broken relationship

well, i tried to tell my ex that i was sorry, i tried to tell him how i felt...i love him so much and it is really bringing me down everyday that we arent together. we were together for over a year...we shared everything and anything with eachother. he has moved on, but i cant seem to. tonight he told me that he had no feelings for me wat so ever! how could he move on so fast when he swore that our love was true. i think now that i know he is happy with someone else and i have no chance, i need to move on. but it just doesnt feel right! i still feel guilty for our break up. what should i do, when being with others dont seem right, and the only thing i can seem to think about is him? what do i do when he still holds my heart, and i cant let go of the love we shared. i still love him sooo much??

one question why did u break up in the first place? and who ended it? and i bet you he hasnt moved on he is just using that girl as a rebound girl and deep inside he is very hurt, if our love wasnt true he wouldnt be with you for a year . guyz just dont like to show their feelings maybe thats it
hope everythign turns out right :)

well i broke it off, only because he lost all of his friends because of me, and i could see that upset him soo much...also we started fightin (we were living together, working together)

when i called him yesterday he said he felt nothin for me, because i hurt him so much and thats the way it had to be. but i explained to him why i broke it off. he doesnt believe me cause someone told him i was screwin someone else. i wasnt tho! i would never cheat on him! and now i am so upset that he doesnt want anything to do with me. he said hes totally happy with this new gurl!

but i cant let go! it took so long to make us work...we weren't just dating, we were best friends! i feel like i lost everything. i cant just move on!

no it's not like that, i was tryin to make him go out with his friends but he kept telling me that he would rather stay home and spend time with me. i warned him about what would happen but at the time he did seem to care. trust me..i'd do anything to make him happy.
*i had my ears pierced up the top - he didnt like them so i took them out
*he liked certain clothes on me - so i threw out the ones he didnt like
*he liked my hair straight but its naturally curly - so i straightened it whenever i could
*he only liked a few of my friends, he told me he didnt like me seein the other ones

i did everything possible to make him happy!

if he is trying so hard to change you, maybe he's not right for you, you know? I know you still think about him, and a year is a long time to be dating. there is always a lot of hurt involved in a breakup, unless the person you broke up with was hurting you FIRST... you know? If he has no feelings for you at all, what can you do but hope? Have you really tried talking to him? To me, it sounds like a weird reason to break up, becuase he lost his friends... sounds like you two just need to work things out. Is he still trying to be your friend? I hope so, at least that way you guys could talk it out or something? God.... im really sorry....

i said, we were best friends, as well as dating..dont you get that...i mean we were more then just girlfriend boyfriend! also, there are alot of reason why we lived together. (my mom didnt want me living with her, and my dad didn't have a house, he stayed with friends) i never said he was horrible to me, and i never said i was the best, so dont make up your own story! i never said that i didnt want him to be happy...i was just seeking advice from people who had been through this on how to move on! And again, how dare you even suggest that i was screwing around! i am not that kinda person! second, there isnt any more of the story to tell...besides things got real complicated, and he got real angry and threatened to hit me (several times) i only never said that because all of a sudden people would think thats the kinda person he was all over. and hes not! so instead of assuming the story, get the facts!

also i went to the pub last night and he was there...my friend said he kept lookin over at me, and everytime i would catch him staring, he would turn around and kiss his girlfriend...whats up with that!!!

control freak -- you're better off without him.

he was the only guy thats ever treated me good tho...it was only when he got real mad about something that he would say he was gunna hit me, i know i'm probably making excuses, but i can't help but want him back. and he's not makin me jelous, more upset i think.

yer, thanx for your advice but getting over him is easier said then done. maybe you think i sound like "many of the girls"...or mayb you should stop pretending you know all about these "many of the girls" circumstances. mayb it's true! mayb they are the only guyz that have ever treated them right. cause when i look around, all i see are people pretending to understand. well i didnt ask for fake understanding! and i didnt ask for something to happen between my ex and i. what i asked for is how do i go about gettin over him.
and i dont care that he told me a few times that he was goin to hit me...cause even though it scared me, i think i knew he never would...and everyone gets angry and says things they dont mean.

i already know i have to get over him, i've been told that several times, i know i dont want to, i know its going to be hard, i know deep down i will always love him!
but what i dont know is how i go about all of this???