problem: moving away

  • alwaysremeniceus
    18 years ago

    me and my boyfriend have been going out for a bit more than 6 months, its actually more like a long distance and somewhat online relationship? but our love for eachother and our preserverence and understanding is pretty much the same as any other relationship, possibly even stronger? but we see eachother at malls sometimes since we dont live TOO far away, just that we cant exactly date each other in rl due to various reasons

    both of us have strict parents, my parents being completely retarded and going all out to earn money even though we have enuf to live, his parents working in big companies, but still there when he needs them (he works too at the companies his parents work at)

    he's really smart and he'll be graduating this year. he's been accepted and given a scholarship for a really good university overseas, and we may not be able to maintain our relationship anymore. his parents don't know about us and mine don't either but his parents don't let him stay in long term relationships since they may influence his grades?

    i really don't want things to just end like that, we were working on things so we could be together in rl too? but now we're both scared that he's going to have to leave, things will change so much, and i don't want them to, but its for the better

    normally im very optimistic to a foolish degree but im breaking down fast and badly, i always try to be happy even though it does hurt to love him, and its absolultely devastating knowing that the one you love is constantly having heartaches whenever he thinks of you because he loves you... but now we've both broken down, i still try to seem happie or sugar coat things, but he seems to have broken down so much it's pretty much opposite of who he normally is(sheltering me from almost anything)

    im not sure what to do and i can't keep this up for long, i haven't really talked to him too much in the past 3 days or so and we're breaking down more and more each day... other than trying to stay strong i have no idea what i can do

    but right now, we can't even do what we said we'd do at the minimum;
    to spend all the time we can with eachother and be happie, fill our hearts with our happiest moments and always remember them...

    i've become lost, and im scared, he's taught me so much, help me grown up so much, he taught me how to love, how to be a friend, how to be a girlfriend, i love him with all my life and i just want to be with him forever

    does anyone have some advice in what i may be able to do to help maintain the relationship or make the best out of what we can even though we're breaking down?

  • alwaysremeniceus
    18 years ago

    i just wrote a poem about this if anyone wants to read??

    its dedicated to him :) i think it describes quite a bit of our ups and downs

    "what she wants"

    makes me wonder... we all want something, but does everyone know how to get there? can we all get what we want?

  • alwaysremeniceus
    18 years ago

    thanks :)
    i wish it was really that simple though, once he's done masters he'll probably be working at his dad's company in some really high position? and he kind of wants us to be able to move on? though i'm pretty sure we won't be able to move on for long while, especially if it ends before we get an actual chance...

    he keeps using time zones and everything as excuse, his extra burdens i can understand but, i guess he doesn't know how it might work if it doesnt end? it's not a pretty thought, he's been hurting so much in the past week we hardly talked...

    i'm not really sure how to handle this since whenever something is wrong he kind of withdraws himself for a while, things have been coming at me nonstop, normally he's what keeps me picking myself up again, and continuing to be optimistic? but i guess im not getting up back fast enough, and us not really talking too much except for problems doesn't really help, we're not getting any where...

    i guess its one of those really bad imperfections in our relationship, we're both too stubborn, both too determined, both not really good at communicating with others, both like to blame ourselves for everything... x.x