should I tell my secret

I have a secret about something that happened to me as a child. I was made to promise never to tell anyone. I'm afriad to tell but its eating me up inside and I keep having flaashbacks of what happened.

I'd appreciate your opinions, thankyou

If you want to reveal what took place, don't let a promise you made as a child prevent you from doing so. You were probably put under pressure to make that promise and so it was not made with your free consent. Any promise given under those circumstances is completely null and void.

wow i know how you feel i kept my secret in side of me for so long it literally had me having nightmares. life was so hard to face when i kept it bottled up inside me. Expecially when it is your family who is doing it to you! just let it out. Dont be scared. You cannot hide from it cuz it will come back stronger each day. Since i let mine out about what my brothers have done to me as a child and even not that long ago it made me change. i no longer wake up crying at night. It takes a load off your heart

Our secrets are chains that bind us and drag us down. Their weight will sink us and cause us to drown. If we can loose the chains we will to rise to the surface. Free yourself from the chains and finally you will be free.

Sounds to me that it is a bad kind of secret that you are keeping. I suggest telling someone you know and trust, or letting it out through writing, which can be a kind of private release.
I hope that you can resolve this,
Best Wishes
*VioletRaven*

yeah hun let it out, something happened to me this year, and since i cant tell aneone i have night terrors, and they wont go away, just tell someone, anyone that you trust

My psychiatrist wants me to think about telling her, it just seems so difficult. I already told her about sexual abuse that I suffered from my cousin, but this one seems worse. I mean the flashbacks are still haunting me about the things that happened with my cousin. But I just feel that she would be disgusted with me that I had to do those things and there was nothing I could do to stop them and its all my fault I know it is. They were things that someone did to me who wasn't my cousin.

I'm just scared.

hey hunny i know what you are going through, and i should probably listen to my own advice on this one, but it wastn your fault, you admitted it, there was nothing you could do, but it always feels like its you fault, but you have to remind yourself it wasnt your fault, i've been in a situation you are probably in, and it sucks cuz see you have someone to tell, and i dont, so just take advantage of it,

hey hun,
Im Julie and I dont know you but...I had a serect about myself and I never told any1 for about 7 years and I just told that someone about a week ago and it feels so good to have it off my chest. Even though it didnt take back what happened to me it felt good to get ot out. I feel like it is my problem to and I wish I could have just screamed stop but I didnt. If you want to talk Im here for you and I will listen to you and talk.
xoxoxJulie

Don't call it a secret, the more you refer to it as a sacret the more it feels as if thats what it should be.
Tell someone, its the only advice i can give you.
It will only eat you up more and more until you tell someone.
I am here for you
Tara xxxxx

Are you scared because of the possible consequences that the perpetrator(s) may face? If so, maybe that is what you should discuss first with your psychiatrist

You are fortunate to be receiving professional help. By seeing a psychiatrist, You have the opportunity to receive the therapy and treatment that's needed to deal with the issues that are causing your distress and your flashbacks. But the only way she can't help you is for you to find the willingness and the courage to open up and reveal the events that took place in your childhood.

There is no way any legitimate psychiatrist would blame you or hold you responsible for the past events to which you were subjected as a child.

I know this is not something that is easy or pleasant. And I wish you all the best in dealing with it.

i kept a secret for about 6 years?
but i told my boyfriend about it a few months ago, he understood and we talked about it, i felt a lot better...
it wasn't anything big, but its not something that everyone would believe, but if you let it out, i think you would feel a lot better too

you should definitly tell. if you were forced to make it, or were under pressure, then its not really a true promise.

most of the time telling someone is the best way to not be scard of it anymore, Talk with someone you can trust or someone that loves you and cares for you, if you just keep it into your self then it will keep eating you up day by day.

well be strong and I hope that you can live a safe and wonderful life;) dont give up:D

Okay,
Secrets... They are both good and bad things, you tell someone a secret, and they keep it out of loyalty, respect or love.
The bad part is; that if you have a secret, which is eating you up from the inside.

You say you're not shure if you want to tell anyone, or should tell anyone.. Well, you probably should.
Human beeings are social creatures, we are designed to feel and talk. We should use these skills to make ourselves feel better.

So, I think that if you get the oppertunity to tell someone, and you trust this person you want to tell it too... you probably should.
I haven't told anyone, because of the problems it would cause, but I swear... I wish I could.

Yeah something bad happened to me when I was younger. I kept it bottled up for so long but in the end it was just getting me down so much I had to tell someone. After I did I felt so much better about the whole thing. I realised that none of it was my fault and that I couldnt of stopped it either. I think you should tell a close mate or someone you trust but its up to you.

If the secret is hurting you, as it seems to be doing then yes do let it out. The past is a haunting thing and can be dreadful. I know there are sometimes that happened in mine that I can't think about too long or I just hate myself and feel so tainted and dirty. It helps to talk about secrets b/c then the pain and build up isn't all on you. The past can not be changed, but it can be dealt with, so maybe the person who you tell can help you heal and then you will live life better than you ever thought possible. People love you, like people on this site, your theripist and I am sure several others in your life. Don't hurt them by shutting them out. They are there for you if you will let them.

-Mikochan

yes hun, if you're not doing good now becuase it's weighing you down, then it's in your interest to tell and 'get it off your chest'.
Like many people have said, a promise made in that circumstance, is 'void' so dont be scared of that.
However, take your time, and tell someone who you truly trust. And also no-one will judge you, especially not your psychiatrist.
anyway..good luck with it all hun
xoxoxox

i always felt if i kept my problems in....after time it got worse and worse
Speak to someone you love and trust
and believe me u will feel so relieved
x

U can tell us

If it's going to make you better and feel better about yourself, do want you can. It's your life and you don't want to live with the nightmares forever..
It's up to you in the end..you have control with your life.

Thankyou everyone for your support on this and advice. I think I am going to tell someone. I've let too many people use me for too long and get away with it. Its time I stood up and told people. Nothing can be worse than it is now. And if it will make things better than I guess I got to do it.

Thanks again :)

Good Luck Baby!

good luck baby! Tell us how it went...

good job, hun!!!! you need to tell. stay strong!!!!
**lisa**

I have the same problem, but it's just recently that i've been able ot open up about it. Find someone you trust and maybe you'll be able to open up to. I know it sounds cliche but it does feel alot better to talk to someone about it. I'm always here if you need someone to talk to . stephanie_sweetie_28@hotmail.com

thankyou :)

Im glad you are/did tell someone. If you want to talk than Im here for ya, I love talking to people!

Julie~

Great job baby! I am proud of you! I hope you are able to find some peace with your secret.

-Mikochan

Bottling Up Your Feelings And Emotions Only Make Thing Worse, Because Sooner Or Later, All Your Bottling Up Will Blow Up In Your Face, Its Better To Release Than Hold It In xoxo-Nikki-xoxo