but I'll never forget that, it was a boy, my little Shaquan, I lost him in labor.... :.( Any offered shoulders?

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*crys*

I just wanna know if anyone else has gone through this. :.(

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Anyone?

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My mom lost my little sister, but that was of SIDS, not during labor. That was back in 93. I was three years old. Sadly, there is no way to deal with it. Children bury thier parents, it shouldnt be the other way around but it is sometimes. My mom takes zoloft and everytime she sees a baby in the store she stops to ask if the parents are laying him or her on their backs to sleep. I guess that's her therapy and has been for years.

I saw my Shaquans face, I saw his little limp hands and feet, dangling from the doctors arms, it was so hard! I just wanted to die! I didnt sleep for months, I hardly ate. I still lose sleep from it. I wish I could have just seen it smile. All I wanted to do is hold my baby. I tried to kill myself, but my bf stoped me, well my almost to be husband. I'm getting married in a month. All I want is to just, just have my Shaquan in my arms. His little dead, silent face haunts me. I see him every time I see a baby, and I here a baby screaming a night for his mommy, but there is no babys in my home. Am I going crazy?

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I am crazy, arn't I?

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*crys*

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It's alright Cherri. Back in 8th grade (which is actually like 6 months ago lol), we had to take care of a real baby. (Nice women who let us use their babies for health class. I now thank you.) It was pretty sad when the assignment was over. I know how it feels when something you actually liked was taken away from you. I'm sorry for your loss.

Thank you for caring.

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kelsey died almost thirteen years ago and i still hear babies cry

Cherri:

I don't get it...

How can you lose it during labour if you clearly stated in other posts that the baby died on the "12th week" of your pregnancy?

Pfft...get your lies straight and maybe I'll believe you.

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(")-(") Arrivederci!

I never said that he DIED on the 12th week, I just said that that is the only ultrasound that I had posted. I said that he died during labor.

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Just wanted to know how other mothers got over the pain after losing their child, I know I'm not the only one. That's why I made this post, not for attention!

We'll just leave it at that.

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(")-(") Arrivederci!

kk.

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Aww I'm so sorry. I haven't been through that experience sorry. One of my close friends mum had a baby girl and she passed away after birth.
I'm here if you need to talk

K i K i xx

I don't know what it's like, but I know that my mum, and my bf's mum lost severals before I and him was born, although I would assume you feel like the world fell apart and that it never will be alright, some pain might be revealed, when you get another kid, but I know a lot of people deal with pain like that by still celebreating the bday and stuff like that, I hope you are doing fine, and he is probably doing well in heaven!!!!

I don't know if this is much help but I know it helps me to know that other people are struggling with the same things I am. But anyways, my 14 year old cousin had a miscarriage. She was going to the bathroom and when she looked down she saw the baby's sack. She was 2 months along...so it's kind of different than your situation but I just thought I would let you know that you are not alone.

i haven't personally been through that but i can only imagine how painful it must be, when i even think about it i want to cry, and your not crazy, this is natural its just all part of a long long grieving process, you will never be ok with what happened, but you will learn to live with it, it all just takes time.

lots of love
*~*Becky*~*

Pssh.yuo got knocked up when you were FIFTEEN?!!??!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? I htink that sdisgusting and aybe if you kept your legs closed you wouldnt have gone through what you "supposedly" did

Katie, Jesus Christ, have a heart. I'm sorry not ever one fits the image of what you think they should be but thats life. "maybe if you kept your legs closed" wow what a caring way to put it, also, even if she didn't have a child that died at birth, others have, and some were young, so by saying that i find you disgusting, just because they weren't "adults" dosen't mean a thing. Adults are 18 and up right...well i know 18 year olds and some olderones that i would never trust a child with, and young people are capable of being good parents.

I have no idea what it feels like to lose a child, and i hope that i will never have to but i am deeply sorry for you loss, they say time heals all wounds but just because the wound is no longer bleeding dosen't mean a scar dosen't remain. I hope you can have a healthly and prosperous family and not lose any more children. much love to you and all.

JBN

i agree with jelly bean! katie! have a little bit of feeling! if someone you loved wanted sex most people would do it, they would do anything for the people they love. age doesn't matter for a mother, only that the baby is healthy, that its here. the baby doesn't give a damn about your age, it just wants a mummy to hold at night and tuck it in and take it to its first day of school. no one should have to go through what she went through, it doesn't matter about age or anything like that, so long as she could've looked after that baby she would have. everyone should love their child.

i'm sorry you had to go through that, no one should have to see their baby and then lose him in such a short time. like most people here have already said, it takes time to heal any wound, but this is not just ANY wound. this will take forever and a day to heal, and though you will never fully recover from his death, doesn't mean you can't still celebrate his life. like they said, you can still celebrate his birthday, or talk about him, or think about him. he was still your little boy. i'm sorry you had to go through that so early in your life. i hope you have lots more children and they always remember and celebrate their older brother.

Forsaken Redeemer
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if you're fucking when you're 15...YOU'RE disgusting. You dont have sex cause "people wanna do it"...have some fuckin morals!!!

ok, firstly, i've never had sex but i can understand why some people would do it for someone they love, and can you PLEASE have a little compassion for people who have been through a difficult time.

Forsaken Redeemer
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chill katie!! i don't agree with having sex when your so young either, but some people do, you just have to respect their decisions and have a little care and compassion for them, losing a child at any age can be difficult so maybe you should just kick back and if it agrivates you so much why are you reading this thread anyway??
peace, courtie

OK OK OK, Cherri, Im sorry. I see where you're coming form, it just stunnd me that you're 15. Nevrtheless, painful im sure it is. I send my condolences and apologize for hurting you