HE wants me to go FURTHER.!!

You know yourself best. If you feel like you're not ready, you're not. Trust yourself. If he doesn't understand that, he's not worth being with.

Ew. 13 year olds should still be playing with dolls and stuff not boys body parts. Be serious for a second. Sex? At 13? Girl whatever you've been drinking stop.

i never thought about sex when I was 13 either, it was unheard of but nowadays girls are getting pregnant at 12.
my opinion is have a serious talk with him, tell him to stop pressuring because he's not being very supportive. tell him if he still wants to be with you he's gonna have to try and support your decisions and wait until you're ready.
13 is a bit young, no matter what everyone else is doing

NO NO NO NO NO NO X8443943!

you have a right.
he should fkn respect it.
if he loves you,
and you love him..
tell him to grow the fuck up.
you dont have to be ready,
you're only 13.

i respect you for having an honest opinion with yourself.

wow. really cool...

i almost wish i could read a follow up to see how he reacts if/when you tell him to take a cold shower.

lol! ^-^

xoxox

The answer is simple:
You already told him no, so stick to it.

If you truly wanted to, you would have already.

I think that the danger is that it could start with a bit of touching and kissing, but then without notice it could easily become so much more.
Not that I'm experienced in this, but I advise you right now to say NO.

-beth

wow i wish i would have heard this before i decided to go all the way....
you need to get him to understand you know how you feel and you know your not ready. if this boy cant take that dump him!!! believe me its not all its cracked up to be. I am 14 years old and i already know what its like!! its emotional stress you are not ready for yet girl. i am telling you this because if you give in alittle it usually turns into alot. If you need to talk email me
lilbergie09@msn.com
im here for ya
Kat

I think for 13 you're fairly mature, i think it's fantastic that you're not trying to be older than what you are. You're being true to yourself and being very strong and even though i dont know you im proud of you for not being pressure by him and others to have sex with him. If you're not ready then dont do it hunny. Stay strong no matter what!!

if he FORCES you to go farther sexually than you are comfortable with.
Get rid of him instantly.
No guy is worth it, and it's more likely
that he is "using" you, and not caring about
you.
[if thats the best way to put it]

SAY NO!!!
Save yourself for marriage!! It is so worth it just knowing that you gave it to the one that you are gonna spend the rest of your life with!!!
TRUE LOVE WAITS!!!

well like what everyone else is saying u no yourself best an you no what that voice inside is saying...
trust that inner voice!!
believe me im 21yr an u no ive done it etc but yeah it can bring u closer if YOU BOTH WANT TO DO IT!!!!!!
u wont bond more or get closer if u do do it when u dont want too.. yeah he will like it but your 13yr and k k some ppl are more into things now adays at younger ages but personally even me now i would still think about doing anything before saying yes!! plus he has no right pressuring you..
ive been there and had it done to me... not good!!!!

if he says that there are other ways to show you love me!!! he an you can get another thrill out of it u dont have to do that!!!

k well trust yourself and dont do it if u dont want too.. no one has the right to pressure u into anytihng!

h

Firstly, well done for sticking to your answer and not letting him do stuff that you don't want him to do. He says he "loves" you, im sorry but does he know what love is? Love includes showing your partner respect, something he is not doing whilst basically forcing you in to doing stuff you don't wanna do. I know you probably like him a lot, but i would get rid of him. I went out with a guy who forced me to do stuff, but unlike you i gave in and hated every second. In the end i wouldn't give him all he wanted so he finished with him, and although i was gutted, looking back i should of ended stuff with him long before. DON'T ever let ANYBODY pressure you..if they do send them to me and i will sort them out :-) xx

whoa girl this is a tough one... if your not ready to do anything then dont.. people mature at different ages and if your not ready and he is maybe you should consider just being friends with him... somtimes pressure can get to you... trust me i would know... but i didnt really mind it.. i dunno... but myself and all of these other people cant tell you what to do... only you can figure this out... onlyl you know when your ready... and if your not then dont... wait until your ready and you will be sooo much happier with yourself.... lots of love

sammie

Hunny First of all he is being awfully pushy. and just to say that you do give in hes gonna expect the next BIG step and take it from someone who has been through a lot of heart breaks, being "sexually" active with someone doesnt make you become "closer" it'll just WRECK your world if you two were too break up after it

just think if the guy is worth it and baby ur only 13 give it a few more years. the stage ur going threw is probably just a fetish that so - called "puppy - love"

Just dont do ne thing u aint ready for and if he keeps pushin it dump him like trash and wait for the guy that will be willing to wait for you and when the time is right

Girl, I'm sorry, but you need a little respect. I kinda get the idea of how complicated this is, but notice that in "our" age group versus those even just a couple years older, it's changed quickly. In my school, sometimes they even have contests over that. I think you should save yourself and take whatever's in his head OUT. That's not any reason you should risk getting pregnant at ur age. Man, I know a mom, she's my friend, she had her first son at 8, daughter at 12. it's so sad b/c she's only 20... too young to have to worry about children. but just think, what if you get pregnant? you could die.

in my opinion, guys stare at girls a lot around these years...sometimes i want to slap them because they don't have any respect. im sure ur bf respects you, but if he can wait..... make sure he waits until marriage at least b/c wont ur parents get mad if u accidentally get pregnant, or they catch u?

dont do it.

Man, I know a mom, she's my friend, she had her first son at 8, daughter at 12.

Ok unless that girl had her period when she was 7 there is no way that she had a baby at 8. You can't get pregnant if you've never had your period before. And I really don't think its very likely for someone who is 8 to start. And you said she had her second kid when she was 12 if thats true that just kinda shows what a s/-t she is.

ok hun you made your choice and it was a good one. wait until your ready. don't let some boy make the decisions for you. Good luck

there's been a lot of times when kids in 2nd or 3rd grade have had periods ><