please just let me have a few minutes of your time

this post is opiuon, not fact...but after reading you can judge yourself.

let me ask you this, how many people here hate their life, want to die, and feel like they're alone. im assuming with that said the majority of people reading this are rasing their hands, or just nodding their heads. but why is your life so horrible? ive asked this question to so many people and they have all given the same answer, because no one understands them. now i know thats not true, everyone here can understand one another, do you wanna know why? because we all can feel pain..and thats what we all are feeling right now. another thing id like to point out are the people who complain about nothing, example, a break up with a boyfriend, or a fight with a parent, or a fight with a friend, or stupid rumors being spread about them. look all of that is nothing compared to whats really out there...and if certian people can't take teenage drama, then how the hell are you going to survive out in the reall world, when you're faced with REAL problems..like divorce, prehaps your parents dieing, being fired from a job, the list goes on and on. and yet so many people complain about something they cant control..and thats other people. let me tell you this, do you really wanna know who's responsible for our pain? its ourselves, now i know alot of you may disagree, but tell me, whats the number one cause of someones emotinal pain? answer..its other people, see we let these people take control of our emotions and we let them make us cry, now i myself am guilty of it but now i look back on everything ( stupid dram related) and laugh at how stupid i was being, because you know what? al lthat time i spent crying i could have been laughing and having a good time. another thing that brings about depression are the people who still live in the past but why do you still live in the past? why do you want to keep reliving the one thing that caused you so much pain? now i know some people may say its too hard to move on, but you know what, its not, YOU make it a challange, YOU make your own depression, and YOU have the power to either share this insight...or just click out of this forum. i know that ive probably upset alot of people, but that truly wasn't my intention i just wanted to make some realize that it is possible to be happy, if something of or someone is causing you pain..leave get out of there no matter how difficult or scary it may seem, just keep your head up, because rememeber...no one here is a faliure...until you fail to try. god bless, and good luck
- dominique

* ps * someone helped me realize most of this, shes apart of this website..hopefully she knows who she is, anyway..thank you.

In some ways I agree. I'm still stuck in depression and I don't know why. I don't think my life is terrible, it's pretty ok infact. For me there are things in my head that I can't control.

I think if people are going to be upset by this is because they know its the truth or because something has a hold of them to tightly that they can't see it, even if they wanted to.

Take care

rainxcloud

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in those cases i do, and yes i can see why it's hard to let go of the past...if i was in your place it would be hard for me to, my intention wasnt to upset anyone, and sorry if i did that to you, i just wanted to get my point across, take care, and god bless

In alot of cases, i agree, a break up with a person, you'll find someone else, as hard as it may seem I've been there, but hun there are just some things you cant move past, alot of people are alot stronger, they are people that have been raped, many times or sexually abused/assulted, but the deal is, they lead on to normal lives, what about the people it haunts, the people who constantly have night terrors, and wake up in sweat, have knives around their bed cuz of them being paranoid, and cant put down a knife afraid it will happen again, and cant stand to alone, what about those kid that get molested and have no way of getting free of that, not alot of parents believe their children as wrong as it may seem, there are just some things you can not move away from eirther pyscically or emotionally, write me a message please i would really like to know

in those cases i can understand how hard it is to move on, my point was merely directed towards the people who take stupid teenage drama to the next level, but i do understand that there are people out there who have it horrible...worse than i could imagen, and for that they have my sympathy...even if they don't want it. honestly...i like ehlping people dispite what their problem is even if it deals with stupid drama, because they're my friends and i care deeply about them...i care deeply about everyone in my life...and i just want them to be happy. i wanted though to share my insight on drama, and share it with everyone...my apoligizes go out to anyone i have or am yet to offend...it wasn't my intention, please believe me on that. however i still stand on what i said about overally dramatic teens...and hoepfully u and others who question me understand why. take care and god bless

I don’t feel that there is reason for anyone to feel offended. I understood clearly from the kind of examples that were mentioned in the opening post that this advice and opinion was mainly referring to the kind of ordinary setbacks in life over which a lot of people negatively and severely overreact.

And I also believe that once people start taking responsibility for their own lives, the ensuing feeling of control over their life leads to much greater self confidence. That kind of positive mindset is enough to offset most of the irritations and setbacks (or drama, if you choose) that we face in the ordinary course of our lives. When you really stop to think about it, a good deal of the bad things we experience can actually be turned into positive learning experiences.

Anyway, Dominique, that was a remarkably meaningful post.

oh i wasnt offended i just wanted to bring up a point, and it helped to know your insight, and yeah, some ppl take teenage drama way out of portotion. so yaeh

Well said... I think some ppl just want attention, so when something small happens they turn it into somthing big, until there so far in that they never realized how sad the whole situation has really made them feel. There also the point that depression is just there and always has been there, some ppl are just depressed for no reason....

My friend once told me ... its worth the tears, depression and bad days, because friendships, laughs, love and relationships make up for it. ppl need to understand that

stupid teenage drama is often the only REAL life kids have
...of course there's a certain age where it becomes kind of pathetic...but that's after college.

That is true - there are many people who take little things way out of proportion, but there are also many more people who actually have got something to 'moan' about. What is sad it that those who have gone through situations are often the ones who don't talk about it, usually because from their experiences they have learnt to keep quiet. So we end up with an overflow of people who are exaggerating their problems and we aren't hearing enough from the people who could actually do with some help.

I can see the person who helped you realise has affected your life. I'm proud of what they did.

Good luck in life,
~Rain

Yeah i know alot of people that dont talk about their problems

im not placeing aany judgement on you...im glad you told us how you feel..and im sorry for everything you've been through. now you did make some good points..yes it is true, we can't jude whats bad in a teens life...until we live in their shoes, believe me i know that. the point i wanted to make was, that some teenagers out that take some problems way out of proportion...like a fight with friend ( that will evently be over) or a break up with a bf/gf ( when soon they'll find someone better) ora fight with a mom or dad ( ex: them just grounding them..or yellig at them, in a non verble abuse way)...you however have a reason to get upset, or to be sad...however i hope you're not, and that you are happy, despite the hardships in your life..if you're not i understand. i guess you're suprised that im trying to be understanding...the truth is..i like helping ppl, no matter what the problem, i was just venting that day, because i was getting sick of the "pointless drama"....as for the rumor thing, yeah i would be upset if it was horrible, but usually in highschool..or at least in mine, rumors just come and go..and are forgotten about in a week or two. i do hope that things get better in your life though. take care and god bless

-dominique

i agree soo much w/ what you said!
thank you for taking your time to write that =)
i use to think that people who said that didnt really "understand" or didnt care..but now its like, we ALL understand, its just some of us have been through enough to finally realize that crying & feeling sorry for yourself isnt going to solve a damn thing. And we didnt have a choice to be put on this Earth, but WERE HERE. So we might as well make the best of what we got and be happy that were alive because some people have it soo much worse than us..i am thankful for the house i live in, my family, my friends, the things i have, & for being able to have food....you know?? we have to think about those things. And its okay that we fall down every once in a while..but we have to get ourselves right back up because life is way too short to be unhappy & be depressed...people dont realize how short life is..it may seem like we have a long time, but really, we dont. life is shorter than it seems and when were going though bad times, lets always remember people have it so much worser! and that this is just a part of life! what motivates me is to think of people who would LOVE to see me fall...& that is what keeps me going..and i have to always look straight ahead to what i want to become and what i want to do with my life..so i wont let everything bring me down & nothing can get in my way...dont ever give up on your dreams, remember that you are gorgeous no matter what people think, and always strive for the best, never settle for anythin less, and dont be afraid to stand out. =))) lol...sry wrote too much there...got carried away..hehe

Ok I didnt read all of that, but I totally agree with the first bit. Im sick of seeing so many posts about: 'Oh yeah I cut my legs, and I think im really really cool'. And ' Oh my life's so bad, my mum shouted at me' They are so annoying! Why cant people just learn that complaining isnt going to get them anywhere.

wow..thank you, thats so sweet of you to say. and the things i went through, personally have effected me...but suprisingly in a good way. sure i would have preferd they didnt happen...but it made me a stronger person, and im happy with that. and im glad you weren't offened, i was worried you were...cause like i said that wasn't my intention when i posted this forum, i hate hurting others..even if they hurt me. anywho..i do hope things for you get better, and hey if you ever need to talk you can email me at

califever22@aim.com

take care and god bless
-dominique

You're comment makes sense, but in the end it's all a matter of opinion. There's more then one way to look at life and your statement was the optimistic one...Not that I don't agree with you, I do, it's just that there's more factors to debate about the topic.

"you owe me 3 minutes of my life...."

You would've just wasted them anyway.

Ok, I don't quite have the courage to tell anything about my life or what I've been through myself, but I'll try my best to get my opinion out straight... Well, I noticed that you said 'the things that have happened in my life affected me, but surprisingly in a good way' (or something along those lines, I wasn't smart enough to copy and paste :blush:) and I completely understand. I believe that when a person under-goes alot of trama in their life, either as young kids or older teens and even as grown adults, they may be scarred or left with images or feelings or unresolved issues to deal with - but they're also left with experience. They've had the chance to see the world work in ...well not so great ways, and after getting over something like that, i believe it can make you stronger... When you work out every once ina while, ur muscles get stronger and build for you right? Well I believe that in (some cases mind you) it works the same way with emotional strength. I have a great appreciation of life,and try to be optomistic no matter what the cost - for the simple reason that I have seen many things, and the fact that I don't have to deal with them anymore and that I'm over them, well things are looking up. And I can keep them that way. People may not be able to erase or change their past, but they can certainly pick out their most happiest times and make their memory a lil more bearable. -Anyway as you can see, I am very talented in the blabbing category, hehe, so I think I'll stop now even though I'm sure I forgot some thoughts. Anyone who takes the time to read this...ur a lil bit crazy (hehe jk :P ) See you all around :)

Ohhh yeah! i knew I forgot something, *giggles* my bad.... No worries this ones shorter ;) ... I was just gonna say:
However, once ina while people need an escape from life or from thought or stress...yanno, just a lil emotional vacation. (emphasis on the 'once ina while') And I myself, choose to do this through my poems... Well for only a small portion of it I use my poems - I'm the kind of person who hides everything from the world, and I definatley don't have the courage to write about anything deeper than what I already have been. So I take alot of 'me time' occasionally. I'm not a very social person... It kind of balances me out, lol so I'm not too hyper and happy and rediculously out of control 24/7 :P anywho.. I think I'm done now, I'm doing to beddy-byes :), 'night

now that i understand...i use poetry writting in the same way...if i ever have a bad day, i just express my emtions through my writting...and same thing if i have a good day. im glad that you try to keep optimistic no matter what happens in your life, i have a great deal of respect for that, as well as for you. you have a good head on your shoulders, please dont change

-dominique

lol well im glad u liked it : )