am I a mean person

my friends are going out and I like the guy and i told him and he told me he really likes me too and he's probably going to break up with my friend and she's really depressed cause she kind of knows and I just hate myself right now...

goodness have i ever been there before. all i can say is this. think about who means more to you. if someone pointed a gun at you, which one would take the bullet. who will be by yoru side through thick and thin, who will split after a fight

um, out of curiousity, even if he stays with her, will that make things any better? i mean he'll still like you for a while, which is a sort of infidelity, and she'll still feel bad because she'll still feel that his attention is divided.

He sounds pretty fickle. If you get together with this guy, I would expect that before long he'll be dumping you for someone new. Then you will have lost a boyfriend as well as your good friend.

i think you shuldn't have told your frds bf you like him.. personally i think its ok if they broke up first, but now you're kinda caught right in the middle of nowhere...
i guess you can't do too much anymore, but the next thing i'd do if i were you is, if he does ask you to go out, and you want to keep your friendship with this friend, i'd make sure with that friend before going out with him
the point isn't if you're friend has an idea and is mad at you now? if you don't approach her to talk about it or when she does find out when he does dump her to go out with you, she'd be just as mad, possibly even more angry?

Wow.. I've kind of been in that spot before.. You have to decide who you feel is more important.. You're friend, or a guy you like.. or think how you would feel if it happened to you.. And if you and this guy do go out, what makes you think he won't do the same thing to you as he did to your friend. He may like you a lot now, but in the future, he may like someone else more, and do the same stuff to you..

how long have they been together? and how close are you with this friend?

*I didn't read the above posts, just the original*

I've been in the same situation before and believe me, it may seem like it could be worth it but it's NOT. The fact that he's telling you he likes you when he already has a steady girlfriend really shows you the kind of person he is. Once you have him and you've lost your friend (and, unfortunately, it is likely you will lose her because this is basically 'stealing her boyfriend') what makes you so sure he's not going to pull the same stunt on you with another one of your friends?

I'm not telling you this to be mean, I'm telling you this because it's happened to me before and I got the guy and my friend and soon after, I lost him too. Though in my situation, the girl was a fake friend to start off with so it didn't hurt as much but, with you, it sounds like she is a real friend so I'd be careful how you handle the situation.

I know it's a cliche but, put yourself in her situation. What would you do if someone you cared about was telling one of your friends that he actually liked them and was going to dump you soon to be with them?

Just my two cents of course, it's your life.

friends come and go....and so do boyfriends...lol....but if you two like each then she should understand if she's really your friend. But if your really her friend you would'nt go out with him. It's your happiness and hers on the line.....very complicated and confusing lol :)

hey, good friends are hard to find, and how would you feel if you were your friend?? the guy sounds like he'll just leave a girl, so i wouldn't go out with him.

loyalty is important to me, and i'm very abide the rule " dont date your frnd's ex ithout discussing it first"

my friends have done that to me, my opinion is then dont ruin the relationship dont let it be a big deal you cant control feelings if my friend was happy witha kid i liked then i want her to be happy i can make sacrifces