iS he PlAyInG WiTh mE Or NoT???

well i have a long story...and i don't really feel like writin it here 1. because imma start cryin and 2. because i really don't know what to believe

well my boyfriend is miguel and i been with him 4 some time now and we have always had a STRONG relationship...and before he went out with me...he went out with this other gurl that i can't really stand...but he liked me 4 like 2 years and he just started talkin to me and he broke up with her and we suddenly became very close friends and then we went to the next step...we became boyfriend/girlfriend...and recently he dropped out of school because he had to start working and all that...the day that he started workin is the day that the rummors really started and i don't like them...and like 3 days ago his ex called me and told me that while he is going out with me he is messin with her and that they still mess around and that he always goes to her house and they still kiss and blah blah blah...and when i ask him he denyies it...and i don't know who to believe...him or her??? she seems to know alot about my relationship with him and i want to believe him but i don't know what to do...can ya'll tell me what to do...i need serious help
please

seems like his ex just has a problem.

yeah i know what u sayin annelyse but tha onle reason y he dropped out of school is because he had some family problems and he had to start workin...his dad left his mom after 25 yrs or marrige and now he has to work to make the money...
i feel like i can trust him and when somebody calls him he puts the person on 3 way or i can hear the whole conversation...i never tought that he would have secrets 4rm me...and the "jealous ex..." is gettin on my nerves...tellin me .."he came to my house like at 5 in the afternoon."...when at 5 in the afternoon he was with me..y is she doing that...and i don't know ...he gets med a lot easier than he did before and its scaring me cause i don't want to lose him...i don't know what to do..

well you deff need to talk to him i think in your profile your all 15, well i mean that is the time where people experiment and all that crap, but not when you "with someone" have a talk with him and if he say's he's not listen to him b/c if you keep asking the same question one of 2 things could happen he will do b/c you think he has or 2 he'll break up with you cuz he feels you dont trust him,
and i bet the whole thing with his ex saying stuff is to piss you off and make you questions him maybe she still has a think for him and if trying to break you 2 up, well i hope i help a lil

ok well i'm tired of ppl judging me just because i'm 15...that always gets me mad...and i THINK that i solved my problems with him and the x girlfriend thing...she is just jealous..and now she is hittin on him like when i am right there and its pissin me off...he don't like her and he is trying to stay as far away from her as possible...well thank ya'll 4 all ya'll help...much love

oh my god jennifer...i love ur advice...and i love ur love story and i think that u r one of those girls that r just luky enuff for that to happend and i think thats great
well i don't know...now that he works and all that i call him after i get off school like at 2:30 and he always talks to me 4 exactly like 5 minutes then he is like let me hit u up when i get off work at 8 and i don't know...i call him at 8 and he don't answer he always call me back...i don't like that i feel like i'm being cheated on and that he has no more feelings 4 me then he calls and i answer and he all like...what took u so long to answer,,,i was like it only rang like 3 times...and then we get into a big argument and today i haven't called him after school and imma take ur advice to c what happenedz...i really love him thoe..i don't know why...he treats me soo good ...when he wants...
thankz alot

I agree with Jennifer. If he really cares about you, He'll come back for you.

You know what. I say like the others if u have proof why should you care though i understand that this is not easy but dumb his stupid ass on the spot cause he isn't worth it.remember IF YOU HAVE PROOF. if not give it time for the shit spedin around is just bull. so my anwser is....Time will tell

do you believe he will mess around?? , like they said you should talk to him...
my boyfriend now and i were together for a month 2 years ago... after that he tried to get me back almost 10 times, but i wuz stubborn... we both dated someone else for a while... but then we realized who we really love and got back together... its 7 months on monday... 7 months... of hardwork, growing up, loving, being silly, happy, hurting, but its all worth it...

if a few days of rumours make you question, you really need to talk to him calmly and try not to be jealous, his ex is trying to mess with your mind, don't let her get to you, stay strong, have faith, and make sure you two communicate...

just a thought.. have you ever questioned yourself about exactly how much u love and trust him?

ok...i have to thank all of u for your advices....appreciate it..

and i have to tell u that i DID talk to him ...no over the phone...but face to face...i sat him down and we talked for almost 3 hrs...and i told him everything that was on my mind...about the ex girlfriend...and about how he is changing...and how he don't love me the same and how much differently he is treating me and i told him that i didn't like it...and he said that he will change and all that ...i didn't believe him but i still smiled and said ok...he proved me wrong...now he calls me evry day when he is at work just to say "hi baby...i just called to tell u that i love u and i miss you and i'mma call u at 6 and not a minute later"...and he always calls at 5:59...and i love that...he changed amazingly...and i feel like he is easier to love now...and i think now we are on the same page... we are going to be together forever...i can feel it and so can he...i told him about how ya'll helped me and he thanks u too...i'm so happy...thankz again...love all of ya'll
Love always
PreCiOsa

im so happy for you...congrats....when a guy changes for you he really cares..i hate that feeling of is he cheating am i going to loose him....and that fact your 15 screw that....it doesnt matter i know what you mean...i was 15 when i had a serious relationship and if drugs didnt get inbetween im sure we would still be togther .... im 16 now and im engaged ...well anyways you are so lucky not many guys can swallow ther pride and show their girlfriend they really love them even if it means they have to be mushy gushy tell us how every is going later peace

being 15 shouldn't really be an issue, cos even though you're still young you're old enough to make your own desicions. I met my boyfriend when i was 15 and im 17 now, we're still together. We get loadsa s***t from people, but at the end of the day, everybody around us is breaking up yet we're the only couple that have stayed together the longest so i just think "screw it!" we've had to deal with jealous ex's (mine mostly) early on too, but we overcame it. Communication is a must though so well done on sitting down with him and talking it through :-) xxx good luck! :-)

yeah i know...and i feel sooo good when i am with him...i know only he can make me feel this way and nobody else...we have talked sooo much over this short period of time...and he said just last night "i don't know what imma do if u ever leave me...i want u to know that u r the reason y i breathe and y i wake up in the morning...i have to work because i wanna make u my wife and spend my whole life with u"...and i know he means each and everyword ... its all called love and i know that imma be with him forever and he'll never leave him and he'll never leave me...love is a wonderful thing only when the two ppl mean what they say to eachother...just seeing the smile on his lips makes me smile and just hold him tight and tell him i love him...hes my everything

yes jennifer i lest him alone...i didn't bug him...i guess that he just wondered y i don't call him anymore and decided to call me and he did come bak to me...he better..and he did call me and i was just listening to what he had to say...and it really convinced me that he loves me and now our relationship is stronger than ever...thanks 4 all of ur help

i've been in this situation before and it can be real tricky. in every relationship there will always be someone who doesnt want ya together. and who better to hate then the ex? some people make up lies to break you up, but on the other hand if she telling you whats going on in your own relationship she has to get it from him. if you have no proof,and you cant catch him in the act then let it go. and like they already said no body will admit to cheating unless u caught them with your own eyes. be careful and dont let your guard down

Don't worry bout it..settle it the Alaskan way..lol jus got and kick her teeth in..that's the way we settle things around here we don't beat around the bush..we get to the point..no warning..just give her your 2 cents and if she's got something to say about it...tell her to can it and tell her dentist..that's what i'd do...so have at it..no time for screwin around like this..kick her teeth in..or break up with him..that's what i have to say bout it

lolz..i wish that i can do that...but nah...cuz like a couple of dayz ago i called him and i told him to call her on 3 way so i can c how he talks to her... and they weren't even talkin about them two they were talking about me and him and how much he loves me and she was like so happi 4 me and then i got mad and i was like okkkk..maybe i was wrong..maybe he ain't cheatin on me and as things moved along slower i saw that he was being honest... i really like him...well love him...whatever u call it and i don't want him to know that cuz come on that will make me more volnurable...well i doubt that i spelled that right but whatever...i trust him 100% and i don't think that he'll ever cheat on me...