is it wrong to even ask?

i've been with my boyfriend for 11months and whilst i love him like crazy lately ive been feeling really trapped. im going to visit my friend in a couple of weeks and we've always had this sexual thing between us and want him so bad. i know im gonna end up cheating but i just have to go. is it wrong to ask my boyfriend for this one exception. i just need to get it out of my system. i dont wanna lose him but i cant be with him if i feel trapped

u dont love the guy. ur mean and selfish. ur thinking about ur own desires and not about anybody elses. think about who ur hurting if u do this. donet cheat. have u ever heard of karma. what goes around comes around. and i really doubt u wanna be cheated on. if u really think that u are gonna cheat then dont go over to ur friends.

If you have thoughts of cheating on him, then I can't see how you could love him as much as you say you do. Either break up with him for this other guy, or don't. But don't put yourself in a situation where you know you are going to cheat.

You're not 'trapped'. you have a choice whether or not to cheat. You obviously don`t love him as much as you think you do if you think you can't stop yourself from cheating. And yeah, i agree, break up with him for this other guy, or forget the other guy! God, you already have a boyfriend, can't he fufill your 'desires'? You don't need some other guy to.

You're 17 and you have "needs"?? You're trapped?
Come on girl go finish college or whatever and dump your boyfriend you don't deserve him.

ok so what if the roles were reversed...one day your boyfriend asked you if they could "cheat" on you with a girl because they have always had something sexual between them. You'd be confused. Hes saying he loves you, then asking this. Aren't you enough for him??
He's gonna get hurt, and if you loved him then either you would remain faithful with him or finish it before he gets even more hurt than he needs to be.

excuse me but how dare any of you try and tell me that i dont love this guy. i do and i know that. you dont know me or him and i do love him very much, if i didnt care i wouldnt be worrying about this thing. ive been with him nearly a year an not cheated even though ive had many chances because i care about this guys feelings. im not gonna break up with him because i know id be miserable without him. we've just been through a rough patch and i told him about my feelings and even he understands. he told me himself he wouldnt break up with me if i cheated i would let him do the same so long as it meant he could come back to me happier. i just want one night to get it out of my system.

don't judge my feelings!

hey, lay off Ele, I believe every word ele says, and know with out even being told that they are both obviously in love. who are any of you to judge her, i doubt any of your are any were near perfect and until then you have no right to judge any one so leave her alone. i mean theyve been going out for 11 months now dip shits, if they dont love ach other the sex must be brilliant. she didnt ask you to tell her who she does and doesnt love, she asked for an opinion on the question she asked, and if none of you have any thing to answer that then i suggest you go find some one else to pick on, you morons. as for the point in hand Ele i dont know what id suggest. you could discuss it with Cullen because hes a great guy and would understand your problems. But in the end if Cullen said he would prefer it if you didnt then i would respect his feelings coz the two of you dont want to break up with each other. I know you both love each other and i would want you to break up over this, maybe an earthquake, or a sandwich, but not this.

i know and of course im gonna try so damn hard to behave yourself but its just this guy, we have 'unfinished buisness' and it annoys me. i know i could be with cullen for a long long time cuz i dont see myself bein able to let go anytime soon. i might never get a chance with this guy and hes goin to afghanistan in march, god knows what might happen there

"I doubt any of your are any were near perfect"

Sorry, Danny, but she didn't ask for only "near perfect" people to respond. But even if she had, she would have received similar responses. The idea of sexual infidelity will evoke a similar reaction with everyone who has just an ounce of common decency, exactly as it has done here. If you want to stand apart from that viewpoint, then go ahead, but don't expect to find many others who agree with you. Your "ethics" are way out of step.

And referring to people who disagree with you as dipshits and morons is a strong indication that even you believe your position cannot stand on its own merits.

Have a nice life

If you aren't going to be happy unless we say "hey go ahead, cheat on him," then why did you even ask? The only information anyone is basing this on is what you told us. And, in my opinion, you do not love someone if you would consider cheating on him.

Note the "in MY opinion".

sounds really fkn confusing to me... and i don't understand why you'd even ask for something like that.

my opinion.

"excuse me but how dare any of you try and tell me that i dont love this guy. i do and i know that. you dont know me or him and i do love him very much, if i didnt care i wouldnt be worrying about this thing. ive been with him nearly a year an not cheated even though ive had many chances because i care about this guys feelings. im not gonna break up with him because i know id be miserable without him. we've just been through a rough patch and i told him about my feelings and even he understands. he told me himself he wouldnt break up with me if i cheated i would let him do the same so long as it meant he could come back to me happier. i just want one night to get it out of my system."

Love is when you would do anything to make the other person happy, even if it means hurting yourself. Hun, I don't mean to preach, but it's not love. It's lust. You are thinking about yourself!! You are thinking about YOUR desires that you want to get out of your system. and then you say that the reason you don't want to break up with him is because YOU will be miserable. Sorry, but it's not love!!

i know im thinking about myself, im not that stupid.
i also not that i DEFINATELY love him.
whoever it was that said if i didnt want to be criticised i shouldnt have posted anything clearly needs to pay attention. the only thing im annoyed about is people claiming i dont love my guy because i do and he means more to me than anything and i know people are thinking now that i must not if i have thoughts of cheating but the point is both of us know how im feeling trapped an the only thing thats upsettin him is the fact that im not 100% happy with him, he doesnt care about me wanting someone else, he understands cuz hes felt like that too.

judge anything except me feelings for my guy

ok..well i'm not judging you..and your old enough to know if you're in love or not, so if you say you love him then fair play to you. The thing i guess thats confusing me especially is that usually when you love someone they are the person you have sex with and everything, its you showing them you love them. I'm not pointing fingers at you, i'm not criticizing you or your way of thinking, just merely explaining why people are reacting this way...

You have got to be kidding me.

Sex is NOT something that should make you feel trapped, it should be doing the exact opposite. Sex isn't just a thing you do to make yourself feel better; it's (as corny as this sounds), a union between two people. You trust your body, your everything to the other person and the pleasure you feel is just extra points.
That, and having children. Then again, children are born from this union. And I severely doubt you want this other guy to get you pregnant.
It should be with someone you LOVE, not someone you have 'Unfinished Business' with.
I wonder if you would kill someone that you hated, just because you had 'Unfinished Business' with them.

If you really loved him, you would never even think about doing something so absurd.

You are very selfish and very stupid.
It's great that he 'understands'(the lights are on, but nobody's home), but I think you two need to realize that you are in a romantic relationship, which consists of TWO people. Not three, or four, or even one. TWO!

I don't know what should offend you more, the fact that I'm fifteen, or the fact I'm calling you stupid.