This Hurts So Much

As most of you know there is a boy I like...

Well thing is I dont know if he likes me or not and I know i never will know so I've learned to accept it but I still cant help wishing he were with me

I went to the movies today with my friends and all I could focus on or think about was how I wish he were there to hold me in his arms or to see him smile:( and then we went and played around after the movie and I still wished he were there with me and I kept looking around hoping I might bump into him, but I didn't

How do I make myself stop hurting and wishing he were always with me and I need to stop thinking about him :(

I totally agree...........otherwise you'll never know how he feels and you'll spend your ENTIRE life still liking him and regretting not ever taking the chance. Because if you get the chance........the worst that can happen is him politely saying no and then you can move on with your life and give all them other guys a chance = )
hope i helped!!
Good Luck
luv ya jess xoxoxoxo

But I'm scared that if I do tell him he will not reply politely :( I mean my friend used to like him before and she made my other friend tell him and he didnt say anything to her and instead he told his friend and his friend still to this day teases her about it..

"But I'm scared that if I do tell him he will not reply politely."

It is the courage to take risks that makes life meaningful. Not everything you try is guaranteed to be a success but lack of success is ALWAYS guaranteed by the failure to try.

Start some conversation, any conversation, and open the door to getting a rapport established with him so at least you are talking to each other. I really doubt if you are going to get an adverse response simply by making an attempt to be friendly.

As with most other endeavors, the way to succeed in overcoming shyness is with practice. You can try getting up the courage to initiate conversations with people wherever you find them - on a regular, daily basis. And each successive time you do so it will become a bit easier. Most people are receptive when you are making an effort to be friendly. And for the ones who may not be, it doesn’t matter anyway because they are not important to you. And remember that courage is like a muscle. The more you exercise it, the stronger it becomes.

I felt like that about my best friend which lives in London, scary anyways, I asked him out after a lot of mucked up stuff, and now we've been going out for 6 months tomorrow:P give it a try girl

Aw thanks guys,
I will try to "make a move" but I don't really know he like won't talk to me whenever I look his way or at him he turns away or goes back to doing his work and he never will say a word to me :( Why cant he just make a move or something I mean it's kinda hard for me when he wont even talk to me

I mean i won't talk to him but if he started talking to me I would..

Ruben,
His friends are not my friends so not really but I do talk to his one friend sometimes in class but not seriously he just teases my friends and me and everyone else in the class :P hes the class clown you ciould say so I cant talkk to his friend but I'm pretty sure if he liked me he wouldn't tell him cause' he'd like yell it out and stuff, he does that :P

I'm so confused :( one day he acts like he loves me then stops and then starts again like wth :( grrr Last week he was like acting like he liked me and trying to impress me but this week hes just being stoopid, grr, BOys smuck

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Lmao that was deep yo.

But you can't realleh know if he likes me back, some guys are just different (him)

well here's an idea, start talkin to him, warm up to him and let him warm up to you, give him alot of hints that you like him and if he doesnt get ANY of them he's just stupid and not worth your time, but otherwise if he gets them you'll be on your date, and i know how it goes to feel that way, so just hold strong, his time will come :)

GO AND ASK HIM. I always regret not telling the guys I like how I felt. I always cry at niht wondering what it would be like to be held so close. My friend who I've known for like 3 to 5 months told me he loves me and asked me to be his girlfriend. I told him I would think about it, but I'm always wondering if I should say yes. I still havent answered to him, and I know he's falling for my friend because she's more alive than I am. And I know he's going to give me up one day. I cry every night wondering what I should do. Sometimes it's like it's too late. We used to talk everyday for hours, now we barely even notice eachother. Well, he doesnt notice me. He always talks to my friend. And I feel like he's drifting away from me. I'll always regret it, because he's going to leave me. You have to tell this guy how you feel. Dont live in regret.

-Jin

He sits like in my group in class thought at my table but he wont look at me like when im standing up reading something he looks to the ground or when i look at him he looks away and starting a convo with him would so awkward and scary for me:( I dont think I can do it I need to be COMPLETELY sure he likes meh tooh if I want to start a convo cause i dont wanna look like a complete fool or get even more hurt :(

Why is it not up to him :s

hey you know i feel the same way i just cant stop thinking about him i this pain will never go away but it will get better soon!! someone else will make it better!!!

Yeah tell him how you feel and pray he feels the same way for you.

I'm shy too gee :(
I can't just go up to him...and be like I love you :)

"I can't just go up to him...and be like I love you"

And you're right. That would be like trying to reach step #3 or 4 before you covered step #1. ;-)

What is step number 1 :P

Grr, I hate this situation :(

My friend used to like him but shes over him and he asked his friend the other day if my friend still liked him and I began reassuring myself he liked me....but now I have doubts again and this smucks grr

I won't ask him anything cause I love him! Why do I have to be the one to say something and what if he doesent like me? I'll just make a fool out of myself and why cant he do anything WHy do I have to say something and make myself feel stupid why cant he

"What is step number 1"

At the expense of repeating myself:

#1 is to get a conversation started so that you can begin talking to each other. I previously mentioned many different and effective techniques for doing this.

No matter what it is in life that you want, or however badly you want it, no one is going to come along and present it to you on a silver platter. It is up to you to go after it and do what it takes to attain it. You cannot expect things to happen just because you want them to happen. It is now and always will be up to you to make them happen. You have to be willing to take some risks if you want life to be meaningful. I didn't create the system. I just learned, by my own experience, how to take advantage of it and in the process I acquired a little of the savvy I'm trying to pass along here.

So far, contrary to almost all the advice that's been dished out here, you have avoided moving beyond your comfort zone. And what has the result been? We only have to read the title of this thread to know the result.

If you don't accept it from me, take it from one of the most inspiring female figures of the 20th century, Helen Keller, who said, "Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing."

Aw, thanks for you advice you guys, I'll try and use those but whenever I have the chance to I get scared, like today we were walking out of one class into another one down the hall and he was in front of me and he was walking REALLY slow so I passed him and I just went REALLY fast to the other end grr, I get scared whenever I'm around him :(

I can't get him out of my head GRR :( He's just so...ugh PERFECT. -bangs head on desk- STUPID COURAGE GOD I've always lacked courage and sometimes I have it but when i'm around him its like poof where'd it go :( he's the ONLY person I'm so scared to talk to.

well one thig girl your strong think about that the same happen to me but girl one thing i always said to myself to keep my head up and iam strong well just think about he is just not for you and you are going to find that lovethat you really need and love just remember GOD makes everything for a reason and girl common your strong you can make it yes it may hurt you right later you are goingto find out who you really like or even love just keep your head up ok koo bye

If he likes me why doesent he just say it grr WHAT IS HE SCARED OF??

like they always say " if you can't get someone out of your head maybe there supposed to be there"

^ 0-0 That made me feel funny and it made me smile Now i want to cry