sexually abused??

When I was round the ag of ten I was on a visit in my old hometown. I slept over at my parents friends place, a 50 year old guy who always had been a really good friend to my parents and to me cuz he had helped me through some social problems that I had back then. Anyway we all trusted him. Anyway he wanted to give me massage that night and I thought hey why not, it'd be nice. But he asked me to take my shirt off and when he massaged me he kept going for my breasts. I felt so disgraced and humiliated and it's been haunting me since then. I feel so stupid to have let him do that. I feel so guilty... It found out long after that that he was an alcoholic. My family and him had stopped seeing each other (not because of his problems or what he did to me, no knows what he did to me) they just grew apart. Anyway I heard that he in his drunk periods had been harassing his ex and threatned my dad. According to him he was just quoting Eminems lyrics... Anyway... I just felt I needed to get this off my chest... I don't know maybe there has to be more to it to call sexual abusing but I've been feeling really bad and guilty of this... Say what you think and maybe tell you're own experiences...

You have no reason to feel bad or guilty because none of it is your fault. You can't blame yourself because he was wrong. Yes I have had some sort of sexual abuse and its good to get it off your chest, maybe one day you'll feel strong enough to tell someone else. But what you have to remember is you didn't ask for it, it was your fault. He took advantage of you and abused his position of trust that he had with you and your family.

Please take care and I'm here if you ever need to talk.

One way of clearing the air would be to write him a letter and say everything you are feeling to him. Don't hold anything back. He took advantage of you at an age when you were just too young and immature to know how to respond to his perverted actions. You bear no responsibility at all for what happened. The blame is all his.

You have certainly no need to feel guilty
Its sexual abuse as soon as you percieve it as sexual
And if you felt hurt and uncomfortable then what he did was wrong
I think that writing a letter would be a good idea
...just to let it off your chest
good look ...P.M me if you feel like ya wanna talk
speak soon
emily
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exact same thing happened to me. i used to always hang with this 50 something year old guy and he always seemed so cool until one night he kept making me sit on his lap, after i did, he would touch my inner thighs which felt so wrong but i was 8, i didnt know y it felt wrong, it wasnt until a few years later that i realized what happeend and sadly it still haunts me

same thing happened to me. only except he was closer to my age, it happened twice, yes i know i was stupid, the second time it happened may of this year. Friday May 13, 05 just a coincidence. And he end up pushing it over and over, and it was really something taht had me cutting, and my mom found out a week later, after i was dragged up to the councelors by a friend who then turned it into the cops. I swear that was the most depressing thing i had gone through good luck

SEXUAL ABUSE ROXS!!!!!

Are you for real?

Thank you guys!! This really helps! Bloodscars... don't really know what you're trying to say...
Anyway Thanks you others!!

TO: Bloodscars

what the hell is wrong with you serioesly.... NOT COOL!!! sexual abuse does not rock, grow up and get a life pervert!!!

listen, bloodscars, i do get that you obviously don't like these threads and think, for some reason or another, that they are petty and a joke, but people who have gone through stuff like this dont think its petty or nething like that. stop saying stuff that you know will hurt and upset people who have already been hurt and upset for chrissakes.

to alex, i think it counts as sexual abuse as soon as you feel it crosses a line that shouldn't be crossed apart from lovers. i'm sorry you had to go through that and i hope you never have to relive it ever again. i agree with the people nearer the start of this thread, a letter is a good way to get things off your chest. you don't have to worry about saying the wrong thing, because you can rewrite it as many times as you want, you don't have to worry about clamming up when you're talking to the people you love, because you don't have to look them in the face or even be there when they read the letter. i think it seems like something which is really bugging you (and why wouldn't it) and is quite upsetting for anyone.

the best of luck in everything, hope it all goes well.

Forsaken Redeemer
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