Shud I Run Away?

I come 4m a muslim family, u know da whole not allowed go out thing and da whole arranged marriged thing, anyways iv been wanting to run away 4m home for a long time now. My bf (which no1 knows about, if they found out i'll be dead) is movin and he asked me to come with him, and im so confused now. I love my family and i dont want to hurt them cus my sis ran away 3yrs ago n i know how it feels, but i still want a life worth livin. Im in my last yr in skol so if i go i cant finish it. What will i do??

hey

I come from a muslim family and I unerstand what you mean. But first off I agree with kill.us.all finish school.
HOw old is your bf? and how long have you been together?
There are so many things you have consider hun. My sister ran away and she didn't think things through, luckily because my mum is english she had relatives she could go live with. But do you? What if you and this guy break up what you gonna do? and how about a job?

My sister in law did exactly what your thinking of. A year later things are ok with her and her family.

Think of it, think of a back up and remember that your parents could disown you. It happens, my dad the same to my sister.

If you wanna talk more email me at everyones_girl@hotmail.co.uk

take care ness xxx

My bf is 21 Iv been with him for just over a year. He knows what i go thru at home thats why he wants me to come.
I know my dad would disown me cus he did to my sis, and this time my mom will proberly disown me to, but i just gotta live with that if i want a life worth liven.
I hate skol but i know if i dont finish it im gonna regret it in the long run.

Can't you finish ur last year in a diff school? wat happened to ur sis? Maybe something of that same want of freedom affected her as well?

running away is illegal, but....i think you can do it....

please finsih school...and i know you may not want to hear this, but running away is never the answer. because no matter what...you cant run away from your problems when you come back, that is if you do. but what the person above said is true, it is illegal. however you do desverve a life thats worth living...but before you make any rash decsions please think...long and hard. good luck in what ever you choose

-dominique

family is the most important thing in the world, boyfriends (and girlfreinds) will come and go, but your family are there for you for ever.
If you and your boyfriend love each other enough then you will be able to make it work without being together all the time. Don't run away it will be a lot harder than you think.
This is just my oppinion but i suggest you call a helpline or something and you can talk to a proffesional.
aaron

uh... random question: are you pregnant?
i just read one of your poems...
if you love your boyfriend and you really want to go then nobody can really stop you. i can't, and nor can anyone else here. just think about it...are the rewards worth the consequences?

If I were in your shoes, I would definitely run away. If you are motivated enough, you will sort out your education later. Cover your tracks well but leave room in your heart for a reconcilition with your family. They may have a change of heart at a later date. Things have a way of working themselves out over time.

I can't believe you are telling this girl to run away. Your parents are not strict because of their religion...they're strict because they care. I have a friend who was kicked out of her house at 16. She went back for a couple weeks and then ran away. She just turned 20. You know where she's been living for the last 4 years? ON THE STREET or IN HER CAR! She like you had a boyfriend no one liked so she ran away to be with him as her parents refused to let her see him. THEY BROKE UP and then she was stuck as her parents would not allow her to come back home. They were tired of her disrupting their lives moving in and out. Now 4 years later she has no high school diploma, a felony on her record because she was doing illegal stuff to get money to eat, and no real job. She works at a work today, get paid today place because no real place of employment will hire a high school drop out. You can't even work at McDonalds with no diploma. Take my advice, stay in school and stay with your parents. Quit trying to grow up too fast...if your boyfriend truly loves you he will understand and he will support any decision you make. If he doesn't then why would you want to go away with him anyway?

I aint pregnant. I really have to leave this place, just imagine yourself everyday looking out ur bedroom window wishing you could go out there instead of being locked up in a 4wall house. I gotta go weither its with my bf or not, i cant live like this any more, i just gotta. Im getting more and more depressed day by day and i know one day i wont be able to handle it anymore.

When I was 15 I tried to leave. I didn't know where I was going or what I was going to do but I just didn't want to be home. I got to the corner and my mom popped up. How silly is that? There I was thinking no one cared and the whole time she was hurting because I was. I messed up all on my own but she was there to catch me. You're silly if you think your parents don't care about you. Be happy that they care enough to be on you like they are. Be happy they give a shit...and they keep you safe! My sister used to run away all the time...she'd be gone for weeks at a time and seeing my mother so stressed isn't (I DON'T THINK) something anyone should have to go through. She was a basket case. Cherish what you have and learn to deal with the rules and restrictions set forth in your home as they are for your own good. They're there for a reason...and it's not to make you miserable. Here recently a 17 year old girl went to the movies with her friends and she never came home. Think bigger than this girl because it is bigger than just rules!