HE's doing something he shouldn't... and im sad

Any time your trust is broken it takes time to build that trust up again. Give him some time, try to trust him, don't be nagging him about it. Honestly, it's HIS decision. If he wants to be with you as much as he says then he will stop. If you nag him, he'll do it because you are nagging him. Only time will tell.

Good luck to you!

I think you were smart to make these promises to each other. He's probably smoked a lot less pot this way and you engaged in much less cutting. And that is something very positive. Truthfully, there is no way to know that either one of you won't slip up again. I think you just have to look at the positive side because, although you don't want these things to happen, they're still forgivable offenses. I think that mutual promises made to each other can be more effective when you renew them and recite them to each other frequently. Once in a while just hold each others' hands and repeat your promises. It is a way of reinforcing their importance in your relationship.

"but so should i still stay with him"

By all means, YES!

And congrats on staying away from the cutting.

If he is such an awesome guy yes you should stay with him. I am happy to hear the promise thing works for both of you.

Kori--
Anything is possible. My husband quit drinking after drinking almost every day for about 15 years, He smoked pot as long as he drank & he quit that at the same time. So, don't be so quick to be negative about this situation.

Ok well me and my boyfriend kindof made the same promise except he was doing coke. Well I found out he was doing it when he went to jail. And then he got probabtion and quit and then he started doing it again. I still don't trust my boyfriend but i love him to death. Hopefully you will learn to trust him. Just give it time.

Tell him how you feel
Amber

For anyone seriously trying to overcome an addiction, a bad habit or some bad behavior, one fundamental requirement is to avoid being in the company of others who are doing it and to stop going to places where it goes on.

You can't control his life but if you keep telling him how important it is to you for him to be drug-free, maybe that will help motivate him. Keep on encouraging him and give him some praise each time you see that he's been making the effort.