anyone hered ealing with abuse from a boyfriend ?

my boy friend has been abusing me for the past month sometimes even in public. he pulled my arms out of socket and my arms are bruised and legs to i think he dosnt hit my face b/c ppl see that

chuck him RIGHT NOW. get rid of him huni please. he should NOT do that to you its wrong. U have to move on and get away from him ASAP.
It is not fair on you to put urself thru that. If he loved you, he wouldnt hurt you, he may just wanna show what he can do, but u seriously have to get rid of him, he doesnt care about you.
~Georgi

he definatly doesnt deserve you, you can do so much better than this asshole. Tell someone (anyone) whats been going on. My friend had a verbally abusive boyfriend so I know this is easier said than done, but I promise you are so much better off with out him. And dump him over the phone or in a public space, so he can't hurt you anymore. And even if he says he will change don't listen, this guy needs serious help. You need a loving boyfriend that respects you, so just ditch him. if you need to talk, I'm a good listener
veggiegrl62@hotmail.com

i tried to get out of this relationship awhile ago but the abuse got worse when i tried to do that so i stayed with him it stoped for awhile then the abuse got worse like in the mall ppl would tell him to stop i just dont knoe what to do ?

if trying to get out of the realtionship didn't work then you should report him...or at leats tell someone you trust...file a restaring order or something...believe me, even though you may love the guy, it's not worth if he keeps hurting you like this, take care.
-dominique

he came over here today to say he was sorry and i couldnt even talk ?? help !

You should definitely get out of this relationship. I know it will be hard because you probably love him, but it's better for you.

You deserve to be with someone that will love you as much as you love them, and he's doesn't care for you if he treats you like this.

Follow the advice from the others and dump him immediately. If you still feel threatened by him then obtain a restraining order. In most areas it costs nothing to do this but you may need the help of your parents or another responsible adult.

Its not easy to get out of this I have been there and for me it got worse to so me and my friends started a buddy system for me. For the first couple of weeks I was not alone ever. I rode to work with a friend and one of them always stayed the night at my house. After awhile he started to back of when he reliazed I was serious this time and going back to him. It was the hardest thing i have ever done because to this day I can still say that I love him but I love my son and my life more.

Give him the boot FAST!! I don't believe ANYONE (male or female) has the right to put their hands on the person they are supposed to care about.
You don't need him...you're better than that. If you have to, file charges against him, but get away from him now. It will only get worse.

he came over and said he was sorry and you couldn't talk...was that because you wanted to forgive him...or you just didnt know what to say. honestly sweetie...as hard as it may be please report him, even if you love him this abuse isnt worth it...and you dont deserve it AT ALL!!! like you said trying to break up with him didnt work...and it just made his abuse worse...thats why i want you to report him, or at least try to end it with him again...but bring portection in case he tries anything ( like pepper spray) after the damage os done try to lay low for awhile, or at least do somthing to that affect. no one should be in a realtionship like yours...its unstable and just not right...you including everyone should never be treated like this...under any circumstance. i hope i helped...and i hope that soon you'll be able to help yourself, take care and god bless

Why are you wasting time with someone like that? Just leave, and he will leave you alone.

And also, why don't you just ASK him why he does it? and TELL him to stop, don't put up with that.

You need to be strong and tell him it's over. Even if he says he is sorry, people like that just don't change, he will loose his temper again. After you brake it off I like the suggestion of the buddy system. someone like him doesn't deserve you, remember that.

hun you need to let go over him and stay away from him

There is a girl on this site, her name is Lindsay. She is my best friend. She was dealing with the same thing, and she left him. She was able to finally let go and do it. For a year I had been telling her to leave...I have realized that you cannot leave him until you have reached the point where you are ready, and you have had enough. She did it 3 days after christmas last year. I was away for 2 days. When i got him she said she did it. I was like :| *jumps up and down screaming* o.O The thing is, i wasn't home to help her, I wasn't there to help her make the decision and stick with it...She did it on her own. She said that that was how she knew she was ready, because even though I wasn't home, she still wanted to do it.
People will tell you to leave a thousand times a day. You just can't do it until you are ready. But you coming here and asking us for advice, tells me that one day you WILL be ready. Some people never are, but if you take the step forward and admit you need to leave. You will get there one day. Hopefully sooner than later, before he kills you.
If you want to talk further about this feel free to email me, Nocturnal_Angel2990@hotmail.com
~*Ley*~